In love, there is a psychology that often makes people miss while waiting, and it is called "If you don't look for me, I won't look for you". This mentality is very common in romantic relationships, but its harmful effects are often overlooked.
Text: Runqi
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The psychological manifestation of "if you don't look for me, I won't look for you" is usually a passive waiting attitude, unwilling to take the initiative to communicate and solve problems. Some people may think that this psychology is due to high self-esteem or face problems, but in fact, it is more of a sign of immaturity and lack of self-confidence. This state of mind often stems from not paying enough attention to the other person's emotions and needs, or being unwilling to devote time and energy to the other person.
In a relationship, if this kind of psychology exists, then even if the relationship is good, problems may gradually arise due to a lack of active communication and understanding. This attitude may affect the relationship by making the other person feel ignored or not valued. And when the problem accumulates to a certain extent, the relationship may come to an end.
If you or your partner have this mentality, then you need to be aware of its harmfulness and take positive steps to improve it. First of all, learn to take the initiative to communicate and solve problems. When you encounter a problem, don't just wait for the other person to speak first, but take the initiative to find a solution. Second, learn to pay attention to the other person's emotions and needs. In a relationship, always pay attention to the other person's state and feelings, understand the other person's needs and expectations, and try to satisfy the other person as much as possible. Finally, learn to respect and understand each other. In a relationship, everyone has their own thoughts and feelings, so respect each other's opinions and decisions and understand each other's emotions and needs.
In a relationship, active communication, mutual understanding and respect are the cornerstones of a healthy relationship. Only when we can let go of our bodies and take the initiative to find a solution can we truly solve the problem and make the relationship more stable and healthy.
Falling in love is one of the most wonderful journeys in life. During this journey, we sometimes feel joy and excitement, and sometimes we feel pain and confusion. One of the most struggling and confusing questions is: Should we hold on or let go in a relationship?
What we need to understand is that both holding on and letting go are necessary. In a relationship, we sometimes encounter various difficulties and challenges, and at this time we need to stick to our beliefs and principles and not give up easily. Because only by sticking to our bottom line and values can we keep ourselves in love and make the other party respect our choices. However, if the other person is no longer suitable for you, or the relationship has deteriorated, then it is also wise to let go. Because only by letting go can we be freed from pain and start a new life.
Understanding your own needs and what the other person thinks is also key. In a relationship, we need to know exactly what we want, and at the same time, we need to understand the needs and thoughts of the other person. If the needs of both parties are not aligned, then you can consider letting go so that you can better meet your own needs. However, if both parties have the same needs, then it is worth sticking with it. Because only by persevering can we truly realize our dreams and goals in love.
The development of feelings also needs to be considered. If the relationship has reached a bottleneck, or there is no passion and spark for both parties, then letting go is also an option. Because only letting go can we be freed from the predicament and look for new opportunities and possibilities. However, if the relationship is still developing, or if both parties still have a chance to grow together, then it is also beneficial to stick to it. Because only perseverance can allow us to continue to grow and develop in love.
In love, it is necessary to hold on and let go. We need to be clear about our own needs and values, but also understand the needs and ideas of the other person. We need to learn to stick to our beliefs and principles when the right time, and we also need to learn to let go when necessary. Only in this way can we find our own happiness and joy in love.