Family is the first classroom for children's growth, and parents are children's first teachers. The education and influence of parents on children not only involves children's learning, life and emotions, but also profoundly affects children's worldview, outlook on life and values. However, some parents often ignore some role models in the process of educating their children, which brings bad influence to their children.
Previous studies have shown that parents' ways and influences on their children's education are diverse. Some studies have pointed out that there are many misunderstandings in the interaction between parents and children, such as parenting style, parent-child relationship, etc., such as some children think that their parents do not have their own lives, and the focus of life is all on themselves, which will cause great psychological shadows:
They will feel that their existence is the only purpose of their parents' lives, and that they must take it upon themselves, for better or for worse. This psychological shadow prevents these children from truly enjoying the joy and freedom of childhood, but instead feels the weight of pressure and responsibility all the time.
These children often feel unable to live up to their parents' expectations and demands. They believe that they must be flawless to meet their parents' expectations and cannot accept their own imperfections. They are afraid to have their own hobbies for fear that their parents will find it a waste of time instead of focusing on their studies or other more "important" things. It is difficult for them to form real friendships with their peers because they always feel that they need to fight for their parents' face and are unable to show their true nature.
A very large number of children think that their parents do not have their own lives, and that the focus of their parents' lives revolves entirely around them. This perception can lead to anxiety, stress and rebellion, which in turn can affect a child's mental health and academic performance.
These children can also feel unable to truly express their emotions and needs. They are afraid of disappointing their parents and are afraid of being blamed or criticized. As a result, they choose to remain silent and bury their feelings and thoughts deep inside. This self-repressed behavior can lead to inner pain and confusion, a lack of security and self-confidence.
At the same time, these children can also feel lonely and helpless. They believe that their parents are unapproachable by authority, so they do not dare to ask their parents for help even if they encounter problems or difficulties. They are afraid to disturb their parents and to be a burden to them. This feeling of isolation and helplessness makes them even more anxious and depressed, unable to find the right way to solve the problem.
These psychological shadows have a huge negative impact on the growth and development of these children. They lack self-confidence and independence to take the initiative to face challenges and difficulties. They lack confidence in their own abilities and sense of worth, and are susceptible to negative influences and pressures from the outside world. Their mental health can also be seriously threatened, and problems such as anxiety and depression may occur.
Therefore, parents should be aware that they also have their own lives and needs, and should pay attention to their own lives while paying attention to their children, such as establishing their own life circles and hobbies, so that children can see that parents have other pursuits and life content in addition to paying attention to themselves. Let the child realize that he should also pursue the life he wants, and not be morally kidnapped by his parents!