Nowadays, most parents want their children to start a family early, and after the children start a family, it seems that their responsibilities have been completed. The child does not look for a partner, it is all kinds of urging, or all kinds of arrangements for blind dates. Even if the girl makes excessive demands on the bride price, the parents will try to meet it.
A mother in Henan also did this, but who would have thought that her eagerness to start a family for her son had harmed her son, and even more harmed herself, leaving the whole family in a desperate situation.
The mother in Henan has been worried about her son's marriage over the years, and when there is no partner, she is worried that her son has no suitable age to interact with, while urging her son to have some heart, while mobilizing relatives and friends to find a suitable girl for her son.
In order to marry her son to a wife, the mother emptied her family and even borrowed a lot of foreign debts, which was enough for her daughter-in-law's bride price, and the whole wedding set came down 1.1 million.
Originally thinking that his responsibility was completed, when he was waiting to hold his grandson, his son and daughter-in-law divorced three months later because of various conflicts in life, and in a short period of time, the mother experienced great joy and sorrow, and the wealth was empty, which made the woman's heart ache, and even had the idea of suicide.
It took a patchwork to marry his son, but in the end, the money was empty, which brought a huge mental blow to the woman, and at the same time had to bear great economic pressure, and even he and his son became the talk of people after tea, which made the woman regret it.
Usually, you should not urge your son to get married, so that neither party has a good understanding, so they get married in a hurry. Now the divorce has ended. Women believe that they also have an unshirkable responsibility.
It turned out that the woman's son and daughter-in-law were introduced by someone, met through a blind date, and did not know each other for a long time, and hurriedly finalized the marriage, and the big deal ended in divorce in the end, the eldest sister's pain is indeed understandable, but at the same time it also sounded the alarm for others.
Children's marriage, when parents still have to go with the flow, children do not have the will to marry, do not force them to marry, in this era of high divorce rate, single is not necessarily bad, marriage is not necessarily a good thing.
The urging of parents to force marriage can easily disrupt the life planning of children, and even find someone to marry in a hurry in order to cater to their parents' wishes, which lays hidden dangers for future contradictions and even divorce.
For such a thing as marrying a son, you must do what you can, do not climb or compare, only do things within your own economic range, and once something happens, it is also within your own tolerance.
Marriage is not a child's play, even if the children ask to get married as soon as possible, when the parents must persuade them to understand each other thoroughly before entering the marriage, the prerequisite for a long-term marriage is that the husband and wife understand each other, but unfortunately, this mother knows too late!
The high bride price will really discourage many people's desire to have children, and even many people will be glad that they have given birth to a daughter, which will have a profound impact on the demographic structure of society, it is time to say no to the high-priced bride price, I hope this lady will get out of the sadness as soon as possible, after all, life goes on, and you have to continue to prepare for your son's second marriage!
Although I heard that the bride price is relatively high all over the country, is the bride price in Henan so high? Is it a bit outrageous? What do you think about this?
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