Gnawing old age refers to the behavior of some adults who rely on their parents to live and are unwilling to be self-reliant or self-reliant. This behavior has attracted widespread attention and criticism in society, and is considered to be irresponsible, unfilial and immature. However, in recent years, a phenomenon of "new type of gnawing the old" is quietly spreading, which is different from the traditional gnawing old and is more hidden, more persistent and more dangerous. It allows parents to be drained slowly, but they still feel that their children are very filial. What's going on here? Let's take a look at a few real-world examples.
The new type of gnawing refers to the behavior of some adults who appear to have jobs, incomes, education, and abilities on the surface, but in fact rely on their parents' support and help in all aspects, and even ask for their parents' property and resources. These adults often use various reasons and excuses to cover up their old behavior, such as for graduate school, public examination, entrepreneurship, marriage, house purchase, and so on. Not only do they not share the pressure and burden on their parents, but they add financial and psychological burden to their parents. They also did not provide any substantial help and return to their parents, but made them lose their own living space and quality. They also use their parents' love and expectations to make them have high evaluation and expectations for themselves, and even boast of their so-called "achievements" and "filial piety". Such behavior not only harms the interests and rights of parents, but also harms their own growth and development.
There are many new forms of gnawing the old, such as:
Living in or relying on parents to buy or rent a house, not paying rent or paying very little rent, eating in the parents' home or relying on the parents to subsidize living expenses, and not sharing housework or very little housework.
Rely on parents to pay for study or training, constantly enter graduate school or official examinations or change majors or study abroad, etc., delay employment or change jobs or resignation, etc.
Relying on parents to pay for entrepreneurship or investment or financial management, etc., constantly failing or losing money or being deceived and so on.
Relying on parents to pay for marriage or divorce or remarriage, etc., constantly changing partners or making conflicts or demanding the division of family property, etc.
Rely on parents to pay for a car or travel or consumption, etc., and constantly pursue high-end or luxury or fashion, etc.
Reason: The causes and motives of the new type of gnawing the old
There are many causes and motives for new types of gnawing aging, such as:
Social factors. Social competition is fierce, employment is difficult, housing prices are high, prices are rising, and life pressure is high, resulting in some adults losing self-confidence and motivation, unwilling to face reality and challenges, and choosing to escape and depend.
Family factors. Family education is lacking, parents dote, do not cultivate children's sense of responsibility and independence, do not teach children how to manage money and life, and do not establish correct values and outlook on life for children.
Personal factors. Insufficient personal ability, low education, unstable work, low income, failure to accumulate wealth and resources, failure to plan for the future and goals, and lack of control over desires and consumption.
Psychological factors. Psychologically immature, selfish, greedy and greedy, ungrateful and ungrateful who does not know filial piety, does not respect parents, and does not care about the family.
Impact: Hazards and consequences of new gnawing of the old
There are many kinds of hazards and consequences of new gnawing the old, such as:
Harm to parents. Parents are chronically drained, financially damaged and psychologically injured. Parents lost their retirement life and old-age security, as well as their dignity and happiness. Parents are disappointed and desperate for their children, and they also lose confidence and hope in society.
Harm to children. Children are chronically depraved, their abilities are reduced, and their mentality deteriorates. Children have lost their own growth space and development opportunities, as well as their own personality and morality. Children have nothing to do and nothing for themselves, and they have no expectations and no pursuit for the future.
Harm to society. Society is chronically consumed, resources are wasted, and efficiency is reduced. Society has lost a number of useful talents and strength, as well as a group of responsible citizens and groups. Society has done nothing and has not improved this phenomenon, nor has it been anxious and vigilant about it.
Personal opinion: reflections and suggestions for the new type of gnawing the old
The new type of gnawing is a serious social problem that needs our attention and reflection. We should make some suggestions from the following aspects:
For parents, they should adjust their own educational concepts and methods, do not spoil or expect their children too much, give their children appropriate pressure and space, cultivate their children's sense of responsibility and independence, educate their children how to manage their finances and life, and establish correct values and outlook on life for their children. At the same time, parents should also pay attention to their quality of life and old-age security, learn to refuse or reduce funding or help for their children, and learn to protect their interests and rights.
For children, they should adjust their attitude and way of life, do not rely too much on or demand from their parents, and learn to be self-reliant or self-reliant. We must strive to improve our abilities and academic qualifications, actively seek and maintain stable jobs and incomes, rationally plan and manage our wealth and resources, clarify and realize our future and goals, and control and satisfy our desires and consumption. At the same time, children should also be grateful and filial to their parents, give appropriate help and return to their parents, care for and respect their parents' feelings and wishes, and bring happiness and peace of mind to their parents.
For society, we should strengthen the supervision and punishment of the new phenomenon of gnawing the old, and do not condone or encourage this bad social atmosphere. It is necessary to protect the interests and rights of parents through laws, policies, public opinion and other means, to regulate the obligations and responsibilities of children, and to guide the public's concepts and behaviors. It is necessary to improve the quality and ability of children through education, training, employment and other means, increase children's opportunities and choices, and stimulate children's motivation and creativity.
The new type of gnawing is a serious social problem that requires our common attention and reflection. We want all parents to be able to live a happy and comfortable old age, we want all children to be able to live an independent and dignified adult life, and we want all families to be able to live a harmonious and satisfying family life.
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