In the busy and challenging Internet industry, I, Tao Liu, held a senior management position in a well-known company. Although the work is very stressful and often exhausting, the sense of accomplishment is also unparalleled. At the same time, I also have a beautiful and moving wife in my life, Helan. She was my classmate in college, she had delicate skin like a peony, her big eyes shone with intelligence, and her rosy lips were always adoring. I have to admit that a large part of the reason why I chose to enter into marriage with her was attracted by her charming appearance. Although she sometimes shows a little willfulness, I believe that as long as I am good to her, she will repay me in the same way.
Looking back, our love time is like sweet honey, which is endlessly memorable. We are inseparable and spend every day in each other's company, and sweet words are endless. After entering the marriage, Helan chose to become a full-time wife, and she told me that she wanted to take care of me wholeheartedly and be by my side. And I, with a salary of nearly 50,000 a month, am confident enough to provide her with a good life. I have no problem with her choosing to stay at home, as long as she is happy, everything is worth it.
However, as time went by, I gradually noticed that Helan had changed. She gradually lost attention to my work and life, and her own dress and consumption became her only interest. Every month, she spends almost 20,000 on herself, and she is particularly fond of high-end cosmetics, designer clothes and beauty salons. She always said that women must know how to love themselves, and only by remaining beautiful can they continue to attract the attention of their husbands. Although I think her statement is a bit exaggerated, I still choose to support it silently for her happiness, even if it means that my hard-earned money is not much to save.
During the National Day, Helan's mother's family came to Shanghai for a tour, and in order to let them see how good they were doing, she did not hesitate to book a five-star hotel room for them, and took them to visit Shanghai's major attractions and taste various delicacies. Although I was a little unhappy in my heart, I could only choose to bear it silently in the face of my elders. In just seven days, I spent more than 60,000 yuan, and even when they left, Helan asked me to buy a ticket for their whole family. And when I offered to let her go home to spend time with her family, she was pleasantly surprised to accept my suggestion and highly praised my thoughtfulness.
However, just three days later, Helan called me and asked me to transfer 200,000 yuan to her. I was stunned for a moment, and a sense of foreboding welled up in my heart. When she told me that her brother was about to get married and needed 200,000 yuan as a bride price, I couldn't suppress my anger anymore. I asked her why her brother's marriage was related to me, why the amount of the bride price was so high, and why her family was so righteously demanding it from me. Helan made me even more angry with her answer, she told me that she gave up her career and dreams, worked hard at home every day, endured the loneliness that I couldn't accompany her due to busy work, and now, she just wants her family to have a better life and a decent wedding for her brother. If I'm not willing to give that money, it means I don't love her, I don't respect her, I don't understand her.
Listening to my wife's cries and accusations on the other end of the phone, an unspeakable pain welled up in my heart. This woman, the woman I once loved dearly, now makes me feel strange and disappointed. She was no longer the sweet and gentle Helan, but a greedy, willful stranger. My kindness to her, my dedication, my love, did she really feel a moment? Her family, what do they contribute to me? Why do I have to give so much for them? I realized that such a marriage, such a relationship, had become deformed and distorted. I need to make a choice, even if it's going to be the hardest decision of my life. I need to think clearly about what I really want, my marriage, my future, how it should continue. I am no longer willing to blindly give everything I have for an ethereal love. I am responsible for myself, for my future.
Marriage should be a journey for two people to support each other and grow together. But if only one party is giving and the other is only taking in this process, then what is the point of such a marriage? I no longer want to be kidnapped in such a relationship, I need to find myself, my love of life and my vision for the future.
This article made me think for a long time. First of all, I understand the author's dilemma of high-pressure work in the Internet industry, and the sense of accomplishment brought by work is indeed incomparable. But as the marriage went, the change of wife made me sigh. She gave up her career to become a full-time wife, a choice she made, but the consumption habits that followed were touching. There is nothing wrong with supporting his wife's pursuit of beauty, but the huge investment in money seems to have gone beyond the realm of reason. It reminds me of the importance of mutual understanding and support in marriage, and how to maintain balance.
Secondly, the story during the National Day made me a little sad. In order to show off the richness of life, the wife spent a lot of money to arrange a grand tour, which seemed too extravagant. Although unhappy in his heart, for the sake of face and family harmony, the author chose to bear it silently. This got me thinking about the importance of compromise and understanding in marriage. In the family, there will inevitably be disagreements, but how to solve them properly is the key.
Finally, I was deeply shocked by my wife's demand for a bride price. This practice of demanding a huge bride price from the husband is not only difficult to accept, but also sad and helpless. Mutual respect and understanding in marriage should be foundation, not an unfair deal of taking and sacrificing. The author eventually realizes that such a relationship has become deformed and bravely chooses to take responsibility for himself. It got me thinking about the importance of balance and self-worth in marriage.
Overall, this article made me realize the importance of mutual understanding, support, and respect in marriage. Only on the basis of equal giving and understanding to each other can marriage go more firmly and durable. At the same time, cherish your own happiness and value, and don't turn marriage into an unfair deal. In life, we should bravely pursue our own happiness in order to truly find our own happy home.