A 14-year-old boy who drank paraquat by mistake was afraid to tell his parents for two days, from his mouth to his stomach, and his heart hurt!
On October 19, according to Urban Channel, on October 16, in Xinxiang, Henan Province, "I was thirsty in the early morning and in a state of confusion (bottom) and touched a bottle of liquid on the windowsill", which is how Lele, a 14-year-old boy, accidentally drank a sip of paraquat.
Imagine this boy, what kind of fear does he have for his parents, endure nausea, burning throat, let paraquat corrode from his mouth to his stomach, and dare not tell his parents?
Paraquat has a high lethal rate, and the scary thing about it is that it gives you time to regret it, but doesn't give you a chance to regret it.
Hopefully, the boy saved his life because he only took a sip, otherwise, his parents would regret it for the rest of his life.
Everyone sees that this 14-year-old child is afraid of his parents, so why is he afraid of his parents?
Professionally speaking, it depends on the parenting style of his parents.
Some researchers formed 4 different parenting styles according to whether parents responded to the two dimensions of caring for their children and whether they had requirements/education/control over their children.
As can be seen from the left side of the axis in the figure below, in the response dimension, if parents cannot respond to their children well, the emotions of children and parents are very estranged, and they cannot feel the love of their parents.
In particular, parents who are strict with their children & have low response care may cultivate children who are introverted, become very obedient, lack autonomy and self-confidence, because of the lack of smooth communication, children often take punishment when they have problems, children will have emotional depression and fear, and boys may show more hostility when treating their parents.
Parents who have no requirements & low response care for their children raise children who are more emotionally chaotic, they cannot feel the love of their parents, they cannot express love, and their physical and cognitive development will also be affected.
Seeing this, everyone must be able to get that there are two aspects indispensable in the matter of raising children, otherwise the child's growth and parent-child relationship will encounter various problems.
1. Love: that is, responding to take care of children, no matter what age the child is, parents and children can communicate smoothly;
2. Education: Parents formulate clear and consistent education rules, let children know the boundaries of their behavior, when the behavior does not meet the rules, can also know how to do is the best, so that children can have autonomy, can be well self-management.
Love is the background, even if children encounter problems in the process of growth, because of the love of parents, children can confidently find a way to move forward in life by virtue of communication channels with parents.
Recall that although my children have a lot of pressure to study, fortunately, there is this pathway, which allows children to share the happy and troubled things they encounter with us at any time.
I've shared a great way to communicate between parents and children: a ten-minute bedtime sleep-down meeting.
During this bedtime meeting, parents and children each say 3 happy things and 1 unhappy thing, and explain what the reason for happiness or happiness is.
It can help us understand the child's daily status, the problems encountered, and provide your child with your closest support through the process of expressing and sharing.
Life is short and not easy, and I hope that every parent will become a chat partner with each other in the life journey with their children.