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My name is Ali, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Li Jian for 5 years. My mother-in-law is a typical traditional mother-in-law, very attentive to me and Li Jian, always nagging, but it does help me in many things.
Since I had a baby, I quit my job to focus on being at home with my husband and children. Li Jian travels more and more frequently, and it is becoming more and more difficult for me to take care of my children alone. My mother-in-law saw that I couldn't keep busy, so she moved to my house to help me take care of the children, and I was also grateful to my mother-in-law for her kindness.
The other day, I went to the kindergarten as usual to pick up the children and go home. When I opened the door, I saw that the house was empty and my mother-in-law was not there. This is strange, because according to the agreement, when I go to pick up the children, my mother-in-law should be at home to take care of the children. I called my mother-in-law several times, but she didn't answer.
An inexplicable feeling of uneasiness arose in my heart, and I decided to go to my mother-in-law. I searched around the community first, but I didn't see my mother-in-law. I was about to call the police, but suddenly saw my mother-in-law come in from the gate of the community, followed by a strange middle-aged man.
I quickly hid behind the wall and secretly observed them. The man was carrying a shopping bag that seemed to contain clothes, and the two were chatting happily and smiling. I thought to myself, who is this man? Why is it with my mother-in-law?
The two walked into a café and chose a seat in the middle. The waiter stepped forward to order, and the two ordered two cups of coffee and a cheesecake. I found an unobtrusive seat to sit, put on my hat and mask, and pretended to be looking at the menu.
"Brother Kai, how do you look at this outfit?" The mother-in-law smiled and took out a dark blue dress from the bag.
The man named Kai Ge praised: "It's very colorful, this color is so beautiful!"
"Then I'll try it later, you can make a sample for me!" The mother-in-law quipped.
When I heard this, I jerked my head up and looked at them in disbelief. The mother-in-law actually went on a date with a man outside to buy clothes! And the tone of the two is so intimate, it is not at all like the first time they met.
My brain was a mess and my emotions were mixed. On the one hand, I know intellectually that I should not jump to conclusions, my mother-in-law may be partying with old friends or something; On the other hand, my intuition told me that my mother-in-law's smile was definitely not simple, and there must be some medicine sold in the gourd between her and this man.
Just as I was thinking about it, the man named Kai Ge got up and went to the bathroom. I saw the moment and quickly moved next to where he was sitting, pretending to be a customer who had just arrived.
The mother-in-law sat there alone drinking coffee, her face still a little red. I cleared my throat and pretended to be a stranger and asked, "Auntie, what is the signature dish of this restaurant?"
My mother-in-law looked up at me and smiled slightly: "I like the blueberry cheesecake here the most, do you want to try it?"
I deliberately praised: "Oh, if Auntie recommends it, I must give it a try!"
As if she was happy to have someone to talk to, her mother-in-law said with a smile: "I always come here with friends every week, and the food here really hasn't disappointed me."
I pretended to be curious and asked, "Is Auntie coming on a date with her boyfriend?" I just saw how my aunt was chatting happily with the gentleman. ”
The mother-in-law blushed and said, "It's not a boyfriend, it's just a good friend." His son was still alone, and he said that he would introduce me to his daughter-in-law. ”
I almost didn't hold back my cursing, but fortunately I stopped my temper in time. It turns out that my mother-in-law hit this idea, and she has completely treated me as an outsider!
Just then, Kai Ge returned. I quickly made an excuse to leave, for fear of being recognized by my mother-in-law. I stumbled out of the café, tears already welling up in my eyes. I called my husband Li Jian, and my voice trembled: "Husband, you go home quickly, something happened..."
Li Jian heard something wrong in my voice, and comforted me with a few words, saying that he immediately booked a ticket home. I hung up, my heart in a state of confusion. The scene I just witnessed kept playing back in my mind, and I couldn't wait to find a place to get in.
When I got home, I went to pick up the child with red eyes and forced myself not to cry on the spot. The thought of my mother-in-law actually doing such a shady business behind our backs made my body tremble with anger.
In the evening, my mother-in-law came back to eat casually, and asked me with a smile: "Ali, did you go to the kindergarten to pick up the baby today?" Everything went well, right?"
I barely squeezed a smile out of my face and said, "Well, that's all good." My mother-in-law obviously didn't see my abnormality and ate her own food.
After dinner, my mother-in-law went to the living room to watch TV as usual. I called Li Jian and told him everything that happened today. Li Jian was also shocked, but he advised me not to worry, but to see how my mother-in-law explained.
Two days later, Li Jian went home. He talked to his mother-in-law alone, and her mother-in-law admitted nothing, only that she went out to party with old friends. Li Jian was also not easy to force, so he could only give up.
I saw that my mother-in-law still looked righteous, and my heart became more and more annoyed. I can't forgive her for pretending to be a good wife and mother in front of us, but secretly dating men behind her back.
In this way, after more than a week, the mother-in-law's usual weekly "fixed party" continued. Finally, one day, she was ready to go out as usual, and I couldn't help but scolded angrily: "You're going to see your brother Kai again, right?" What to load!"
The mother-in-law's face turned pale, and she trembled and said, "Ali, what are you talking about?" Where can I have those things?"
I directly shook out everything my mother-in-law saw and heard in the café, and my mother-in-law's face was bloodless, and only then did I finally admit the fact.
The mother-in-law finally faced reality and confessed everything. It turned out that she and Lu Kai met many years ago, and the two became ambiguous objects, but they did not get together in the end. Now that they are reunited, the relationship between the two has rekindled, so they secretly continue to communicate behind my back.
When I listened, I was furious. I asked my mother-in-law, didn't you always teach me to be faithful to my family? It's really weird to do this kind of derailment now.
The mother-in-law also had red eyes and explained in a trembling voice that her relationship with my husband's father had long faded, and she was also a human being, with her own needs, and I hoped that I could be considerate.
I sneered and asked, as a mother, how could she put the interests of the whole family at risk for her own selfish desires? I am absolutely unforgivable for her selfish behavior.
Just when our mother and daughter were arguing fiercely, Li Jian returned. As soon as he entered the door, he felt the tense atmosphere in the room, and immediately realized that something was wrong.
When her mother-in-law saw Li Jian, she desperately explained that it was all a misunderstanding, and she had her own social needs as a woman, hoping that Li Jian could understand. I watched coldly, saying that with me, it was impossible to easily fool the past.
Li Jian wisely did not directly express his position, but asked his mother-in-law to go back to the room to be quiet, and he took me outside to talk. Li Jian advised me to deal with this matter calmly, and excessive confrontation will only worsen the problem. I reluctantly accepted his suggestion, but the anger was still raging.
In the following week, I was very cold towards my mother-in-law and only spoke to her if necessary communication. The mother-in-law also seemed to realize her mistake and did not bring up the incident again to defend herself.
Until one day, my mother-in-law suddenly said to me that she asked Lu Kai to call her son and wanted to introduce him to me. I was so angry that I slammed the door. Did the mother-in-law forget her cheating behavior? Now I want to push me to another man, it's really shameless!
In this way, a few days later, the son of Lu Kai named Xiaolong really came to visit. I resisted seeing him at first, but my mother-in-law was soft and hard, and I reluctantly agreed.
On the day of the meeting, I packed myself up in advance and put on the most beautiful clothes. Although I am still very angry with my mother-in-law in my heart, I really haven't met a new person for a long time.
The doorbell rang, and the mother-in-law greeted her with a smile. Behind her was a tall, handsome young man, who I guessed was Xiaolong.
Xiaolong greeted me politely, and his gentle voice and smile made my heart beat. Everyone had a good chat, and I found that Xiaolong was not only handsome, but also humorous.
After that day, Xiaolong began to ask me out to dinner, shopping, and watching movies often. Gradually, feelings developed between us. One day, Xiaolong finally plucked up the courage to confess to me.
I knew that this was the arrangement of my mother-in-law and Lu Kai, but in the face of Xiaolong's eager gaze, I still nodded. After we were together, I found that Xiaolong was the perfect boyfriend. He was romantic and considerate, took great care of me, and I was immersed in this forbidden love.
However, my secret relationship with Xiaolong was discovered by Li Jian. He was furious, yelling at me for divorce. I cried and knelt and begged, but Li Jian had completely lost trust in me.
The mother-in-law saw all this and sighed. She confessed that this was actually a farce that she had orchestrated. She had long seen that there was a problem with my relationship with Li Jian, so she deliberately arranged for me to meet Xiaolong and forced me to take the initiative to choose divorce.
I was stunned, all this turned out to be a game planned by my mother-in-law! My innocent love with Xiaolong is just a pretense designed by her. Although the process was difficult, the result was indeed as she wanted. Li Jian and I divorced, and I started my life again.
My mother-in-law's plan was fulfilled, and Li Jian and I divorced, but this did not make me feel easy. Instead, there is an anger that is used by the mother-in-law.
I asked my mother-in-law, why did she destroy my marriage in such an extreme way? How could she manipulate the feelings between me and Li Jian? Her actions have already hurt me badly.
The mother-in-law calmly explained that as a mother, she has the responsibility to guide her children to find happiness. She has long seen that Li Jian and I have incompatible personalities, and the only basis for the maintenance of marriage is my obedience that has nothing to say.
My mother-in-law said that she let me discover Li Jian's infidelity because she wanted me to wake up to how fragile my marriage was. If I was still immersed in an unhappy relationship, she would blame herself all the time.
After I listened, it was still difficult to completely let go. But time slowly diluted my resentment, allowing me to gradually understand my mother-in-law's good intentions. Perhaps the means she chose were extreme, but the purpose was to hope that I would have a better life.
So under the repeated persuasion of my mother-in-law, I finally agreed to continue to develop with Xiaolong. He's a caring guy and I do have a lot of fun with him. Maybe that's the happiness my mother-in-law wants me to have.
The mother-in-law also ended the ambiguous relationship with Lu Kai, saying that she was just lonely for a while, not sincere. I think my mother-in-law actually longs for the understanding and forgiveness of her family.
After all this, my relationship with my mother-in-law has become closer. We became friends who could talk to each other, which helped me a lot. I no longer simply see my mother-in-law as an elder, but listen to her heart and understand her anxieties and needs.
On the road of life, it is impossible to have smooth sailing. But with families understanding and supporting each other, everything will be easier. Maybe this is what my mother-in-law wants me to learn in life.