In the eyes of the ancients, "lewdness" not only refers to lustfulness or abnormal relationships, but also contains the meaning of presumptuousness and greed. Therefore, in social interactions, we should have our own proportions and avoid associating with some "adulterous people" so as not to be affected by their evil deeds. First of all, people who are secretive often hide their unseen side. Although some people like to tell pornographic jokes, such speech is often disgusting and often obscures the atmosphere. Therefore, we usually position people who tell pornographic jokes as "adulterous" people. However, such people often just have a bad mouth, not necessarily a bad heart, but seem that the city is not deep enough. People who really do dirty things will not tell others publicly, and even their own families will hide it. In "Water Margin", Pan Jinlian is a covert person. She is married to Wu Dalang, but secretly likes Wu Song. In order to maintain her personal relationship, she cooperated with Ximen Qing to kill Wu Da Lang, and pretended to be distressed by Wu Da Lang's death. This kind of cover-up behavior makes people wary. Similarly, Ximen Qing was trying his best to hide his evil deeds, and he ordered the people around him to cover Wu Dalang's body. This use of wisdom is manifested in the wise, but it is also manifested in the wicked.
Second, those with impure social motives tend to do things out of character and harm society. Have we ever seen someone who dresses up carefully before socializing and tries to be charming? At parties, they say enchanting things in the hope of socializing to achieve a certain goal. The motivation for this is very obvious. Even for simple acts such as toasting, they are especially keen to toast to the rich and powerful, because they feel that it can be placed under a tree. In "Yu Shi Mingyan", there is a man named Chen Dalang, who traveled south and north to do business, made a lot of money, and also had a wife and children. One day, he saw a beautiful woman named Sanqiaoer on the street. After some inquiring, he found that Sanqiaoer was married. Although the situation was clear, he did not die, recruited a matchmaker, bought Sanqiaoer with a few taels of silver, and even in order to let Sanqiao'er continue to care for him, he also opened Song Jiang's letters and found evidence of Song Jiang's interaction with Liangshan people. Through a variety of means, Chen Dalang eventually destroyed Sanqiaoer's marriage. This kind of utilitarian socialization is terrible. Therefore, when we participate in a party or dinner, we should be more vigilant, observe the other party's dress and whether there is bribery, and do not shout casually.
Because "eating people's mouths is short, taking people short", if we do not refuse unjust enrichment, we will break social rules, violate public order and good customs, and even violate the bottom line of the law. Third, people who indulge themselves too much tend to be insatiable and constantly seek benefits. People who indulge themselves cause their desires to expand infinitely, and the good days will follow. Such people tend to do everything they can to get good out of your life, and the means are unscrupulous. Song Jiang is an example. At first, he was a kind and charitable person, but since meeting Yan Poxi, his life has changed dramatically. Yan Poxi was originally a singer and had a very hard life. After marrying Song Jiang, her standard of living improved and her family was taken care of. However, these are not enough for Yan Poxi, who also wants to continue to rely on Song Jiang by developing a relationship with Zhang Wenyuan. In order to achieve this goal, she even opened Song Jiang's letters and found evidence of Song Jiang's relationship with Liangshan people. Through repeated coercion and inducement, she finally got the silver, and Song Jiang no longer pursued her betrayal of the marriage. However, Yan Po's coercion made Song Jiang have the idea of murdering her. Those who indulge themselves are doomed to no good ending.
Indulging in the pursuit of money, love, and pleasure can hurt you, and associating with such people will make you a victim. In short, the ancients said: "Therefore, it is better to report evil than to be ugly." The heavenly punishment is strange, and the heavenly punishment is all kinds of things. He gave a warning to the "adultererer." A person who indulges himself will only destroy himself, there will be no good ending. The joy of a moment and a half does not prove the perfection of life, nor does it prove that you are superior. We should have long-term plans, live our lives just right, and leave happiness in old age. It is normal to like someone, see handsome guys and beautiful women, and like to spend money, as long as it can lead to marriage and rich families within a reasonable scale. We must always reflect on ourselves, avoid over-indulgence, insist on being a pure person, treat others cleanly, and do not hide dirt. Otherwise, we will face the consequences of evil and regret it.