Oral description: Li Li Editor: Coco Xiaozhe
My name is Li Li, 38 years old this year, I am the eldest in the family, I also have a younger brother and sister, since childhood parents have always been more partial to the younger brother, this I have always known, because my mother and grandmother always instilled in me all the thoughts of thinking about my brother, so from childhood to adulthood I dare not rob things with my brother, every time only when my brother is tired of playing I dare to go over and touch it, the work at home does not dare to refuse, and I have always been driven to the field by my parents to work as soon as school is over.
Although the family situation I can't choose, but I haven't forgotten to study, life is a little harder, every exam I can rank in the top five of the school, after graduating from junior high school, my dad wants me to go out to work to subsidize the family, I was the second in the county at that time, I was the second in the county at that time, and I could go to a county key high school to continue studying, but my dad felt that it was better to study more than to go out early to work to subsidize the family, I made a long fuss, my eyes were swollen with tears, and finally my mother was soft hearted and let me continue to study.
During the three years of high school, my parents asked me to go back to farm work every time on weekends, and every time I refused my parents on the grounds that I was busy with study or school make-up classes, I refused to go back not only because I didn't want to do farm work, but also because my brother was only one year younger than me, because he didn't study well to study in the county not far from home, and his figure was much taller than me, but he never asked my brother to do it, in my impression, my brother has always been the kind that the whole family holds in the palm of his hand, and he has never seen anything done for the family, Even if the chopsticks fall off, they will not be picked up.
In order to escape the urging of my parents to go back to farm work, I chose a school 1,000 kilometers away from home after the college entrance examination, and my father roared when he found out: "What is the use of reading so many books, it is better to work early for your brother to marry his daughter-in-law." "I asked my mom again, but this time my mom didn't dare to look me in the eye, maybe she also acquiesced that my dad was right.
Helplessly, I could only force myself and said, "I am responsible for my tuition fees, and I don't need you to pay a penny." After hearing this, my dad had to agree to allow me to continue my college studies.
After graduating from university, I found a stable job in the city where I studied, and I met my current husband, who is just an ordinary family of faculty and staff, and the family situation is better for me, but my husband has never disliked my family.
When I got married, my father asked for a bride price that was twice as high as the local area, and the dowry only symbolically gave a few quilts that did not look so high-end, for which I always felt sorry for my in-laws, although the in-laws had quite complaints, but with the support of my husband, my in-laws were still very good to me, and our family was very happy.
Two years after getting married, my mother suddenly called me to tell me to go back, saying that there was something to discuss with me, and I wondered if there was anything I couldn't say on the phone? My mother said that she had to go back, and in desperation, I could only ask for leave from my work unit to go back to my mother's house.
After going back, my father directly asked me for 100,000 yuan, because my brother had a girlfriend, the family wanted to renovate the house, as the eldest of the family I should pay this money, I don't know where this should start, just because I was born first, so everything in the family should be borne by me.
I asked my parents if the bride price was enough to renovate and why they needed 100,000 yuan, and my father said that it was the bride price money left for my brother and could not be moved. My younger brother has not been doing his job every day for many years, changing two or three jobs a month, he has no savings at all, and even needs his parents to support him, and he can't count on it, so he can only hit my head with the idea.
Two years ago, because my parents did not give a gift and dowry, I have been desperately making up for it for the past two years, and my monthly salary is not high, I have not saved any money at all, and naturally it is impossible to take out 100,000 yuan.
My parents said that I still refused to take out 100,000 yuan, so they threatened me and said that I would go to my in-laws' house to make trouble, but I could only say that I would give 50,000 first, and the rest would be given slowly, and my parents agreed not to go to my in-laws' house to make trouble.
I transferred 50,000 to my parents, my parents immediately showed a smile, I said to my parents expressionlessly, the house at home has been renovated, will there be a share in the future after all, I paid for it, my parents took the money and said happily, of course, this family will always have your share.
I didn't expect my parents to agree to keep me a copy, because I was ready for this family to be my brother in the future, maybe my parents agreed to it in the face of money, and I can only comfort myself so much.
Time was fast, ten years passed in the blink of an eye, and the vicinity of my mother's house was expropriated and said that it would be developed as an industrial park, and my mother's family was also within the scope of planning, and my mother's family should be able to divide more than 900,000 yuan according to the area.
After I learned the news, I waited for the levy to be paid, and my parents could inform me, because my parents said that this family had my share, and my mother's family was still renovated by me, and it should have my share.
But it wasn't until people in the same village told me that the levy had been disbursed half a month ago that I realized something was wrong, and quickly called my parents to inquire, at first my parents said that they forgot to inform me, and then said to wait to discuss with my brother, and then said that it was not easy for my brother's two children, and my brother and sister-in-law did not have serious jobs, so let me not fight with them.
I immediately became angry and asked my mother: "What tell me not to fight with my brother, when I gave money for renovation, you told my father that this family has my share, and now I rob it?" I don't want more, I just want to go back to the 100,000 yuan you said to you back then, and I don't want a single more point. ”
My dad grabbed the phone and said to me: "What has your share, this family is your brother's, don't you pay 100,000 yuan, just honor me and your mother all these years, it's not easy to raise you for so many years, you don't think about fighting with your brother, you are a married daughter, how can there be a reason to go back to your mother's house to share money." ”
My father's words made me instantly sober and chilled, obviously I paid the most for this family, paid the most money, and I took the most care of when I was sick, I have never complained too much over the years, just because they are my parents, I didn't expect that in the end these are just what I should do, and their baby son can enjoy everything I worked hard to do nothing, and finally found that I was the outsider, and I didn't even have the qualifications to ask for my own share.
Since this incident, I will no longer think about them as before, after all, in their eyes I am just an outsider who robbed property with them, since my brother is so precious and everything is given to him, then my parents' future life is my brother's responsibility, I will honestly be an outsider.
Do you think I'm doing the right thing?