My name is Lin Xiaohua, I am 28 years old and have been married for 5 years. My husband's name is Zhang Qiang, 3 years older than me, an ordinary office worker, gentle and steady, very good to me.
My relationship with my mother-in-law has not been very good, she often feels that I am not careful and thoughtful, and often picks my faults.
And when I cook, I often boil the dishes or burn paste, and my mother-in-law will count my poor craftsmanship. In fact, I am also afraid of my mother-in-law in my heart, and I often become very nervous because of her words.
Just yesterday, there was another dispute. That day, I went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables as usual, but when I came back, I was made a fuss by a salesman at the entrance of the community, and I lost track of the time, and the meal was made late.
"It's so unbelievable, it's all this, why haven't I seen you guys preparing dinner?" Do you want me, an old man, to do it myself? The mother-in-law began to complain when she saw Zhang Qiang.
Zhang Qiang quickly explained: "Mom, don't be angry, it's Xiaohua who came back late from grocery shopping, don't worry, I'll go and help make rice."
The mother-in-law was even more dissatisfied when she heard this: "Can I buy vegetables at this time?" It's clear that I'm wandering outside! Don't put me as an old man in my eyes! ”
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, I was very blocked and aggrieved in my heart, but I didn't dare to talk back to her, so I could only go to the kitchen with Zhang Qiang to take advantage of my mother-in-law's lack of attention to quickly go to the kitchen to stir-fry.
The two of us hurriedly prepared a few simple dishes to hurry, and my mother-in-law looked at us with a dissatisfied expression, but did not say anything, just glared at me fiercely, and then ate silently herself.
After dinner, my mother-in-law didn't talk to us and went straight back to the room to rest. Zhang Qiang and I looked at each other, and we both felt that the atmosphere was very embarrassing.
"Alas, just now my mother's temper really came up, don't go to your heart." Zhang Qiang looked at me with a depressed look and comforted.
"It's all my bad, I'm late to buy vegetables, I'm sorry..." I have some.
"I can't blame you all, I can understand. It's just that mom is old and straight, so we have more burdens. Zhang Qiang held my hand and said.
I nodded, "Then I'll go and apologize to my mother-in-law, so that she doesn't keep it in her heart." ”
"It's fine, but don't talk back to your mother." Zhang Qiang instructed.
I came to my mother-in-law's bedroom door and knocked lightly: "Mother-in-law, can I come in and have a word with you?" ”
Inside came the mother-in-law's voice: "Come in." ”
I opened the door and my mother-in-law was sitting on the edge of the bed, her face not good-looking. I walked over and sat next to her, hesitated for a moment but decided to speak: "Mother-in-law, I'm sorry, it's late for dinner today, it's my bad, I will pay attention to the time in the future."
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, her face softened a little, but she still looked resentful, and she said: "I know that I am to blame for my straight nature, or you would have moved out long ago, and you would have cared about me as an old man."
I busily explained: "Mother-in-law, why do you say that, how good it is for us to live together as a family." It's that I really don't care enough about you sometimes, it's all my responsibility, don't think so.
"Oh, you, I don't expect you to be filial to me." The mother-in-law snorted coldly.
I heard that there was resentment in her words, but it was not good to refute her face directly, so I could only persuade her softly: "Mother-in-law, don't be angry, it's not good for me to eat late, don't be angry with Zhang Qiang, he is also for the good of the family."
"You still disciplined me?" My mother-in-law gave me a blank look, "I blame you for your concern, then I am really blind!" ”
"Mother-in-law, I didn't mean that, you just think I'm talking nonsense." I quickly bowed my head and admitted my mistake, "I just wanted to apologize to you and make you happy."
The mother-in-law eased down at this time, and she sighed: "Forget it, I owe this old woman's mouth, and I am not too embarrassed by you young people."
I listened to my mother-in-law's words with a twisting meaning, and hurriedly nodded: "I know my mother-in-law, I will definitely take care of you more carefully."
"Okay, okay, you go to bed early." The mother-in-law waved her hand, turned away and stopped talking.
I walked out of my mother-in-law's room lightly, closed the door and exhaled a long breath. Zhang Qiang was still waiting in the living room, and when he saw me come out, he quickly asked: "How is it, is Mom still angry?" ”。
"She has already lost her breath, I also apologized to her, and she finally said that let our family take care of it and so on, which is a circle."
"That's good, I know mom's temper, don't go to your heart." Zhang Qiang patted me on the shoulder.
"I'm fine, maybe I'm not careful enough with my mother-in-law." I said with a sigh.
"In the future, we will all bear more burdens with our mother-in-law and get along with her patiently." Zhang Qiang said seriously.
"Well, I know, we must make my mother-in-law happy in her old age." I also nodded heavily.
For the next few days, I tried to stress my mother-in-law's living and eating, for fear of upsetting her again. My mother-in-law probably also seemed to have improved her attitude towards me because of my apology that day, and did not pick on me as much as before.
Just then, something big happened suddenly. One evening, Zhang Qiang worked overtime and returned home late. As soon as he entered the door, my mother-in-law began to blame him for being unfilial and saying that he had left me alone at home all day.
Zhang Qiang is in a dilemma, he still has to work tomorrow, it is really inconvenient to live with his mother-in-law. Finally, he said to me helplessly: "Wife, I can only stay at my mother's side tonight, you can clean up and sleep alone, don't wait for me."
I was anxious in my heart, but there was no way to face the commanding mother-in-law. I saw my mother-in-law proudly pulling Zhang Qiang to her room, and locked the door in front of me, and there was a faint sound of talking inside.
I was very upset and went back to my room alone. The mother-in-law looked like this, and it was clear that she wanted to target me and Zhang Qiang.
More than an hour later, Zhang Qiang suddenly knocked on my door and said to me in a panic: "Wife, I have to send my mother to the hospital quickly!" She had just suddenly fainted, the situation did not look good, I had already called an ambulance! ”
I was startled and quickly followed Zhang Qiang into the ambulance, and my mother-in-law had lost consciousness. We were both anxious outside the operating room, and I couldn't stop crying.
My mother-in-law woke up quickly, and we accompanied her back to the ward. When she saw me, she showed a little concern for the first time, and she whispered to me: "Child, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have embarrassed you."
I quickly held my mother-in-law's hand, choked and said, "Mom, it's great that you're awake!" We are all super worried about you! ”
"I'll be kind to you guys in the future and won't talk nonsense anymore." The mother-in-law seemed to have made up her mind.
Zhang Qiang and I suddenly felt that the previous grievances were swept away, and my mother-in-law finally changed her attitude towards us!
After a few days, my mother-in-law's illness also improved a lot, and the doctor said that she could prepare for discharge. On this day, Zhang Qiang and I drove to the hospital to pick up my mother-in-law home, and she was very happy along the way, no longer complaining like before.
Back at home, the mother-in-law looked at everything familiar in the room, and tears welled up in her eyes: "Thank you for taking care of me these days, I really am."
It's so bad.
"Mom, don't say that, the most important thing for a family is to understand each other, right?" I was busy comforting my mother-in-law.
"In the future, I will treat you better, I will often talk and laugh, and I will no longer be fierce." The mother-in-law seemed to have made up her mind.
Zhang Qiang and I were very moved to hear it, and it seems that my mother-in-law's death line really made her re-examine our relationship.
In this way, our family of three started a new life. My mother-in-law no longer complains about our filial piety, but often talks to us with a smile and cares for us like her own children.
The original-for-tat home has become a harmonious appearance.
However, after such a beautiful life went on for a while, an unexpected event broke our happy life.
On a sunny weekend, I was in the kitchen preparing my mother-in-law's favorite snacks and soups.
Just as I was busy, the doorbell suddenly rang. When I opened the door, it was my mother-in-law's old neighbor aunt who had arrived.
"Xiaoling, where is your mother-in-law? I made her favorite cake to see her. The aunt said with a smile.
"My mother-in-law is resting in the house, so I'll call her over." I hurriedly asked my aunt to come into the house and sit down, and then went to wake up my mother-in-law.
"Mother-in-law, wake up, one has come to see you." I gently woke my mother-in-law who was napping.
My mother-in-law woke up sleepily, I helped her to the living room, she saw the old neighbor's aunt, and immediately smiled: "Oh, Aying, why do you have time to come to see me?" ”
"Let's see how you're doing." Last time I heard that you were very ill, I was worried. The aunt said with concern.
The mother-in-law said happily: "It's all good, it's my daughter-in-law and son who take good care of it, and now I'm in good spirits!" ”
When I heard my mother-in-law praise me like this, my heart was warm, and I was busy serving tea to entertain my aunt. The three of them had a great chat.
At this moment, my mother-in-law's mobile phone suddenly rang. She glanced at the caller ID, her expression became a little unnatural, but she picked up the phone anyway.
"Hey, little uncle. I've been discharged from the hospital and I'll stay with you in a few days. They treat me badly, I can't stand it! The mother-in-law's voice changed from low to loud, and the last few words were shouted directly into the microphone.
I was stunned, it turned out that my mother-in-law called her little uncle, and she actually said that she was going to move to her little uncle's house, saying that we were not good to her!
My mother-in-law hung up the phone and said to us with a straight face: "I decided to move to my son's house!" This son and daughter-in-law of yours simply bullied me, and I was sick! ”
Zhang Qiang and I looked at each other, and we couldn't figure out why my mother-in-law suddenly turned her face and didn't recognize people. We have obviously been filial and take care of her during this time, why is it still such a strong attitude? .
The mother-in-law began to pack her luggage, and it seemed that she was determined to leave. I felt very uncomfortable, but I couldn't help it in the face of my stubborn mother-in-law, I could only watch her leave.
After sending my mother-in-law away, I discussed this matter with Zhang Qiang. We wondered about the change in our mother-in-law's attitude, but there was no way to force an old man to stay around.
Sure enough, my mother-in-law quickly packed her bags and moved to my little brother-in-law's house. I called my little uncle and told him to take good care of his mother-in-law.
After my mother-in-law left, Zhang Qiang's life and I seemed to be easier. But after a while, I still can't help but miss my mother-in-law.
Now that I think about it, my mother-in-law's nurturing grace to me is extraordinary.
"Perhaps, I should not be a stranger to my mother-in-law, but learn to tolerate her and repair the relationship." I told Zhang Qiang what I thought.
Zhang Qiang comforted me: "Don't blame yourself too much. My mother-in-law is old and infirm, and her temperament is difficult to change, and it is really difficult for us to control.
With Zhang Qiang's support, I plucked up the courage to call my mother-in-law and tentatively asked her how she was doing. My mother-in-law didn't hang up on my phone, which is a good sign.
Although my mother-in-law didn't say much, she didn't drive me away directly.
After some time, at my little brother-in-law's house, a class reunion was held. I saw this as an opportunity to reconnect with my mother-in-law.
When I saw my mother-in-law, I took the initiative to step forward and hug her: "Mom, it's been a long time, are you okay?" ”
The mother-in-law nodded, looking a little unnatural. I knew she was still not used to my closeness. But I didn't give up, continued to greet my mother-in-law softly, and specially prepared healthy and nutritious snacks for her.
"Although we have been separated for a while, after all, I am your daughter-in-law. Your body is the most important, and you must tell me what you need.
My mother-in-law did not refuse my kindness this time, but nodded, and her eyes were gentler.
From that day on, I would visit my mother-in-law at my uncle's house for a week, and I would often call her to ask about her physical condition and living conditions.
I know that's a good start.
In this way, after more than a year, my relationship with my mother-in-law finally took a real turn for the better - at my brother-in-law's wedding, my mother-in-law offered to move back in with us.
From that day on, my mother-in-law actually moved back into our house. The family in his later years was finally reunited again.
After my mother-in-law moved back, Zhang Qiang and I immediately began to clean the room, making my mother-in-law's bedroom warm and comfortable.
At first, my mother-in-law was a little uncomfortable, but she quickly integrated into our rhythm of life. Now my mother-in-law is in a good mood every day, Zhang Qiang and I have also put down the previous mustard, and our family gets along so harmoniously and warmly.
"Daughter-in-law, today's meal is so delicious! Mother-in-law, I like to eat the fish you make the most! "One day after lunch, my mother-in-law told me happily.
"Then next time I will make this dish more to celebrate my mother-in-law's return." I also said with a smile.
"I really miss living with you. Why did I move out in the first place, it must be that my mind was not clear.
"Mom, don't think too much, our family is the most important thing to be together now." Zhang Qiang also encouraged his mother-in-law.
"Yes, yes, we are so happy every day now, it is the best." I echoed.
The mother-in-law nodded, and her eyes also showed satisfaction.
In this way, our family of three lived a happy life. Zhang Qiang and I also learned to care better about how it feels to take care of my mother-in-law.
I often think back to all the unpleasantness with my mother-in-law in the past, and I am glad that we have finally re-established our relationship and made this home full of sunshine again.
"Daughter-in-law, let's go for a walk in the park. The weather is so nice today. "One day after lunch, my mother-in-law said to me happily.
"Okay mom, it's healthier to go out for a walk together!" I also suddenly came to the spirit.
Zhang Qiang cannot accompany him because of work, but he is also very supportive of the closeness between our mother and daughter.
So, I happily accompanied my mother-in-law to the park near the community. On the wide green space, there are people jogging and walking from time to time.
The mother-in-law took a deep breath of fresh air and smiled: "What a good place!" We will come here often in the future to walk and exercise! ”
I nodded, silently grateful for all this in front of me. I will definitely cherish the friendship I rebuilt with my mother-in-law and make it last for a long time.
In this way, my mother-in-law and I developed the habit of going to the park for a walk every week. We walked slowly along the winding path, enjoying the beautiful scenery and chatting about interesting things about daily life.
One day we were resting and chatting on a bench by the lake. At sunset, the lake is sparkling and the scenery is pleasant.
"Daughter-in-law, chatting with you here, my heart is so comfortable." The mother-in-law sighed.
"Me too, Mom, I feel very happy to have you." I said with a smile.
"I used to scold you for being unfilial, but now I think it's really wrong for me. In fact, you have always been very filial to me. The mother-in-law said with some shame.
I quickly took my mother-in-law's hand: "Mom, don't say that, it's all in the past." Aren't we getting along well now? ”。
"It's really hard for you to be so filial to me, you are simply a bodhisattva." The mother-in-law said movingly.
"Don't praise me." I was a little embarrassed, "I also want to thank you for nurturing me for so many years."
"With you and Zhang Qiang's son here, my old bone is already very content." The mother-in-law nodded in satisfaction, "Let's go, let's go home."
I helped my mother-in-law to stand up slowly, and we talked as we walked, like a pair of good old friends.
Back home, Zhang Qiang also greeted us happily: "Did you have a good walk?" ”
"Super happy!" I said, "The scenery in the park is beautiful. ”
"That's good. I also prepared my mother-in-law's favorite dish, let's enjoy dinner together. Zhang Qiang said with a smile.
"Okay! I love the time when we are a family member the most. The mother-in-law said happily.
So we ate dinner with joy. Outside the window, the setting sun spills into the house, shrouding our happy figures.
Since then, I have often accompanied my mother-in-law out for walks and chats. Our mother and daughter will talk about various topics, such as interesting stories from my childhood, what my mother-in-law saw when she was young, and expectations for the future.
Looking back now, although the relationship between my mother-in-law and I had ups and downs, we eventually repaired this family relationship.
I will continue to take care of my mother-in-law wholeheartedly and spend the last days of my life hand in hand with her.