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My name is Wang Ming, I am 35 years old this year, and I have been married to my wife Li Lin for ten years. We both met in college and both got jobs in the city after graduation. I am currently working as a programmer in a foreign company, and although the work pressure is not small, the salary is good. His wife Li Lin works as a teacher in a middle school, and although her income is not as high as mine, she likes children and comes home from work every day with a happy smile on her face.
We have been married for seven years, and our son Xiaoyu is 5 years old. The heavy responsibility of taking care of children has basically been borne by Li Lin over the years. I was so busy, working overtime all year round, and I could only go home at an irregular time, so I could basically only accompany my children to dinner. Fortunately, my income can provide a stable life for my family, and Li Lin has not complained about anything.
Li Lin's mother, Grandma Zhang, is 70 years old this year, and her health is deteriorating, and Li Lin is often needed to take care of her. Although I also tried to visit Grandma Zhang, my days were too busy, and I often had to work late to find more time.
A few days ago, Li Lin suddenly told me that Grandma Zhang talked to her and said that in the future, we need to take a little money to give her living expenses every month, and the amount of money is 1,000 yuan per person per month. That is to say, including me and Li Lin, I have to give Grandma Zhang 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses.
When I heard this request, I was angry and felt that Grandma Zhang was too unreasonable. "Li Lin, is it reasonable for you to listen to your mother's request? We have to give her 24,000 yuan a year, which is a lot of money!"
Li Lin was obviously also embarrassed, she sat on the sofa, hesitated for a while and said: "I understand that this is really a lot of pressure for us, but my mother has helped us so much over the years, and now we really need extra care when we are old..."
I immediately interrupted her impatiently: "Help us? Did Grandma Zhang really help that much? In the past 10 years, you and I have not taken less money for your family, right? Your father was hospitalized with cancer, the medical expenses were all paid by me, your brother failed to open a company and had no place to live, but I borrowed his start-up capital, and later he even paid off the principal and interest. Over the years, I came home late from work, basically did not have time to accompany Xiaoyu, my son was brought up by you, has Grandma Zhang taken care of Xiaoyu? No! Now asking us to take so much extra money to give her a pension is simply difficult!"
Li Lin was also a little excited when she heard my long list of angers: "Wang Ming, I understand your feelings, okay, continue to write an article of about 1,000 words based on the previous article:
Li Lin listened to my long list of anger, and was also a little excited: "Wang Ming, I understand your feelings." But as a daughter, it was also difficult for me to reject my mother directly. After all, she pulled me up, and I couldn't ignore her feelings. "
I was still angry, and immediately retorted: "Then as a son-in-law, I also have a hard time accepting ah!" If you think about it, in the past ten years, I have worked hard outside, and every penny has been handed over to my family. When your brother's business failed, didn't I also borrow him 500,000 yuan to let him start over? Your dad was hospitalized for cancer, and I covered all the medical expenses and hospitalization expenses. That money adds up to six figures, right? Now if I want to take a large amount of money to support your mother, my hard-earned money will be taken out, is this fair?"
Li Lin sighed and said, "I know that you have always been very conscientious, and you have shouldered most of the financial burden of your family. But people live a lifetime, money is not the most important thing. Mom is old now, and her health is not good, so she needs us to care more. "
"It's okay to care, but to withdraw my labor income in such a large amount, how do you let me accept it? I still count on the money to save up to decorate the house in the future, or to send my son abroad to study. Now that your mother is paying every penny, my money will be handed over, when will my plan come true? Why do I have to bear the financial burden unconditionally because I am a son-in-law?" I said excitedly.
Li Lin also raised her voice: "Don't you always measure the relationship by economic interests?" The most important thing for people is not the emotions and memories of living together?"
"Yes, I also care about the feelings of my family, so I have taken on financial responsibility without complaint for so many years. But there is a limit to everything, and if your mother is allowed to ask for it, it will not be fair to me and our son!" I also raised my voice to retort.
The dispute between the two of us became more and more intense, Xiaoyu was woken up by our voice, crying and running over to pull the corner of our clothes: "Mom, dad, don't quarrel!"
Looking at my son's innocent eyes, Li Lin and I both calmed down silently. Li Lin picked up Xiaoyu and went back to the room to sleep, and I sat alone in the dark living room, unable to calm down for a long time.
After a while, Li Lin quietly came to me and said softly, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have argued with you in front of Xiaoyu." But my mother's request that we have to discuss it well, and we can't continue to stalemate like this. "
I sighed softly, "I'm so excited tonight." This question does require us to think calmly. But I hope you understand that there must be a mutually acceptable solution that does not burden me unreasonably financially. "
Li Lin nodded: "I understand your difficulties. We'll find a way to negotiate a solution. Get a good night's sleep and talk about it tomorrow. "
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The next morning, when I got up, Li Lin was already preparing breakfast in the kitchen. The breakfast on the table looked very hearty, and Li Lin obviously wanted to resolve the embarrassment between us through these small actions.
We chatted over breakfast. Li Lin said that she had considered it all night and understood my difficulties, and she would discuss with her mother again to see if she could adjust the requirements. After I listened, my heart was already better, at least Li Lin was willing to think from my point of view.
Just when we were discussing to have a good talk with Grandma Zhang, Li Lin's phone suddenly rang, and her face changed when she answered it - Grandma Zhang suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and had been sent to the hospital.
We immediately stopped for breakfast and drove to the hospital. As soon as I entered the ward, I saw that Grandma Zhang had inserted various instruments in the hospital bed and was still being rescued. Li Lin held her mother's hand tightly, and tears couldn't stop flowing. I stood aside, looking at the seriously ill Grandma Zhang, with mixed tastes in my heart.
After more than an hour of rescue, the doctor finally stabilized Grandma Zhang's condition. We were slightly relieved, but the doctor said that the condition was not optimistic and needed continuous observation.
Out of the ward, Li Lin was very emotionally unstable, I comforted her softly and sent her to the hospital restaurant to eat something. I stood alone in the hospital corridor, looking at the door of the operating room, and suddenly felt that life is so impermanent. Yesterday I still had some disagreements with Grandma Zhang, and today her life is already in danger.
My mind flashed all kinds of care and concern for our family by Grandma Zhang over the years, and although she had a straightforward personality and did things a little straightforwardly, she did care for Li Lin and Xiaoyu. A trace of self-blame surged in my heart - was my calculation of money too heavy, ignoring the emotional communication between people?
After Li Lin came back, I pulled her to sit down on the bench downstairs of the hospital and said to her seriously: "Linlin, I'm sorry, I overreacted to this matter." We don't know your mother's physical condition, but it's just that considering the problem is limited to the economic level, which is indeed a little inappropriate. I will reconsider this and we will definitely come up with a solution that is responsible for everyone. Don't worry too much. "
Li Lin held my hand tightly and said excitedly: "I knew you would understand me in the end." My mother's health is so poor, I really can't bear to refuse her. We'll definitely find a way. "
I nodded and decided to go see Grandma Zhang and have a serious conversation with her to resolve the misunderstanding between us.
Entering the ward, Grandma Zhang had already woken up. She smiled weakly at me: "Xiao Wang, you came to see me?" Sorry to bother you. "
I walked to the bed and shook my head: "Grandma, I shouldn't be angry with you." You're just fine, so let's not talk about that. You must take care of your body and take good care of your illness. "
Grandma Zhang had tears in her eyes, like when I first met her...
Grandma Zhang said to me weakly: "Xiao Wang, I'm old, I have figured out some things, and I really didn't think about it before. I was going to live in a nursing home for the rest of my life, and I didn't want to cause any trouble for you and Linlin. Who knew that the physical examination a few days ago found these problems, I was nervous for a while, and I wanted to ask you for some living expenses. I'm really sorry, don't mind. "
I quickly grabbed my grandmother's hand and comforted her softly: "Grandma, don't think too much. Linlin and I will always be with you. The most important thing for you now is physical recovery, and everything else can be discussed slowly. "
Grandma Zhang nodded, held my hand and gradually fell asleep. I walked out of the room lightly, afraid to disturb her.
Back home, looking at the sleeping Xiaoyu, I talked to Li Lin about my future plans. We decided to take Grandma Zhang to live with her at home first, so that we could take better care of her living. I will also adjust my work to avoid overtime as much as possible and spend more time with my family. Li Lin decided to temporarily quit her job and stay at home full-time with her husband and children.
A few days later, Grandma Zhang's health improved, and she was discharged from the hospital and returned to our home. Xiaoyu is very happy to have the company of his grandmother, and pesters his grandmother to talk and play games all day. Watching their intimate interactions, I knew we had made the right choice.
As time passed, we became more and more like a big family. I will bring a rich dinner home after work and accompany Xiaoyu to do his homework. In the evening, our family would go out for a walk and chat and enjoy the fun. Grandma Zhang's body also improved day by day, and her face was much rosier.
One day, our family sat around the dining table to eat. Xiaoyu said happily: "Mom and Dad, how good it is for our family to be together!" I love this kind of life. "
Grandma Zhang also sighed: "As I get older, I feel more and more that the company of my family is the most important. Xiao Wang Xiaolin can take care of me like this, it is the happiest thing in my life. "
Li Lin and I looked at each other and smiled, and we both saw happiness in each other's eyes.
Later, on parents' weekends, we would take Xiaoyu to the park to play. I would push Grandma Zhang's wheelchair and the family would bask in the sun and eat ice cream under the blue sky and white clouds. Xiaoyu likes to climb into her grandmother's wheelchair and talk to her intimately. Looking at their happy smiling faces, my heart was calm and content.
Life is like this, after hardships and misunderstandings, in the end, it is the understanding and companionship of the family that makes people feel the happiest. Money is important, but it is not as valuable as family relationships. I also finally understood Li Lin's good intentions.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, it has been more than a year since our family of four lived together. Grandma Zhang's body has basically recovered under our careful care, and she has begun to adapt and enjoy this multigenerational life.
Once, our family sat in front of the TV to watch a variety show. The stars in the picture are imitating all kinds of anecdotes and funny stories of the old people, and Xiaoyu is the most excited to watch and laugh non-stop. Grandma Zhang looked and smiled, and said: "There are indeed many strange problems when you are old, but happiness is the most important, and health is better than anything."
Li Lin took her mother's hand and said: "Mom, with our family accompanying you, don't think so much, smile more, and live happily is the best."
Grandma Zhang nodded and looked at me again: "Xiao Wang, when I asked without considering your feelings, and quarreled with you, I am really grateful that you can tolerate me like this." Come, grandma give you a salute. ”
After that, she bowed to me with her hands folded, and I hurriedly reached out to support her. "Grandma, what are you polite, the family does not need this. I also understand your distress. ”
Tears welled up in Grandma Zhang's eyes, and she said happily: "It is really my least a blessing to have a filial son-in-law like you." Come, tonight let's have a little wine and celebrate the growing happiness of our extended family!"
That day, we had a rare drink, and Xiaoyu was happy. The whole family is filled with joy and gratitude.
In the blink of an eye, spring and autumn came, and Xiaoyu also went to elementary school. After school, I would pick him up from school and help him with his homework. In addition to completing our homework together, I will gently guide him to learn to get along with others and experience the family ethic of respecting the old and loving the young.
One day when I came home from school, Xiaoyu said to me, "Dad, I want to buy my grandmother a new dress, and her old clothes are almost torn." I was pleased to praise his idea, and we went to the mall that day to buy a beautiful new set of clothes for Grandma Zhang.
Grandma Zhang was very happy to receive our gift, she smiled and said to Xiaoyu: "Yuyu has the most tutor, and when she grows up, she will definitely become a very good person!" Li Lin and I are also sincerely proud and gratified.
Life is like this, through the wind and rain to see the rainbow. Because of the mutual understanding and tolerance of the family, life becomes more and more beautiful, and the heart becomes more and more fulfilling. This is life's most precious gift.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, it is the season of spring blossoms.
One day I picked up Xiaoyu home from school, and as soon as I entered the door, I saw Li Lin and Grandma Zhang whispering at the dining table. When they saw us back, they all had mysterious smiles on their faces.
Xiaoyu and I looked at each other, and we didn't know why. Li Lin came over and took my hand and said, "That's right, my mother said that she has lived alone for so long, and she should give herself a long vacation." So we plan to take a small vacation to the beach this weekend with the whole family, just the four of us, quality time!"
I was overjoyed and said, "That's a great idea!" Work is so busy, we haven't gone out to relax for a long time. Swim in the sun and blow the sea breeze, mom you can also relax your body and mind!"
Grandma Zhang nodded with a smile: "My old bone has not seen the sea for a long time, just to enjoy the scenery and eat seafood." Having you by my side is the greatest happiness. ”
Xiao Yu happily ran over and took Grandma Zhang's hand and said, "Grandma, I will swim with you!" Let's go find beautiful conch shells!"
The weekend was fast approaching, and our family happily hit the road. Along the way, Li Lin and I sang briskly about the old era of Yuyuan Hui Caizi, and Xiaoyu followed the beat behind the car. Grandma Zhang looked out the window into the distance, her face was a relaxation and joy that I hadn't seen in years.
Arriving at the beachfront resort, we dropped off our bags at the hotel and headed straight to the sea. The sea breeze was blowing in her face, and Grandma Zhang took a deep breath, and a satisfied smile bloomed on her face. Li Lin and I held Xiaoyu's hand, the three of us sang loudly, and the family played in the waves.
These days we enjoyed our seaside holiday to the fullest. In the morning, Xiaoyu and I would go to the beach to practice swimming and listen to the sound of the waves; At noon, we went to taste authentic seafood food; In the evening, the family sits quietly on the beach and watches the sun set.
On the last morning, we decided to go around the hill not far away. On the way to the hill, although Grandma Zhang was panting, her face was full of long-lost rosy and vitality. Climbing to the top of the mountain to look at the blue sea and sky in the distance, we admired this magnificent scenery, and our hearts were full of joy and a sense of designation.
This trip became our family's most cherished memory. Back home, Grandma Zhang sighed: "Thanks to your family, it's great that my old bone can regain happiness!"
At this point, our family of four began a happier and more satisfying new life. We often go out together on outings to enjoy the beauty of nature's creation; Cooking together and tasting the taste of hometown; Watch movies together, laugh and share the joy.
The good times are not long, and I also know that life is impermanent and fate is bad, but as long as we always tolerate each other and are grateful, we can finally see the rainbow in the face of all kinds of storms. I will always cherish this happiness.