"The phone, as myself, I love it; As a parent, I hate it. This is a status quo, and many families will "fight wits and courage" for mobile phones.
Let's start with an example -
Home training diary
Last night, he kept begging me to look at my phone, but I didn't say yes, and he didn't get upset.
This morning, he was soft and hard again, and I promised him to look at it for a while, but before leaving for school, he needed to return the phone to me, and he did, and I feel that the rules for his mobile phone have been cultivated - can see at the prescribed time, and there is less phenomenon of not looking at the phone to make a mood.
Dad said
The problem of mobile phones has indeed become a big problem in family education, and many parents have reported that "they can't stop it". Our case gives us an idea.
At night, the child wants to look at the phone and perform his own trick - begging, our mother is firm in her belief and does not let the child succeed, this step is very good; Our children are also doing well - no emotions, which also shows that the mother is doing a good job of managing the emotions of her children.
In the morning, the child begins to soft and hard bubbles, which is actually a continuation of the evening, whether it is compensation psychology, or a reward for the child's evening, in short, the mother let the child go to see, but this also opens a cocktail for the child - this way is useful, in fact, it is an incentive for him to soft and hard bubbles.
But there is one thing that our parents do well - "arrange time for children", so that they can not only give their children a reasonable psychological expectation, but also cultivate their children's sense of rules.
Our recommendations:
1. Parents should lead by example
We often say that children are copies of their parents, and what parents like, children will like. Therefore, if we parents want our children to play less with mobile phones, we should set an example: in front of our children, try not to play with mobile phones.
2. Rules should be established and resolutely enforced
Zhao Jingbo, a professor in the Department of Psychology at the School of Public Health of Southern Medical University, pointed out that children are sometimes difficult to control themselves, so parents and children must have rules when doing this, and once the rules are formulated, they must be resolutely implemented.
Therefore, our parents should set the time to play with mobile phones every day according to the age of their children, for example, preschool children should control it for about 20 minutes; Try not to look at your mobile phone during meals, get up in the morning, before going to bed, etc., once the rules are made, no matter what the child does, be firm and resolute.
3. There should be a reward mechanism
For children, weak willpower is normal, so we must set certain rewards to help children overcome the temptation of mobile phones, for example, a ladder reward system, if the child persists for a day, you can get a small smiley; 3 small smiling faces for a small red flower; 5 little red flowers can be exchanged for a small gift... This kind of reward can always motivate children to work hard and is a more effective way.
4. Divert your child's attention
If the child has something to do, he will forget about the mobile phone, so we can accompany the child to do more interesting things, for example, we can do sports with the child, or rhythmic exercises, or board games, etc., with the activities that the child likes to engage, the child will naturally throw the mobile phone out of cloud nine; We can also accompany our children outdoors, encourage them to make friends with children of the same age, and naturally no longer addicted to mobile phones.