It has been said that life is inherently uncertain, and that some people may be able to live comfortably while others may suffer a lot. Those who can live without worries are often given a stable and prosperous fate. Even when they face a problem, they can take it in stride and see it as a false alarm. However, all this is a matter of fate. And those who suffer all their lives are probably doomed to toil and die. Even if they work hard, they may not be able to get what they want, and they may have ups and downs along the way. The gap between people is sometimes even greater than the gap between people and pets. As the saying goes, fate is certain, and human effort is only a variable. No matter how hard we try, some things are not destined to be in our control. As Professor Zeng Shiqiang said, fate is destiny. Destiny is inherently its well-being and calamity, which cannot be changed. But what we can control is how we deal with the variables of fate.
Opportunities are rare, and difficulties are always present.
Han Yue, a literary scholar in the Tang and Song dynasties, once said that Maxima is common, but Bole is not. This sentence means that although there are many Maxima, not many people discover and appreciate them. This dooms those talented Maxima to be ignored by those who do not know how to cherish it, and eventually disappear. In this world, there are many people who are like those obscure Maxima. Eighty percent of the population is ordinary people. This does not mean that they cannot succeed, but because of the lack of opportunities for noble people, the chances of success are greatly reduced. Whether a person can meet a noble person or not has nothing to do with the individual's ability, and depends entirely on fate. If fate comes, the dilemma will eventually be solved. If fate has not arrived, then you can only wait for the moment.
Be kind and suffer.
Decades ago, people praised kind-hearted people as models to relate to and learn from. However, today's society is highly commercialized, and commercial interests and competition have become more intense. In this context, kindness is often seen as an incompatible trait. The business world needs profit and competition, not pure goodness. Therefore, people who are too kind may be seen as weak and easily bullied. As the saying goes, people are good to be deceived and horses are good to be ridden. Being too kind can lead to falling victim to others. Therefore, for those who have a rough fate, kindness can become one of the reasons for their suffering.
Internal and external contradictions are intertwined.
When external pressures are intertwined with internal conflicts within the family, people often feel pressed internally and externally, and the situation becomes extremely difficult. Those who are poor, in particular, are more likely to fall into this predicament. As the saying goes, hemp rope is specially picked and broken, and bad luck is specifically for the bitter man. For those who are poor, the external pressure is enormous, and they must work hard to make ends meet. When you return home, you may face conflict within your family, as poverty often leads to family conflict. The interweaving of external and internal issues makes it difficult for them to find opportunities and space to change their destiny. Success often requires family harmony, and if the family is not harmonious, the chances of success will be greatly reduced.
Lack of insight and clairvoyance.
For some things, some people can see the truth behind them at a glance, while others remain at a loss. For example, when it comes to part-time jobs, many people fail to find opportunities to stand out, not because they are not bosses, but because they do not have effective resources. Effective resources are those that can help you make money, while ineffective resources are the opposite. However, many people treat ineffective resources as effective, resulting in a lifetime of hard work without success. The key to changing your destiny is to gain insight into the nature of the problem and not be bound by conventional thinking. Success often depends on whether we have the right resources.
To sum up, unfairness and difficulties in life cannot be avoided. But we can better cope with the challenges of destiny by changing our attitudes and behaviors.