Zhang Xiaofei's "Good Things Become Pairs" exploded, where do Kochi women go in the face of marriage difficulties?

Let's look at a set of figures, from the latest statistics released by the Ministry of Civil Affairs, since 2013, the marriage rate in the mainland has fallen for five consecutive years, from 9.88‰ in 2013 to 5.41‰ in 2023, while the divorce rate has been climbing for fifteen consecutive years, and the number of divorces in 2023 will reach 4.339 million, with a divorce rate of 3.09‰.

From the unmarried people around them, you can also see that single young ladies and sisters after the 80s abound. People long for love on the one hand and fear marriage on the other.

Love and marriage can't have both?

After watching the recently launched "Good Things Become Pairs", I think the screenwriter has added another stroke to the strong social atmosphere of fear of marriage.

Although the plot mainly revolves around the heroine's search for herself and self-realization to show, it has to make people sympathize and refract the women who enter marriage, and people can't help but ask what marriage can bring to women, even women with higher education, still can't get out of the marriage dilemma of "revolving around their husbands and children".

The marital dilemma of women in Kochi

The heroine Lin Shuang (played by Zhang Xiaofei) graduated from a prestigious university, won an international award when she was studying, and her parents are university professors, such an excellent woman with a good family and strong own ability, washed her hands and made soup after marriage and became a full-time wife.

One of the male protagonists, Wei Ming (played by Li Zefeng), Lin Shuang's husband, the middle level of the company, plays a good husband and father outside, and the real character is a cheating scumbag, who works hard for his wife, not only PUA but also transfers assets, which can be said to be the plus version of Xu Fengshan.

In the first episode, the scene of housewives catching mistress was staged, and Kochi women's solution to marriage was really different, without crying, making trouble and hanging themselves, and there was no tearing war with mistress. From a piece of nail art, look for clues step by step, lock the target step by step, deeply analyze the current situation, analyze the character of the junior, and fight with the junior.

Although the plot is somewhat out of touch with reality, such as being a housewife who has been out of society for several years, can quickly break away from the emotions of betrayal, step by step plan the fight for property custody, no emotional loss of control, no hysteria, and even silent tears, I think this is difficult for any woman who marries because of love.

But I think the purpose of the screenwriter's planning is to enhance the audience's coolness, after all, what modern people want to watch the drama is a revenge cool, and the bitter drama is not welcomed.

Back to marriage, Kochi women themselves have a good hand and can play in the workplace, but they enter the siege, the happiness of the besieged life is not actually judged by the level of education, when there is a problem in marriage, the dilemma of Kochi women is the same as that of ordinary women, from the perspective of input-output ratio, Kochi women will suffer more, because compared with the gains from their own investment and marriage, the value that invalid marriages can obtain is far lower than the women's own early investment.

But from the perspective of breakthrough, the advantage of Kochi women may also be the early investment in themselves, after all, family, connections, and relationships will help women better escape the cage and better regain themselves.

Women help each other

Another heroine in the play, Jiang Xi (played by Zhang Jiani), is a representative of another type of woman, that is, fantasizing about class leaping through marriage.

Such women are not a few in society, educated, young and beautiful, ordinary ability, average origin, delusional after entering marriage, once and for all, out of the inner roll of the workplace, only for one person to wash their hands and make soup.

As said in the play, such a woman understands law and morality, and does not care about etiquette, righteousness and shame.

But whether such a woman can enter the senior class through marriage, the plot is the same as reality, young women are tempting for men, especially in the face of a woman who wants to climb, it is the best pastime for men, and can satisfy their own sense of male worship, without spending too much, cost-effective.

The Jiang Xi family in the play is down, there is a Voldemort's mother, there is a vampire brother, vain and beauty, is another version of Fan Shengmei.

When she was bought by cheap gifts again and again, used again and again, and dumped, Jiang Xi finally recognized the reality, even if the real lady was out, she herself could not enter the game.

The essence of door-to-door pairing is the maximization of interests, and interests are the eternal truth. The same is true of the nature of marriage.

High-level men generally only look for women of the same class to enter marriage, of course, the prince and Cinderella are not excluded, but the happy life of the prince and Cinderella together seems to be just a fairy tale.

When a Kochi woman is betrayed, a grassroots woman is beaten by reality. So, no matter what your family is, no matter what your education is, in marriage, in a patriarchal society, women are a vulnerable group.

Girls help girls

The focus of the whole play, one has resources, the other has social experience, and when two women who are hurt by the same man at the same time join forces to make trouble, the plot is good-looking.

Can you love

The bread of love still has to be drawn, and in the play, Lin Shuang's official partner Gu Xu (played by Huang Xiaoming) appears as a high-quality elite man with wealth and freedom, who has an adolescent ignorant love for Lin Shuang, and is angry after meeting reality.

It is not difficult to guess that the plot will develop in the direction that the domineering president always covers me and runs in both directions with the overbearing president.

The plot beautifies reality, and the heroine happens to meet a high-quality lawyer, happens to meet the same door crush, and happens to fight side by side with the mistress. Perfect cooperation again and again, finally found the self, and realized the self again.

To be honest, the plot is beautiful, the reality is cruel. From the perspective of social reality, how difficult it is for a woman to escape the cage of marriage, consider children, consider social vision, consider her own ability, how many people will live their lives.

From this point of view, the starting point of the plot is good, encourage women to break through the shackles, encourage women to look forward to love, even if they face thousands of hardships, they must still realize themselves with dignity.

The rich second-generation Huang Jiayi (played by Zhao Xin) in the play is also a female representative who looks forward to love and fantasy love, with a good life and a simple nature. A small piece of birthday cake, a sentence of purposeful care, and a seemingly decent acting, deceived a rich second generation into a stunner, regardless of etiquette, righteousness and shame, determined to become a junior for love.

I have to say that scumbags have high means and adopt different means in the face of women with different personalities and different families. In the early stage of entrepreneurship, choose a high-IQ partner, get married and have children, and become your own strong backing. When the career is on the track, in the face of temptation, the red flag does not fall, and the colorful flag is only for escape. When faced with a higher-level woman who can improve her status, she can abandon her wife and go on another track.

Typical delicate egoistic male. I have to say that there are many such men, and the rank is only high.

Therefore, I think that when faced with such a man and such a social reality, the most important thing is not the fear of marriage, but the fear of fainting.

Love can still be expected, that is, don't faint, recognize yourself, recognize men, recognize reality, and recognize interests.