Recently, I saw such news on the Internet: a minor girl who is pregnant and goes for an abortion not only feels taken for granted, but also justifies the doctor and her mother.
"The Great Qing Capital has been dead for several years, and your doctor's thoughts are really terrible!"
"I've done it several times, don't I just get some sleep?"
"Sign or not, if you don't sign, I'll give birth to him!"
These words make parents feel like a knife when they hear them!
It's hard to imagine that such things happen so often in our lives.
Today's search for abortion and abortion of underage girls in Baidu has more than 3 million relevant results.
In 2013, the Institute of Science and Technology of the National Population and Family Planning Commission released a set of reports: on average, the number of Chinese-work abortions has reached 13 million per year, and it continues to rise, and the number of younger people is increasing.
According to a study published in the British journal The Lancet in October 2015, 37 percent of Chinese women who had miscarriages in 2013 had a second abortion and 29 percent had a third or more abortions.
Although we often talk about sex education, sex education is also a common issue, but not many people seem to pay attention to it.
More and more underage girls have unwanted pregnancies and become regular visitors to hospital abortions, who are accustomed to abortion but do not know the consequences of multiple abortions.
What are the consequences of multiple miscarriages:
1. Infertility
Data show that there are an average of more than 8 million abortions in mainland China every year, with a abortion rate of 29.3%, and the incidence of infertility caused by four repeated abortions is as high as 92%.
2. Recurrent miscarriage
Repeated abortion can easily cause decreased uterine function, such as intrauterine adhesions, endocrine disorders, cervical mouth injury, etc., resulting in the risk of habitual miscarriage.
3. Increased reproductive infections
The more miscarriages, the greater the risk of ectopic pregnancy, and if the rescue is not timely, it will cause heavy bleeding, shock, and in severe cases, the fallopian tubes, uterus, etc. will be removed.
4. Increased risk of breast disease
Studies have shown that women who have had an abortion in their first pregnancy are 30% to 50% more likely to develop breast cancer than normal women.
5. Mental health
After abortion, women are prone to depression, anxiety, guilt, fear and other emotions, because there will be many complications after abortion, such as unclean vaginal bleeding, postoperative infection, etc. will lead to mental tension and anxiety; Some girls do not voluntarily go for abortion, which will inevitably produce a series of negative emotions, and if there is no enlightenment, it is easy to fall into a depressed mood.
Cultivate children's reverence for life in order to better protect children.
Proper sex education is important
"I've done it several times, don't I just get some sleep?"
The child's casual words can't help but make people reflect: Do we really give children the right sex education?
Although people's attitudes towards sex have become more open and inclusive, sex education is not only about letting children know about sexual openness, but more importantly, teaching them how to protect themselves.
Because of the development of society, people no longer "talk about sexual discoloration" about sex as before, but this does not mean that we are fully prepared to face various sexual risks.
So, let's act together to value sex education so that children can grow up feeling better protected and secure.
Children of different ages need different sex education:
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According to a joint survey by UNICEF, the Office of the Working Committee on Children and Women of the State Council and the National Bureau of Statistics, one in four children on the mainland has experienced sexual violence before the age of 16.
After the age of 14, children are in puberty, hormones begin to awaken, we are more focused on guiding children to understand that their physical and psychological changes are normal, and we must also work on sexual safety and hygiene.
At this stage, parents should teach their children the following.
1. What is love.
2. Refusal methods of sexual harm and harassment of acquaintances and relatives.
3. Teenage pregnancy, abortion problems, understanding the responsibilities and consequences of premarital sex
4. Contraception and STD prevention
Because children do not understand the knowledge about sex, it will inevitably produce curiosity, and if parents do not use this stage to educate children to understand sex and love, it will inevitably have irreversible consequences.
Anything related to sex is not shameful. We can learn about it in a better way and teach children to protect themselves.
To educate children, there must be a bottom line
Baby, can you listen to what the doctor says?
It's for your good,
You have to listen to the doctor.
Between the lines, one can feel the mother's caution, the complex psychology of wanting the child to obey but afraid that the child will be angry.
It is conceivable that the way children usually get along with their parents is that as long as the child has a request, the parents must agree, regardless of whether the child's request is reasonable or not.
The French educator Rousseau once said: "Do you know what methods to use to make your children unfortunate?" That is to be obedient to him. ”
The doting of parents can only be honey arsenic for children, sweet and delicious on the outside, and wrapped in deadly poison inside.
Bottomless connivance can only make children arbitrarily and punished by society.
Loving children is the instinct of every parent.
But educating children well is the responsibility of every parent, so that children know what can be done and what cannot be done, otherwise it is our parents and children who will be hurt in the end.
For example, in previous years, many minors became pregnant and broadcast live and released related videos on major online platforms:
The 16-year-old girl posted her high and bulging pregnant belly, with the text: It's almost 5 months, give a blessing.
The girl who was pregnant at the age of 14 and became a mother at the age of 15 posted her brother on the Internet and then captioned: You have just entered kindergarten, but I am already a parent...
14-year-old mom holding her baby live to show off her pregnancy...
14-year-old mother livestreams her pregnant belly....
In addition to these, there are also children's ability to be independent, resistant to setbacks, able to take responsibility, self-discipline and so on.
Today's parents like to use these words as a shield for their children:
"He's just a kid";
"He is so small, what do you think about with him";
"I was very naughty when I was a child, but it will be good when I grow up";
"When you have children, you will understand."
But I didn't know that this was a conniving child in disguise.
As the saying goes, inertia is like killing a son.
Do you remember Sun Xiaoguo?
A demon without humanity who has been committing adultery all his life.
In 1994, in broad daylight, 17-year-old Sun Xiaoguo and four other men openly abducted two women and gang-raped them in the suburbs;
In 1997, Sun Xiaoguo, who had not completed his sentence, committed another rape case, raping girls under the age of 18, one of whom was under the age of 14;
In addition, he illegally imprisoned and abused women, poked breasts with toothpicks, and burned arms with cigarette butts;
For the sake of a flight attendant, he kicked a man's bladder to pieces, causing serious injuries of the second degree;
Untold evils, heinous means.
And all these evil consequences are inseparable from the connivance and doting of his mother Sun Heyu.
He wanted to join the army, but he wasn't old enough, and his mother changed his age to 18 through connections.
This time, he realized that as long as his mother was there, he could be lawless.
After being arrested for a crime in 1994, Sun Heyu used his power to change Sun Xiaoguo's age back to 17 years old.
Dissatisfied with the child's decision to be sentenced to three years, he entrusted Sun Xiaoguo to be released on bail pending trial and released on medical parole.
In 1998, he was sentenced to death by the court for aggravating circumstances of the crime, which was immediately executed.
Do you think demons will pay for their actions?
No.
Sun Heyu asked his stepfather Li Qiaozhong to change Sun Xiaoguo's sentence from death to suspended death through a series of operations, and finally changed his sentence to 20 years in prison.
In 2010, Sun Xiaoguo was released from prison.
Even the death penalty can be escaped, what are you afraid of?
After being released from prison, Sun Xiaoguo changed his name to Li Linchen and continued to do evil.
Open a bar and nightclub, and become a famous "Da Li Zong" in Kunming night club.
And Sun Heyu not only did not educate him, but also bought luxury cars and villas for his children, and opened a company for him.
Everything turned around in 2018, when Sun Xiaoguo kicked a man's bladder for a flight attendant, causing a second-degree serious injury.
He was subsequently arrested.
This time, Sun Xiaoguo had no chance to escape, and no one would clean up the mess for him anymore.
Because Sun Heyu and his stepfather were arrested.
In 2020, Sun Xiaoguo was executed, and he finally paid for his actions.
Sun Heyu's cover-up and connivance again and again pushed Sun Xiaoguo into the abyss of crime.
She does not know that bottomless connivance is not love, but poison.
There is a saying: the bottom line of parents is the starting line of children.
Sun Heyu and Li Qiaozhong's bottomless doting has raised demons like Sun Xiaoguo, which is a disaster for the world.
True love for children is strict and measured, love without pampering.
No fear of life
It is the greatest evil in the world
The post-00s girl threatened her parents and said, "If you don't sign the abortion protocol, I will give birth to him, and you won't be able to raise him in the future."
Seeing these words, I felt as if I saw an irresponsible mother, a mother who only knew about abortion, a mother who could only be impatient.
She did not know that after the birth of the child, she had the responsibility of nurturing;
She did not know that abortion could put herself at risk of infertility;
She also does not know the preciousness of life, and she is not born casually.
There is a sentence in Bi Shumin's "Reverence for Life": "The will of life is to survive, and destroying and harming life is as sinful as the devil." ”
In 2012, a 13-year-old girl in Guangxi was sentenced to 108,000 yuan for three years of custody and education because she was jealous of her classmate's beauty, killed her classmate and divided her body.
In 2015, the case of three young men in Shaoyang, Hunan Province, was sent to a work-study school for labor re-education;
In 2018, a 12-year-old boy was released on the spot for disobeying discipline and killing his mother.
In order to satisfy her curiosity, a bear child deliberately pushed down a pregnant relative, just to see if she would have a miscarriage, and did not realize that she was wrong afterwards!
The most precious thing of human beings is life, life is only once for us, everyone should fear life and cherish life.
Having children at the same time is not lip service.
For parents, children are a responsibility and it is better not to go down this path if they are not prepared, as well as the ability to take responsibility.
When you decide to have a baby, it means:
You are willing to take the risk of childbirth, and are willing to face problems such as milk pain, wound pain, uterine contraction pain, and rectus abdominis muscle separation after childbirth;
You are willing to take on the responsibility of educating and nurturing him, teaching him to behave, leading him to grow up, and making him grow into a physically and mentally healthy adult.;
You are willing to grow up with your children and gain a better version of yourself.
Mo Yan once said:
Now there are many parents who blame their children's bad habits - on the school, on the teachers, on the children, but not on themselves. The priority now is not to educate children, but to educate parents. The best education is never in the mouth.
The words and deeds of parents are the best example for children, and the right person is the first to correct himself.
While we accompany our children to grow up, our children are also teaching us how to love and accept and become better parents.
As parents, we have the responsibility to be the guide and navigator of our children, become the mentors of children's love, and bring them to the wider world.