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My name is Li Xiaomei, I am 32 years old, and I am an ordinary office worker. I have a daughter named Li Xiaofang, and she is getting married this year. As her mother, I am both happy for her and a little sad. Seeing my daughter about to fly out and start a new life made me feel mixed feelings.
A few days ago, Xiaofang officially introduced me to her boyfriend Wang Xiaobao. When I first saw Xiaobao, I felt that he was a gentle and gentle person. Xiaofang said happily: "Mom, this is Xiaobao, I object!" Others super! ”
I smiled and said to Xiaobao, "Xiaobao, it's really lucky to meet you and my daughter." Seeing you take care of my family Xiaofang so much, I am so happy as a mother. ”
Xiaobao said shyly: "Auntie, you praised, Xiaofang is also very good to me, and I will always be good to her." ”
I looked at the sweet appearance of the little two and felt very relieved. This Xiaobao has a stable job and is so good to Xiaofang, he is really a rare good boy.
A few days later, Xiaofang and Xiaobao got engaged. As a mother, I was naturally busy preparing for the engagement ceremony. On the day of the engagement, a large group of people celebrated lively, and laughter filled the entire venue.
Xiaofang said happily: "Mom, thank you for working hard to prepare all this, I am so happy!" ”
I looked at the happy smile on my daughter's face, and I couldn't help but redden my eyes: "My baby daughter is engaged, of course, my mother must prepare well and make this day grand and warm." Seeing that you are happy, it is too late for mom to be happy! ”
In order to let Xiaofang have a warm and comfortable little home for her newlyweds, my husband and I began to prepare a dowry for her. We saved for a long time, and finally bought a two-bedroom house in the suburbs of the city, with a convenient location and warm decoration, which is very suitable for the new home of the first marriage of the little couple.
I said to my husband excitedly: "This house we bought with hard savings will definitely bring warmth to Xiaofang." How nice it would be when she got married and moved in and started a new life! ”
My husband nodded and said: "Yes, it doesn't matter if we work hard, the most important thing is to prepare a good new home for my daughter." ”
Just as we were about to move into the new house, Xiaobao's mother Aunt Liu suddenly came to my house and said angrily: "I know you bought a house!" You don't want to think about my little dragon either! ”
I was surprised to hear it, because I didn't know any dragons. Aunt Liu, what does this mean? Why was she so angry?
I looked at Aunt Liu in confusion, not understanding why she was so excited.
Seeing my confused look, Aunt Liu said angrily: "My son Xiaolong is Xiaobao's little uncle!" You only think about your daughter when you buy a house, but you don't care about my little dragon! ”
I suddenly realized that Xiaobao also had a little uncle. I smiled awkwardly: "Auntie, I'm really sorry, I didn't know you had a son Xiaolong." But buying this house is to prepare for Xiaofang's dowry, and it has nothing to do with Xiaolong, right? ”
Aunt Liu said with red eyes: "My Xiaolong is now in her thirties, but I have never been able to find a good job, and I am at home all day: just speak concisely!" Play at home and don't start a family! He lost all the money I had worked so hard to save for him! Could it be that you don't care about my son? ”
Only then did I realize that Aunt Liu was raising Xiaolong as her own son. I asked softly, "Auntie, isn't Xiaolong your own?" ”
Aunt Liu wiped her tears and choked up: "He is my half-brother, but I raised him since I was a child." His parents died long ago, and I am his only family. ”
I learned that Aunt Liu regarded Xiaolong as her own, and I couldn't help but sympathize with her in my heart. Seeing her so sad, I couldn't help but red eyes and gently persuade her.
After a while, Aunt Liu's mood calmed down and began to ask me to support Xiaolong again.
"Your family has a house to live in, and my little dragon is still holding me here. Can you also help Xiaolong and give him half of the house? ”
It's hard for me to handle, this house was originally bought as a dowry by saving food and money, how can I give half of it casually?
I tentatively said, "Auntie, Xiaolong is an adult after all, I am not his relative, buy him a house..." ”
"Okay, okay, you should also be Xiaolong your son-in-law, help him." Otherwise, he will only live in my broken house for the rest of his life! Aunt Liu begged.
I was embarrassed, Aunt Liu asked this out of concern for Xiaolong, and I could understand her feelings. But Xiaolong is not my responsibility after all, and I also have my own considerations.
Seeing my hesitation, Aunt Liu cried again: "I worked hard to pull him up alone, and I couldn't give him a complete family!" You see him like this, how sad I am to be a mother... ”
Looking at Aunt Liu's painful appearance, I couldn't help but moisten my eyes, and comforted her softly: "Auntie, it's not easy for you to raise Xiaolong alone, it's not your fault..." ”
After my persuasion, Aunt Liu's mood gradually calmed down.
I said to her softly, "Auntie, I understand your concern for Xiaolong as a mother, but you can't solve the problem for him forever." Xiaolong is in his thirties, and it is time to be independent. You should encourage him to support himself instead of funding him unconditionally. ”
Aunt Liu sniffed and nodded: "Also, I spoiled him, so he would not do his job like this." I should start earning his own money to support himself from now on, and he can't rely on me anymore. ”
I saw Aunt Liu wake up, and I was also relieved in my heart.
Just as we were relieved, Xiaofang returned home. As soon as she saw Aunt Liu crying, she asked me anxiously: "Mom, what's wrong with Aunt Liu?" What happened? ”
I briefly explained to her that Aunt Liu wanted us to buy a house for Xiaolong as well.
Xiaofang was silent for a moment after hearing this, and then said resolutely: "Then Xiaobao and I won't get married!" I can't watch my mother-in-law sad. ”
I cried and laughed: "Silly girl, what does this have to do with whether you are married or not?" ”
Xiaofang said seriously: "It's because of this matter that I can't make my mother-in-law sad." I can wait with Xiaobao, anyway, we are young and not in a hurry. ”
When I saw my daughter's words, I felt proud and sad. It was sad that she postponed her marriage, proud that she considered her mother-in-law's feelings like this.
That night, I tossed and turned, unable to sleep for a long time. I was embarrassed by Aunt Liu's request, and blamed myself for not handling this matter well, causing Xiaofang to postpone the marriage.
In the early hours of the morning, I suddenly had a flash of inspiration and came up with a way to get the best of both worlds!
Early the next morning, I excitedly called Aunt Liu and Xiaofang and said to them, "I have thought of a good way to help Xiaolong without delaying Xiaofang's marriage." That is, my husband and I paid half of the down payment, and Xiaolong took out a loan to buy a house, what do you think? ”
Aunt Liu and Xiaofang both showed happy expressions and agreed one after another.
"Thank you so much! I'll go talk to Xiaolong! Aunt Liu said happily.
"Then I can also get ready to get married!" Xiaofang also smiled.
In this way, under the witness of my husband and me, Aunt Liu and Xiaolong signed an agreement, and I made half of the down payment, and the rest was paid by Xiaolong's own loan. The agreement clearly states that this is the last help, Xiaolong must support herself, and Aunt Liu can no longer do everything.
Aunt Liu blushed and said, "Thank you for making me wake up, I will educate Xiaolong well, and I will not spoil him anymore." ”
I was also very emotional, I finally learned how to better care and nurture children.
In this way, at my suggestion, everyone finally made concessions and resolved the dispute.
Next, I started preparing for Xiaofang's wedding again. After all these twists and turns, I seem to have matured a lot and thought more carefully into the details.
Half a year later, Xiaofang and Xiaobao's wedding was finally grandly held. The scene was lively and joyful. Aunt Liu also came to attend the wedding and watched the family reunion with a spring breeze.
"Auntie, you worked hard, thank you for coming to the wedding." I carefully poured a cup of hot tea for Aunt Liu.
"It's all thanks to you, otherwise I wouldn't know what to do." Aunt Liu said gratefully.
"I also learned a lot, as mothers, we are not easy." I looked at Xiaofang and Xiaobao, who were smiling happily on the stage, and tears slowly gathered in my eyes.
Aunt Liu stroked my hand, and the two mothers looked at each other and smiled, without words, they shared their hearts.
After that, Xiaolong did regain confidence in his work and bought a house through his own efforts. Aunt Liu no longer does everything for him like before, but encourages him to be independent.
Xiaofang and Xiaobao's wedding days were also sweet. On weekends, the two families gather for a meal and laughter.
I saw the children start their own families, and my heart was full of emotion. As a mother, I think I have finally fulfilled my responsibilities and set up an independent stage for their lives.
At the end of the story, I couldn't help but burst into tears. This misunderstanding made me deeply understand the complexity of family relationships. As a mother, I have to learn how to better give love and help, rather than simply agreeing to my children's requests and making choices for them.
Through this experience, I have matured a lot. I began to reflect on my role as a mother and try to cultivate a mindset of wisdom and inclusion. Whenever children come to me for advice, I listen patiently and not rush to give answers.
This also makes the relationship between our mother and child more intimate. Children know that their mother will always support them, but it will not replace them in life.
A page is falling, a new chapter is turning: a season of flowers blooming, new blooms are waiting. I will remember this experience and continue to work hard to become a loving and wise mother.
Time flew by, and in the blink of an eye, Xiaofang and Xiaobao's child was also born.
When I first picked up Xiaofang's daughter, I was so excited that I couldn't speak, so I could only hold it tightly in my arms.
Xiaofang gently stroked my hand and said, "Mom, you have worked hard, I see it in my eyes." Now you're a grandmother too! ”
"My baby granddaughter is so cute, grandma is simply happy!" I laughed and teased the little baby.
"By the way, Mom, I want to ask you to help me take care of the baby, okay?" Xiaofang asked tentatively.
I was stunned for a moment, and immediately said, "Okay, grandma is the most happy!" You and Xiaobao are busy at work, don't worry about me. ”
"No, Mom, I just want to ask you to teach her independence, don't do everything instead of her." Xiaofang said seriously.
Only then did I react, nodded and said, "I understand, don't worry, I will slowly teach her to learn to make her own choices." ”
Now I am a gray-haired old man, but I have also learned to control my proportions and no longer dote on my granddaughter as before.
I'll give her advice when she's in trouble, but let her solve the problem on her own.
Every time I see my granddaughter growing up independently, I am very gratified. She gradually no longer needed me to do everything, but felt the bittersweet and bitter of life by herself.
Life is like a book, and I have finally learned how to be a wise reader. Instead of describing life for children, I accompanied them through the book in its entirety.
In the blink of an eye, my hair was completely white, wrinkled, and my steps faltered. But my heart is full of gratitude for life.
Along the way, I tried to be a good mother, but I still had mistakes. Fortunately, the children understood my shortcomings and gave me the courage to get back on my feet.
I think what I should really do as a mother is to understand the impermanence of life and the paradox of children's growth. In front of life, we are all so small. All I can do is use my limited time to study: also
Love them and learn to let go.