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My name is Li Fengying and I am 55 years old this year. My wife Liu Jianjun and I both work in state-owned enterprises in provincial capitals, and we are considered to be truly middle-class. We have an only daughter named Liu Xiaoxiao, 22 years old, studying at a good university in the city.
Xiaoxiao has excelled in her studies since she was a child, and she is also beautiful and intelligent, which is our pearl in the palm of our hand. Finally, when Xiaoxiao was a junior, he talked about his first boyfriend, named Jack Ma. At first, we were very happy that our children had finally grown up.
At the New Year, Xiaoxiao brought Ma home to show us. Jack Ma is indeed handsome and polite, and his first impression is good. It just looks several years older than Xiaoxiao, and he is dressed simply, and he feels that his family situation may not be very good.
After the New Year, Xiaoxiao told us that she and Ma Yun planned to rent a house and try to live together to see if the relationship could last. After discussing with us, we agreed. After all, now that society is open and cohabitation is common, it is better to listen to her in the child's affairs.
I said to Xiaoxiao: "Mom will send you 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses, you and Ma Yun try it first." If it feels appropriate, get married: if there are any problems, separate and there is still time to find it again. Your dad and I agree with this plan. ”
Xiaoxiao said happily: "Mom, you're the best!" Thank you for giving me living expenses every month, I will take good care of myself. Jack Ma actually hurts me very much, don't worry. ”
I was overjoyed and praised my daughter for finally meeting a good boyfriend. I began to send 3,000 yuan to my daughter's card every month, in the hope that my daughter could take good care of herself, and also make this son-in-law from a bad family feel grateful and love my precious daughter more.
In order to have 3,000 yuan a month, I started to cut back on food and clothing. There was a wet market near the company, and I went to buy cheap vegetables every morning: I ate them hot at the office at noon. My colleagues said I was so frugal, so I laughed and didn't explain. I thought to myself, for
For the sake of my daughter, I have suffered this little bit. After sending money every month, I called Xiaoxiao to ask how her life was doing. Xiaoxiao said that everything was fine, and Ma Yun was very good to her, so I was relieved.
After a few months, I felt that my son-in-law did not seem to be conscientious enough. When I called Xiaoxiao, she complained to me that Ma Yun often came home late and played games until midnight without sleeping. I was a little disappointed in my heart, but I still encouraged Xiaoxiao to be patient, men have some minor problems, and then slowly adjust after marriage.
After a while, I found that Xiaoxiao's mental state was not very good recently, and there were fewer words on the phone, so I had to take the initiative to find a topic. Once I couldn't help but ask her what was wrong, she told me that Ma Yun was looking for a very unstable job, often busy late or overtime, and returning home at an irregular time. I was very distressed when I heard it, so I told my daughter, don't worry about money, my mother will take care of your life.
Xiaoxiao was silent on the other end of the phone for a while before saying, "Mom, in fact, Ma Yun he..." ”
I quickly said, "Shh, Xiaoxiao, men have difficulties in everything, you have to be patient." You can rest assured that your mother will remit your living expenses to you on time every month, and you can take care of yourself. ”
Xiaoxiao was silent for a while before saying, "Mom, thank you." You're right, I shouldn't complain about him. ”
After hanging up the phone, I thought, why should my good daughter wronged herself? Perhaps the son-in-law did have some difficulties at work. But as long as I continue to support my daughter and provide sufficient living expenses, my son-in-law will one day be grateful to me. At that time, he will definitely love my daughter even more, more than anyone else.
Thinking like this, I put my heart down again. I decided to save a little more and leave 5,000 yuan a month for my daughter. I believe that my precious daughter will definitely live a happy and happy life, and she deserves the best love.
I began to send 5,000 yuan to Xiaoxiao every month, and repeatedly told her to take care of herself, tell her mother if she had any difficulties, and don't wronged herself in vain. Xiaoxiao said every time that he knew, thank you mother. I talked about the trivial things of her life, making her happy and feeling better.
And so it went on for a few more months. One day, I suddenly said to my husband: "Jianjun, we haven't seen Xiaoxiao for several months, why don't we take advantage of the weekend to stay with her for two days to see how my daughter is doing?" ”
My husband readily agreed. I happily prepared Xiaoxiao's favorite snack and planned to take her shopping on the weekend. Finally, on Saturday, we drove to the house that Xiaoxiao and Ma rented.
As soon as I entered, I saw that the room was a mess, full of Jack Ma's clothes and gaming gear. Xiaoxiao's face also looked haggard. Seeing us coming, Xiaoxiao cried and said that recently Ma Yun played games every day and did not work, and she owed all the rent, and she really couldn't stand it.
My husband and I were very angry when we heard it. My husband talked to Jack Ma seriously, telling him that he had to correct it. I felt sorry for my daughter, cleaned the room again, made her food, and advised her to cheer up.
But a few days later, Xiaoxiao still said to me sadly: "Mom, actually, Ma Yun, he... ”
At this time, Ma Yun came back, his attitude was very bad, and he went into the room to play games without looking at us. Xiaoxiao looked at his back, and tears flowed down again.
I couldn't hold back anymore, and went directly into the room and said to Jack Ma: "You give me out!" Can't afford to support a family and don't look for a job, you know to play all day! You deserve to be single for the rest of your life! I'm sorry for my family Xiaoxiao, you give me to pack up my things and get out immediately! ”
Ma Yun was startled by me and actually obediently did so. After packing his luggage, he did not dare to look at us and left. Xiaoxiao looked at his back as he left, and then at my husband and me, and suddenly buried his head and cried.
I was very distressed, and I hugged my daughter and said, "Xiaoxiao, my mother is wrong." I shouldn't force you to leave Jack Ma. Listen to you whatever you want, and your mother will always support you. ”
Xiaoxiao hugged me and said, "Mom, I'm also at fault, I shouldn't hide it from you." Actually, Jack Ma... ”
Xiaoxiao sobbed and said, "Jack Ma, he has gambling problems, and he often goes out to find other women... I didn't dare to tell you the truth before, for fear that you would be disappointed. ”
My husband and I couldn't believe it. It turns out that we overestimated this son-in-law!
The husband comforted Xiaoxiao: "Xiaoxiao, you don't have to blame yourself, it's normal to choose the wrong person." The key is to see the other person's problems in time and then decisively end the relationship. You're young and you'll meet better people. ”
I also said to my daughter: "My dear, it is normal to encounter such bumps in the future, as long as you are safe." Mom will always support you. ”
Xiaoxiao finally stopped crying and hugged my husband and me. She said strongly, "Mom, Dad, thank you." I know what to do. I will officially break up with Jack Ma, and I will think more independently in the future and not let you worry about me anymore. ”
Later, Xiaoxiao decisively broke up with Jack Ma and found a stable job. Gradually, she regained her vitality and smile, which reassured us a lot.
This incident made me reflect a lot. I found that as a mother, I should not use money to try to force an incompetent son-in-law. I mistakenly thought that money could be exchanged for gratitude and a happy life for Xiaoxiao. But I ignored that feelings and responsibilities cannot be measured in money.
A good son-in-law needs to have a sense of responsibility and sincere feelings. Even if he has average conditions, as long as I take care of my daughter, I am satisfied. And Jack Ma is obviously an irresponsible person, and I shouldn't open up to him because of his family's bad situation.
Fortunately, Xiaoxiao noticed the problem in time and bravely chose to break up. As a mother, I should not force my daughter's choice, but give her more trust and support. Xiaoxiao's growth made me see her inner maturity and strength.
This incident became a valuable experience for our family. I will learn from the lessons and continue to support Xiaoxiao in her own path. I believe that with her intelligent ability, she will definitely find a real suitable other half. When she invites her new boyfriend over to her house again, I will definitely bless me, not set standards.
A year later, Xiaoxiao fell in love again. This time, the object is called Wang Tianwei, a colleague of her company.
When Xiaoxiao first brought Wang Tianwei home, I took a deep breath and decided not to look at people through colored glasses. This time, we must give my daughter the greatest respect and support.
Wang Tianwei looks ordinary and is not outstanding, but his manners are very cultivated. Xiaoxiao took out the meal she made with her own hands to treat us, and said with a smile: "Mom, this time my cooking is much better than before, right?" ”
Seeing the happiness on my daughter's face, I couldn't help but burst into tears and said in a loud voice: "Good, good." We Xiaoxiao have become excellent! ”
After dinner, Wang Tianwei offered to help clear the table and wash the dishes. I looked at my husband, and my heart surged with inexplicable relief - what a gentle and virtuous son-in-law!
Later, Xiaoxiao and Wang Tianwei officially registered their marriage. After marriage, I found that Wang Tianwei was very considerate to Xiaoxiao. When I come home from work, I always bring Xiaoxiao snacks or flowers. Xiaoxiao's cooking was eaten with relish, and praised "his wife's craftsmanship is really good".
On weekdays, Wang Tianwei takes the initiative to share household chores and often cooks simple meals to reduce Xiaoxiao's burden. Xiaoxiao occasionally came home late from work and overtime, and Wang Tianwei didn't mind at all, only telling her to pay attention to safety.
During the New Year and festivals, Wang Tianwei always carefully prepared gifts and surprises for Xiaoxiao. Seeing my daughter's happy look, my husband and wife said that they had won the lottery, and they really raised such a good son-in-law for nothing!
Now that Xiaoxiao is pregnant, Wang Tianwei takes care of everything about her. Xiaoxiao called, his tone full of happiness: "Mom, don't worry, everything is fine with me and the baby, and my husband is really good and good to me..." ”
Putting the phone down, I was thrilled. My wife put her arm around me and said, "We have found true love!" If you have a baby in the future, you will definitely be happy. ”
I nodded, tears welling up in my eyes. Our daughter finally met someone she could trust her whole life to. Although he does not have Jack Ma's outstanding appearance, he has a sense of responsibility and love that Jack Ma cannot match.
This time, I will no longer look at people with colored glasses and measure the quality of a son-in-law by money. The most important thing is always his love and care for his daughter. This time, I will wholeheartedly bless my daughter and accompany her to welcome another good time in life.