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It is natural for children to be filial to their parents, and when we are young, our parents take care of us, and when our parents are old and sick, we should also take care of them. However, in real life, the elderly at home are sick, but the children find various reasons, preferring to spend money on a nurse rather than stay in the hospital to take care of it personally.
Aunt Lu, 50, has been exhausted recently because her 78-year-old mother has been hospitalized again, which is the third hospital in six months. Every time she was hospitalized, her mother asked Aunt Lu to take personal care, no nurses, no others, just Aunt Lu. Aunt Lu was choked enough by her mother and finally understood why some children were not filial.
The story of 50-year-old Aunt Lu:
"As the saying goes, there is an old man in the family, and there is a treasure. We also have an old family, but it makes me physically and mentally exhausted, and sometimes I really prefer that the person lying in the hospital is myself. ”
My mother had three children, the eldest brother died two years ago, I am the second oldest, and there is a younger brother below. In the past, my mother lived with my eldest brother, and my sister-in-law took care of me, and I would often visit her to buy her some food and supplements.
At that time, my sister-in-law always complained to me, saying that my mother was too torturous and had an idea, and if she didn't follow her ideas, she could whisper in your ear for a day. And the character is fierce, do not hit the south wall and do not look back, you have to prove that she is wrong to stop.
My sister-in-law swallowed her anger and took care of my mother for several years, and then my eldest brother died unexpectedly, and my mother changed her domineering attitude and found me and said that she didn't want to live with my sister-in-law anymore and wanted to move to live with me.
My sister-in-law was very angry when she heard this, and she cried to me: "My man just left, our mother was in a hurry to leave, didn't this make me poke in the spine?" Uninformed people thought I had taken her away. ”
I comforted my sister-in-law: "Sister-in-law, we know in our hearts what kind of person you are, you have worked hard to take care of your mother over the years, and I will take care of her in the future." ”
After that, I helped my mother pack up and took me to my accommodation. My son works in the field, the two rooms in the house are empty, and my mother happens to live in the small study.
I can't help but sigh that since I got married, I have rarely lived with my mother, and it has been more than twenty years. My mother is old, I should take care of her and be filial to her, my eldest brother is gone, and this burden should be taken down by me.
I told my mother, if you lack something, tell me. Her mother said she wanted a humidifier and a foot soaking bucket, and she needed 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses.
The mother additionally emphasized that she used to live in her eldest brother's house, and her eldest brother and sister-in-law gave her money every month, which she used to dispose of.
I agreed to my mother's requests, and although my life is not rich, I will try to fulfill my mother's requests.
After buying the humidifier and foot soak bucket, my mother played with it for a while, and experienced it again that night, saying it was good. But I didn't see her use it after that, so I asked my mother why she didn't use it? My mother said that the humidifier had been on for a long time and consumed electricity, and that it was too troublesome to pour water from the foot soaking bucket.
My mother lives with me, she is almost 80, usually I don't want her to do anything, just sit and watch TV, go to the room to rest when she is tired, take her out twice every morning and evening, and the days will pass.
A week later, my mother told me that I didn't know what was going on lately, and I always felt tightness in my chest and lay down in a panic. I had no experience, so I quickly called my sister-in-law to ask if my mother had such a situation before. The sister-in-law said that she had never met her, and that her mother had eaten and slept well when she was at his house before, and she could also carry water and water.
I think it may be that I have not adapted to a different environment, and it will be fine after a while. However, his mother was very scared and said that he might not be able to do it, and he wanted to call his third brother to explain the situation to him.
I said don't scare yourself, don't stay at home all day, go out and breathe fresh air, and your chest will not be stuffy. For the next two days, my mother was like a lost soul, always sighing, and unwilling to eat. I had to ask for leave from work and take her to the hospital for examination.
The doctor said that the mother did not have any big problems, it may be that the son died psychologically uncomfortable, and he changed the environment, so the body is not very comfortable, and it is enough to rest and recuperate.
I was relieved to hear the doctor say this, but my mother said that the doctor didn't understand anything, she felt that she had a heart problem, and she had to be hospitalized for a full body examination.
I advised my mother to listen to the doctor, this hospital does not say how much it costs, it will take more than a week alone, and I still have to work? And which old man is not a little sick, that needs to be adjusted slowly.
The mother crossed her waist and said that she would not leave the hospital today. I was embarrassed that I had to ask the doctor to issue a hospital bill, and I went to go through the hospitalization procedures for my mother.
I secretly called my sister-in-law outside and asked if she could take turns with me to the hospital to take care of her mother, and her sister-in-law said that her mother-in-law had been in poor health recently, and she had gone back to take care of her mother.
I went back to the ward and told my mother to get a nurse and I had to go to work. The mother agreed, but she would not pay for the carer's money.
I paid 3,000 on the day I was hospitalized, and the nurse told me that I owed money in less than two days, and I checked that there was still a difference of more than 2,000, and I quickly made up for the money. In fact, I haven't done anything in the past few days, just various inspections, and then hang water.
The mother chatted with the people in the ward, speaking quickly, logically, and ruddyly, looking like she was sick. I see that she is intentional, spending money like water these days, looking at the bill I really hurt.
On the fourth day of hospitalization, her mother said that she did not want the nurse to come, and she was not seen for half a day. And I went to the nurse, but the nurse cried to me, saying that the old lady would instruct her to do everything, and that she would take a charger and a stool, calling her like a servant.
Helplessly, I had to ask the unit for leave and go to the hospital to accompany my mother, fortunately only accompanied for three days, my mother was discharged, otherwise I really don't know when to toss.
On the day I was discharged from the hospital, my mother seemed to be in a good mood and strode ahead, and if I had judged the two of them a week earlier, I couldn't help but wonder if my mother had done it on purpose.
When I got home, life was as usual, and after more than a month, my mother shouted that I was not feeling well, I said I would take you to the community hospital to see, and my mother said that I would not go to a small hospital, but to a large hospital.
I said that I would wait two days, when I rested, my mother had to ask me to take her today, and she was lying on the sofa covering her chest and saying that she was very uncomfortable and could not breathe.
There was no way, I had to ask the right class to help me for half a day, and I would rush to work in the afternoon. Like last time, the doctor recommended that we have an electrocardiogram and the test results come out that everything is normal.
The doctor asked my mother where she was unwell, and her mother couldn't say anything, one would say that her chest was uncomfortable, the other would say she was dizzy, and asked me to call my sister-in-law and ask her to send some supplements.
The doctor wanted to prescribe medicine to my mother, and my mother said that she would be hospitalized for examination, and she was not at ease if she did not check it, and said that she had been having diarrhea in the past few days and did not tell me.
I just remembered that my mother had eaten a lot of greasy in the past few days, and she had eaten all the melons, maybe the stomach was not digested well, and this caused diarrhea. But my mother said that an old man in her hometown had diarrhea for several days and finally died of some cancer, and she was very worried, afraid that she was also this disease.
When my mother said this, I was also a little scared, so I hesitated and agreed that my mother was hospitalized. But after completing the hospitalization procedures, I came back to my senses, does this mean that I have to take care of my mother in the hospital for several days? What about my job?
I said to my mother, "Mom, let my sister-in-law take care of you this time, I have already told her." But the mother shouted: "She is a daughter-in-law, you are my daughter, how can a daughter-in-law have a daughter?" ”
This sentence was heard by my sister-in-law who came back from the meal, she stood at the door, looked at us twice, turned and left. I really obeyed my mother, I finally begged people to come and take care of you, and as a result, you offended people with a few words.
There are also no major problems in this hospitalization examination, the elderly function deteriorates, it is normal to have geriatric diseases, in addition, the mother's body is very healthy.
After returning home from this hospitalization, I thought my mother would be stable for a while, but within two months, my mother cried out that she was not feeling well. Say that your stomach is always regurgitating acid, and you feel uncomfortable as soon as you lie down.
So I took my mother to the hospital for a gastroscope, and the doctor suggested that my mother eat less rice and eat steamed buns appropriately in the future. After that, let us go home. The mother said, "This is going home? Am I okay? ”
The doctor comforted her mother and said that the stomach problem should be treated slowly, and she could not come in a hurry. But my mother didn't listen, I had to be admitted to the hospital for conditioning, I was really angry this time, I yelled at my mother: "Hospitalized every day, how can you toss so much?" ”
The mother glared and said: "You unfilial daughter, I am sick, you still don't let me be hospitalized, don't you feel sorry for money?" ”
As soon as I heard my mother ask for money, a wave of grievances poured in, the hard-earned money I earned in a month was not enough for her to spend a week, the key was that there was no big problem, she had to be hospitalized. It was said that she adjusted slowly, and she still did not adhere to it.
"Mom, can you consider it for us, I have to take leave as soon as you are hospitalized, the company is not opened by my family, where can I pay you for hospitalization if I don't go to work?"
I think my mother is a blind toss, there is no problem and I have to be hospitalized, and I am not allowed to hire a nurse, I don't want a sister-in-law, I want to take care of me by the side, I just have filial piety, I can't withstand such a toss!
The mother suddenly cried: "I know that I am old and have become a burden to you, forget it, you don't care about me, let me fend for myself!" ”
The doctors and the patients outside were staring at us, and I felt very embarrassed and wanted to go into the hole. In the end, my mother was hospitalized again.
I was hospitalized three times in six months, and I was physically and mentally exhausted, and there was no one who complained. I also heard my mother call my third brother, saying that I hoped that she would leave early, and that it was useless to raise my daughter.
Hearing this, my heart was dripping blood. I finally understand why some children are not filial, filial piety is really too difficult, especially at our age, there are children who have not yet started a family, there are parents who are seventy or eighty years old, and they have no ability to make a lot of money, it is really too difficult!