"Goodbye Lover 3" is more sad than the love brain, and the sober love brain is the king sleeping
Wang sleeps and complains that Zhang Shuo is immature, not responsible, does not understand romance, and even is extremely indifferent, he is sick, he ignores it, and the two have not lived as a husband and wife for more than a year, and Wang sleeps still does not leave Zhang Shuo. In this relationship, although he was very aggrieved, he still had a glimmer of hope for Zhang Shuo...
The premise of the lover is love, do not consume yourself with internal attrition, soberly watch yourself sink, in addition to the hurt in love and the pain of self-awareness of the current situation!
In the latest issue, Wang sleeps and Zhang Shuo talks, sleeps calmly analyzes the reason for the contradiction between the two lies in the different steps of their growth, and frankly said: "Some things may be ingrained in your memory for a long time, it is true that you have been taking care of me when I was in school, but after you get married, you still feel that you have been taking care of me, but you can't see my growth." In fact, escaping the problem cannot be solved, I can't do 100% without expectations, in fact, I still hope that you can get better. It's really hard to wait for a boy to grow. ”
The love brain is a manifestation of extreme unease and lack of love, forming obsessive attachment, longing for intimate relationships and fear of abandonment, and excessive pursuit and control of love. There are 4 typical manifestations of the love brain:
1. Like opening a ten-level filter, only see the advantages of the other party, and selectively ignore the shortcomings.
2. Don't care if the other party needs it or not, give it all. But if you don't get something in return, you feel frustrated, give more, and enter a vicious circle.
3. Insecure, do not know how to maintain a suitable distance between space and time.
4. Mood swings are large, suffering from gains and losses. Sometimes it's irreluctant, sometimes it's quite painful and overwhelmed.
Even more painful than the love brain is the sober love brain. In fact, you know that this relationship has no results, you know that he does not like himself so much, and still allows himself to sink into it, and will never look back without hitting the south wall. I understand the truth, but I can't help but fall into the emotional vortex. Then you fall soberly, soberly painful, soberly consuming. Soberly watch yourself step by step into the mud, desperate and deadly. Seriously, if a relationship makes you unconfident, sensitive, self-doubting, suffering from gains and losses, and becoming more and more insecure, say goodbye in time, if you don't feel love, you don't have it.
Please believe that a healthy intimate relationship is mutual respect, companionship, mutual trust, mutual healing, and can bring you positive power.