Older people should maintain a cheerful and indifferent attitude. As long as you can do the following, you can live and understand.
Take care of your wealth.
Seniors should remember to keep their money bags, but be principled.
After retiring, his neighbor Lao Zhang has been managing his own passbook and pension. After his wife's death, his health deteriorated and his children scrambled to take care of him.
At first, Lao Zhang was very happy because the children were filial. But after a while, the children came less and less, and Lao Zhang felt dissatisfied. The reason is because the children are thinking about how to divide the money and pension money in the old passbook. Lao Zhang has three children, a daughter and two sons.
The eldest son often said that he was under a lot of pressure because he had to take out a loan to buy a house; The younger son often said that it was difficult to find a job, and that he had to provide for his children's education; The daughter said that she was a married daughter, but took the most care of her parents.
Apparently, they are all looking for reasons for themselves to ask for money.
In order to solve this problem, Lao Zhang proposed during the festival that the eldest son keep the passbook, the younger son keep the password, and the money in the passbook is mainly used for medical treatment, while the pension is mainly used for nanny and living expenses. If Lao Zhang dies, the two sons will receive 40% and the daughters will receive 20%.
Through clear regulations, the gap in the home has been reduced and peace has been restored to the family. Every family manages their money differently, but it's important to be public. Because if parents secretly give money to a certain child, it will definitely cause dissatisfaction among other children, resulting in partial contradictions.
Guard your own residence.
The elderly must keep their houses, do not sell them at will, and buy houses for their children. Do as much as you want, don't wait until you live with your children and there are conflicts in the inconvenience of life, and then regret that you have no way out.
Seniors should guard their homes and possessions. Just like the old Yan couple in the TV series "An Home", they sold buns in the city to make a living all their lives, thinking that they could settle down here and pay a down payment for their son to buy a house.
However, what they thought was good was not realized, and they could not even enter the house. If Lao Yan and his wife just want to pay a down payment for their son, and the rest of the money is left for themselves, buying a building in their hometown of Shaanxi can also save a lot of savings for retirement. In this way, even if they are rejected by their sons and daughters-in-law, the old man himself has a warm home and some savings in his hands, and his children will not dislike the old man in their private hearts, and will be willing to maintain a close relationship with the old man.
It is part of human nature that people act in pursuit of self-interest. If the elderly do not have a house and no money, even their own sons will be disgusted.
In life, there are still many elderly people who sell their real estate in order to buy a big house for their children and get married, thinking that they can enjoy the welfare of raising children and preventing aging, but the truth is that they are just wishful thinking for themselves.
It is not selfish that older people should guard their families and property, but to recognize that human hearts are unpredictable and human nature cannot withstand the test. The elderly have their own residence and can go home to live a comfortable and peaceful old age.
Maintain a good partnership.
Older people should remember to keep their wives, because their spouses are the most faithful partners when they are old. Chatting and talking to each other with your wife, even if there are sometimes arguments, at least when you need help the most, your wife is around.
The elderly should guard their families and property, just like the old Yan couple in the TV series "An Home", they sell buns in the city to make a living all their lives, thinking that they can settle down here and pay a down payment for their son to buy a house. However, what they thought was good was not realized, and they could not even enter the house.
If Lao Yan and his wife just want to pay a down payment for their son, and the rest of the money is left for themselves, buying a building in their hometown of Shaanxi can also save a lot of savings for retirement. In this way, even if they are rejected by their sons and daughters-in-law, the old man himself has a warm home and some savings in his hands, and his children will not dislike the old man in their private hearts, and will be willing to maintain a close relationship with the old man.
It is part of human nature that people act in pursuit of self-interest. If the elderly do not have a house and no money, even their own sons will be disgusted. In life, there are still many elderly people who sell their real estate in order to buy a big house for their children and get married, thinking that they can enjoy the welfare of raising children and preventing aging, but the truth is that they are just wishful thinking for themselves. It is not selfish that older people should guard their families and property, but to recognize that human hearts are unpredictable and human nature cannot withstand the test. The elderly have their own residence and can go home to live a comfortable and peaceful old age.
Don't remarry.
If your unfortunate wife dies, don't think about remarrying. Reconstituted families have no emotional basis, just use each other and may eventually break up due to financial problems. Don't make trouble for yourself, two people live, not necessarily one person is comfortable.
Nowadays, there are many blind date programs for the elderly on the Internet, some of whom hope to find a partner who works hard like a deceased wife to take care of themselves and their families; Others hope to find a partner who can help them get through and give them a little pocket money each month.
Some people describe these blind date scenes as like Deyun Society crosstalk, one baggage after another, constantly appearing.
However, not all single older adults want to find another partner.
There is a 62-year-old Aunt Zhao, who has been living alone for more than a decade, and her only daughter has already started a family. People around her once advised her to find a partner to spend the rest of her life with while she was not yet too old.
However, 62-year-old Aunt Zhao said: I have lived alone in this life, if my daughter is unreliable when I really need to be taken care of by others, then I will go to a nursing home and never find a partner to spend my old age together, because it is just asking for trouble, not the happiness of the elderly.
Don't borrow money easily.
Seniors rely heavily on retirement pensions for their income, so don't lend them to others easily, even if they are relatives and friends. Borrowing money is likely to end up asking someone to pay off the debt, and even break up the relationship.
As you get older, your body is weak, but your wisdom must remain sharp and your thinking must remain clear. While financial conditions may be tight, borrowing money from colleagues should not be taken lightly. Colleagues have been in a relationship for many years, the bond is based on interests, and everyone understands the stakes. Competition with colleagues has existed for many years, and it is difficult to get back together with colleagues, let alone borrow money, until outstanding achievements have been achieved. When you are old, you should dilute the emotional ties and interferences. Even if you are poor, accept and comfort yourself in your poor old age. If you have no wealth, you should not bow your head, even if you only have a jug of cloudy wine, you must enjoy your old age in peace.