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My mother's pregnancy accidentally hit my heart, and I was filled with chaos because my father had long since died. At first, I was hesitant to support my mother in having the child, but her will remained steadfast. But this decision reveals an amazing puzzle.
After his father's death, the family was deeply saddened. Soon after, my mother felt something unusual, so I accompanied her to the hospital for examination. However, I was shocked by the doctor's diagnosis: "You're not sick, you're pregnant!" ”
The news was unbelievable to me, I was 30 years old and about to become a father, and my wife Yang Sijia was also six months pregnant. Now, the mother is also pregnant? The age gap is too big and is bound to cause a lot of inconvenience.
The doctor asked if we were considering having the baby, and although there was still a chance of terminating the pregnancy at this moment, he advised us to be cautious given the mother's age and potential risks. In addition, the family's financial situation is not ideal, the father is no longer available, and it will be more difficult to support another child.
Yang Sijia and I originally planned that my mother could help take care of my children while we could live together, allowing me and Yang Sijia to concentrate on our work and earn enough money to support everyone. However, the mother insisted on giving birth to the child! Her attitude is so firm that she would rather not live! Taking care of two children at the same time is undoubtedly an impossible task for us, especially considering her advanced age and the dangers of carrying a child!
In the face of this dilemma, I could not ignore the firm determination of my mother, who after all was my mother. Eventually, I accepted her choice. Two months later, Yang Sijia successfully gave birth to a son, but at this time, I began to worry that my son might face a young brother-in-law when he grew up, and my feelings were complicated.
My mother is old and has no milk, so in order to reduce expenses, we can only let Yang Sijia feed my younger brother. However, meeting the needs of two children at the same time led to Yang Sijia's lack of milk, and we were forced to buy baby formula, which added a lot of burden.
Yang Sijia complained to me dissatisfied: "My own son does not have enough milk to eat, and he has to feed other people's children." I'm just his sister-in-law, would others laugh at us if they knew all this? To be honest, Yang Sijia's concerns are not unfounded. However, considering my mother's advanced age, it was difficult for me to ignore it.
The mother became more and more struggling to take care of her two children, and her physical strength was declining. Busy with my child's needs every day, my worries about her are growing day by day. Therefore, Yang Sijia and I agreed to sell my mother's old house, we will live together, and use the proceeds from the sale to support my younger brother. Although Yang Sijia reluctantly agreed, when I went to inform my mother, she objected.
The mother insisted that the house could not be divided and must be left for the younger brother! I understand her considerations, after all, my brother is too young, no matter what the future holds, he needs at least a stable residence as a basic guarantee!
In the face of my mother's resolute attitude, I felt that I could not leave her behind no matter what. We have had a hard time all these years. I work overtime every day to earn extra income, while Yang Sijia needs to take care of her children, do some housework, and even find a part-time job. We are in deep financial distress and psychological stress.
Six years later, when my brother, who turned six, accidentally fell and injured his head and needed a blood transfusion, the doctor told me that the child was not the father's biological son.
I was so angry that I questioned my mother. She simply replied, "You don't need to know who his real father is, just treat him like your own brother!" "Despite my inquiries, my mother still did not reveal the truth.
Yang Sijia gritted her teeth angrily and said, "We have paid so much in recent years, but we end up raising other people's children. If this child belongs to your father, it is worth the hardship to raise him. But now look, mother won't even tell us the truth!! ”
I understand Yang Sijia's anger very well, because only the two of us know the hardships of the past few years. Yang Sijia asked my decision, do I continue to take care of my brother? Although he is not even biological?
I love Yang Sijia and our son deeply and don't want to divorce, especially since the marriage crisis doesn't come from us. However, this child was born to my mother after all. If I ignore him, my mother is old and she can't take care of herself at all.
Life is a journey full of miracles and variables, always full of unexpected twists and turns. I remember when my mother became pregnant and my father had long since died, my heart was in turmoil. I hesitated when faced with my mother's decision to give birth to this child, but then the choice revealed an unexpected mystery.
After my father's death, our family was immersed in grief. However, life never stood still due to sadness, and soon my mother showed physical discomfort, so I accompanied her to the hospital for examination. To my surprise, the doctor's diagnosis turned out to be "You're pregnant!" ”
The news was undoubtedly a thunderbolt, and for me, a soon-to-be father, and my wife was six months pregnant, the accident was almost inconceivable. Now the mother is also pregnant? The age gap is huge, which is bound to bring many unexpected challenges.
The doctor asked us if we wanted to continue carrying the baby, and although termination surgery could still be performed at this time, the doctor advised us to think twice considering the age of the mother and the potential risks. In addition, the father has long passed away, the financial situation of our family is not so rosy, and it will become quite difficult to raise a newborn.
Initially, my wife and I planned to have my mother help take care of my children, and we could live together so that my wife and I could focus on our work to earn the money we needed to live. However, the mother insisted on giving birth to the child, and she was firm, even saying that she would rather not live. Taking care of two children at the same time may seem like an impossible task for us, especially considering her advanced age and carrying a child is fraught with risks for her.
However, when I saw my mother's firmness and determination, I couldn't bear to refuse her, because after all, she was my mother. Finally, two months later, my wife gave birth to a son. However, I also began to worry about how my son would treat this young brother-in-law in the future, and this age difference would lead to complicated relationships.
Due to the mother's advanced age, she did not have milk, so we had to buy baby formula to feed the child. But feeding the two children together makes the wife's milk volume insufficient, which means that we need to bear more financial burden. My wife complained to me, "My own son doesn't have enough milk to feed him, so he has to feed other people's children." I'm just his sister-in-law, would anyone else laugh at us if they knew about it? "My wife's concerns seem to have some justification, however, in the face of my elderly mother, I cannot ignore her needs.
As time passed, it became more and more difficult for the mother to take care of her two children, and her physical strength became weaker and weaker. Busy every day with the needs of my children, my worries about my mother are growing day by day. So my wife and I decided to sell our mother's old house, live together, and use the proceeds from the sale to support my brother. Although my wife reluctantly agreed, when I made this suggestion to my mother, she firmly objected.
The mother insisted that the house was indivisible and must be reserved for the younger brother! I understand her considerations, because my brother is too young and no matter what happens in the future, he will at least need a fixed residence as a basic guarantee.
In the face of my mother's resolute attitude, I felt that I could not leave her behind no matter what. Over the years, our lives have become extremely difficult. I work overtime every day to earn extra income, my wife has to take care of the children, do housework, and even find a part-time job. We are under deep economic and psychological pressure.
Six years later, when my brother, who turned six, accidentally fell and injured his head and needed a blood transfusion, the doctor told me that the child was not the father's biological son.
I was so angry that I questioned my mother. However, she simply replied: "You don't need to know who his real father is, just treat him like your own brother!" "Despite my inquiries, my mother still did not reveal the truth.
The wife said angrily: "Over the years, we have given so much, and the result is that we are raising other people's children." If this child belongs to our father, it is worth it even if we work hard to raise him. But now look, my mother won't even tell the truth!! ”
I deeply understand my wife's anger because only the two of us understand the hardships of the past few years.
My wife asked me if we should continue to raise this child, even though he was not the father's biological son?
I love my wife and our son deeply and don't want a divorce, especially since the crisis in my marriage is not caused by us. However, this child was born to my mother after all. If I ignore him, my mother is over sixty years old and she can't take care of herself. This makes me hesitate between morality and responsibility.