#秋日生活打卡季#
Lead:
Every Mid-Autumn Festival or National Day, my husband rushed back to his hometown to reunite with his parents, so he never went back to his mother's house to spend the Mid-Autumn Festival and have a reunion dinner with his parents.
This year, my husband brought my in-laws to live at home for a long time, and finally I don't have to rush back to my hometown, and Zhongqin plans to bring my parents and reunite together for the Mid-Autumn Reunion Festival.
Zhongqin had already said hello to her husband, but after her parents came, she only stayed for 5 days, and even before the Mid-Autumn Festival arrived, her husband began to rush people. Looking at the beating husband, the carillon also opened the door to see off the in-laws, and your parents also left.
Narrator: Carillon
Since I married my husband, every year on the big holiday, my husband without exception drives back to his hometown to reunite with his in-laws. As for my parents, my husband will only say that the water splashed by the married daughter has no reason to return to her mother's house for the festival.
So, year after year, although I usually go back to my mother's house, I have not been able to go back to my mother's house once during the New Year holidays. Every time parents prepare what we like to eat early and wait, but waiting for them is disappointed.
Because even if my husband promised well at first, but my in-laws called, my husband was soft and compromised. In the end, without exception, it was my husband who asked me to continue to endure, saying that as a son, he must fulfill his filial piety.
My husband said this as if I, a married daughter, did not need to fulfill my filial piety. Every time I did, I would have a big fight with him. But quarrels won't help. What your husband decides, you won't change easily.
This year, my husband discussed with me, saying that his parents are old and have no one to take care of them in their hometown alone, and in case of any accident, no one can find out in time, so he decided to take his parents to take care of them.
But I think my in-laws are not too old, and they can take care of themselves. In addition, we give them 2,000 yuan on time every month for living expenses, and their lives are more leisurely and comfortable than ours. But my objection was invalid, and my husband still insisted on going his own way.
After my in-laws came, my life at home became a little depressed. There is not much public talk, and he will not deliberately pick and choose. But the mother-in-law is different, she likes to nag, she likes to point fingers, she must obey her command in everything, and she cannot disobey in the slightest.
The strength of my mother-in-law makes me very distressed. And what makes me even more distressed is that my mother-in-law urged us to have a second child at home all day, saying that I only gave birth to a daughter and no son, how can I pass on the lineage in the future?
Originally, my husband firmly stood on my side, but after my mother-in-law came, under her many brainwashing, my husband also began to soft and hard bubbles on me, saying that he was an only child, and he had long experienced enough of the feeling of loneliness and helplessness, and could no longer let his daughter experience it.
But if I have a second child, my current job with great prospects for promotion and salary may not be saved. After all, the economic situation is not good now, who does not want to keep their job?
I did not promise to have a second child, but I advised my husband, now men and women are the same, the key is education. Children are well educated, one top several. Seeing me so tough, my mother-in-law was very annoyed, thinking that I was deliberately shirking responsibility and deliberately causing her son to cut off his son.
My mother-in-law's anger made me feel ridiculous. Children are not born and raised, and they require a lot of time and money, which we do not currently have.
My objection, let the mother-in-law treat me that the nose is not a nose, and the eyes are not eyes. I don't bother to take care of her, it's my right to have children, I don't want to have a second child, and no one can help me.
It's just that my mother-in-law has only been here for more than half a year, and we have had countless quarrels, and the relationship between husband and wife is much worse than before. But I am not willing to compromise, once I relent, then what awaits me is the day when the stay-at-home mother will never show up again.
Seeing that the Mid-Autumn Festival is approaching, I proposed to go to my parents' house this year for the festival. But my husband said that his parents finally came from their hometown to reunite with us, and if we went to our parents-in-law's house and left his parents alone, it would be too pitiful.
I held my breath and asked him, before my parents were alone after big and small festivals, why don't you feel sorry for them? The husband said reasonably, how can it be the same? The son-in-law is not obliged to support his parents-in-law.
No matter what I said, my husband just refused to leave his parents and go back to my mother's house for the holidays. I proposed to bring my in-laws with me, my parents would not dislike it, and my husband still refused, saying that his parents would be very uncomfortable when they went to my mother's house.
This can't work, that can't work, so I had to offer to simply take my parents to live at home for a while, and spend the holidays together as a family. My husband still wanted to object, but after seeing my fierce expression, if he objected, he could only swallow it back, nodded and compromised.
I quickly drove back to pick up my parents, who were still afraid of affecting us, causing discord between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and refused to come. It wasn't until I said, if you don't go, then I'll stay at my mother's house and don't leave, that they packed up their bags and followed me home.
After arriving at my house, my mother-in-law's attitude and tone were not very enthusiastic, and my parents were a little restrained. Fortunately, my parents did not take it to heart, and they took care of all the housework as soon as they came.
So, I stayed in my house for a few days, and my parents took care of all the housework and meals. As for my in-laws, I sat back and enjoyed it, lying on the sofa playing with my mobile phone and waiting for my parents to serve.
Seeing that my parents came to my house and had to serve my in-laws and our big family, I had mixed feelings in my heart. I quickly pulled my parents and asked them not to put their posture too low, this is the home of your daughter's son-in-law.
But the parents promised well, but they were still a little cautious in their actions. Seeing my parents' appearance, I was angry and annoyed, but I couldn't do anything about them.
It's just that my parents are so diligent in doing everything, and my mother-in-law is still not satisfied, either disgusted that the taste of the food is weak, or dislikes that the house at home is small and there are more people in the family. My mother-in-law said that my parents were not self-aware, and my parents were not easy to refute every time, just smiled awkwardly.
And after my parents stayed for 5 days, my mother-in-law and my mother had a fierce argument. My mother-in-law insisted that I refused to have a second child, and my mother instigated her son behind my back and deliberately let her son have no offspring. The mother, who has always had a gentle personality, also said angrily, whether to have a second child is my daughter's right, and you are not qualified to interfere as a mother-in-law.
The two sides quarreled fiercely, and my father-in-law and my father were next to me to persuade to no avail. And since this quarrel, the mother, who has always been virtuous, has also given up her hand, and no longer serves the two in-laws as carefully as before.
The mother-in-law enjoyed the days of sitting and enjoying the success, and naturally she was no longer willing to do housework and cooking, so she complained to her son every day. My husband was tormented by my mother-in-law every day, so he simply said that he would send my parents back to his hometown.
It's not yet the Mid-Autumn Festival, so naturally I won't be willing to let my husband send my parents back. What's more, if you want to send it back, you should also send it back by both parents, without discrimination.
But my husband didn't care about this, picked up my parents' luggage and went out, and rightly said that my son-in-law was not obliged to support his parents-in-law. Seeing my husband act like this, I couldn't bear it anymore.
I also have a similar example, take my in-laws' luggage, open the door to send away my in-laws, since my parents want to leave, then your parents also go, are parents, should be treated equally, not one or the other.
Seeing that I am so stubborn, oil and salt do not enter, and my husband is also one head and two big. But he spoke, and it was not good to hit himself in the face again. Finally, at my insistence, my husband sent his parents back to his hometown, and I also took the child to accompany my parents back to my mother's house and lived directly.
I thought I was just a whim, but it can be seen that if I don't come back, my husband is a little anxious, and several calls a day urge me to bring my children back quickly, and I can return to my hometown in time to reunite with his parents in time for the Mid-Autumn Festival.
I smiled contemptuously, this Mid-Autumn Festival, I didn't go anywhere, so I took my children to live in my mother's house and spend the holidays with my parents. My husband will either go back to his hometown alone to spend the holidays with his parents, or he will come to my mother's house for the holidays, anyway, from now on, I will not accommodate him in everything.
Today's Topic:
Do you think couples should treat both parents equally?