Author: Cui Lishan, Shanxi Datong University
In Tianjin, I met such a couple. The wife believes that parents are important, children are important, and siblings are important. Only the husband is not important.
"Accompany me to Tianjin Haihe tomorrow for a walk, okay?" The husband asked. "Nope. I have to wash my grandson's clothes, shoes and socks. The wife said.
"Wife, can you help me find a black backpack?" Husband requested. "Nope. It's time to make lunch. The child wants to eat braised carp. The wife replied.
"Wife, can I eat the grapes on the coffee table?" For a long time, my husband did not eat grapes. Grapes are his favorite fruit. However, his wife disappointed him.
"You can't eat, that's for the child." If you want to eat, go buy it yourself. ”
When the child was young, his wife circled around the child every day. When the child grows up, he still revolves around the child. The child became a father and mother and continued to revolve around the grandchildren. Only when the lights at home are broken, the door lock is broken, and the sewer is blocked, does the wife think of her husband. Many women, once they become grandmothers and grandmothers, live in their sons and daughters' homes for a long time to take care of their children, and live the life of a cowherd and a weaver girl with their husbands.
In the homes of sons and daughters, these women are free babysitters. To be precise, not even a nanny is inferior. Nanny work is not free and not angry. They do boring things and swallow their anger. Children criticize and blame them just as a leader reprimands his subordinates, but they have no regrets.
Why some men either cheat or divorce, as long as the children do not want a husband is the root cause. Many women do not know that in this world, the closest people are not parents, not children, but partners. They forget that their parents die before they do, that their children grow up to form their own families, and that their partners are the ones who accompany them to the end.
When they are old, only their husbands can understand, support them, and rely on them for life.
When they are sick, uncomfortable, and frustrated, they are still partners who are by their side to comfort and encourage them.
At a university in the United States, a professor asked a girl to play a game with him at the end of class.
The rules of the game are to write the names of the 20 people closest to you on the board and cross out the one you think is least important.
The girls crossed out neighbors, friends, and finally only parents, husbands and children.
At this time, the professor said, "Please cross out another one." ”
The girl was stunned, she slowly picked up the chalk, made a difficult decision, and finally crossed out the names of her parents.
"Please cross out another one." The professor's voice sounded again.
The girl picked up the chalk again and slowly crossed out the child's name.
After doing this, she cried, her expression very pained.
The professor said: Parents will eventually leave, and children will have to fly alone. The only person who accompanies us to taste bitter and sweet sourness, witness our glorious downfall, and walk hand in hand through the journey of life is the spouse.
So, at all times, put your partner first. In real life, the lessons of misplaced family relationships are too many and too profound.
In Datong, Shanxi, after his son became a father, his mother immediately went to Beijing to help him raise his grandson, leaving his father alone in Datong. My father ate simply during the day and stayed up long nights at night. I often drank alcohol, and even if I was sick and hospitalized for surgery, I signed it for myself.
In the blink of an eye, 3 years have passed, and my mother has only returned to Datong twice, and it has come and gone in a hurry. Beijing's grandson grew up little by little, his father's health became worse and worse, he was skinny, and soon died. When he died, he had no relatives around him, only the family dog accompanied him.
Meet a couple who live in Taiyuan, Shanxi. Since having children, the wife has treated the children as the whole world. For 5 consecutive years, I have not visited the park with my husband, I have not eaten out alone with my husband, and I have not found time to go sightseeing with my husband.
Since having children, the wife has been snubbing her husband. She doesn't care what her husband eats and wears; What her husband went out to run errands and when he would come home, she did not ask. In the end, the two agreed to divorce, and Lao Yan separated.
You can't be close to your parents, you can't get close to a couple. Be kind to your partner. The most rewarding investment in life is to be kind to your partner, to your husband and wife who you share a bed with.