Fu Seoul, who is good at analyzing love and marriage, is unable to cope with his marriage. She and Lao Liu want to find the answer in "Goodbye Lover 3".
Many netizens were surprised by Fu Seoul and Lao Liu who appeared in the divorce variety show. Everyone does not understand, Fu Seoul, who sees through all emotions and is good at enlightening others, is now presented in front of netizens is her sense of powerlessness.
In the first program, Fu Seoul said that Lao Liu took the initiative to file for divorce. She knew that the two had problems, but never realized that it had reached the point of divorce.
The reason why Lao Liu wants to divorce, the reason he gave is that this marriage makes him too depressed, and he has lost himself. In order to develop Fu Seoul's career, the family moved from Hefei to Shanghai. From this moment on, Lao Liu became a "full-time cook".
Lao Liu's life all day is to send his children to school, pick them up from school, and socialize almost zero. Several years of such a life made him extremely depressed. In stark contrast to the elder Liu, Fu Seoul's career is getting better and better. This family presents a scene of the female protagonist and the male protagonist. In order to find his lost self, Lao Liu filed for divorce.
Seeing this scene, many people empathized with Lao Liu and thought that it was indeed the family that trapped him. A man who revolves around his family all day, his real needs are ignored. He becomes unhappy and he should go and find his true self. Some netizens even accused Fu Seoul, believing that she did not help Lao Liu go out and did not fulfill her obligations as a wife.
But after the gender switch, what if it is a full-time housewife trapped in the family? It seems that everything has become reasonable. Most people take it for granted that women take on more family responsibilities, and men think this way, and women think the same way.
Therefore, housewives' personal spiritual pursuits are ignored, and when men like Lao Liu raise such questions, they resonate with more people.
Some people say that Fu Seoul is too strong, and it is precisely because of his strength that Lao Liu gradually becomes less talkative. But when the show continued to broadcast, when Fu Seoul shared the story of their marriage, netizens began to empathize with Fu Seoul again, thinking that Lao Liu himself also had many problems.
Fu Seoul said that she has been married for 15 years, and many times she is leading the direction of the family, but there is a reason for this. She gave an example that when her family decorates the house and wants to lay the floor, she asked Lao Liu to measure the size at home.
But as a result, I ended up buying half a room of floors. These floors cannot be thrown away, but can only occupy a lot of space. Fu Seoul didn't know that Lao Liu didn't pay attention to this matter, or how. And something similar has appeared more than once.
In the long run, Fu Seoul has the right to speak in the family. Because as long as she doesn't come forward, there will be such and such problems. Fu Seoul's description of the marriage resonated with more people.
Fu Seoul did not take the initiative to become stronger, because Lao Liu could not count on it, and she had no choice but to become stronger. In this process, outsiders can only see her strong side, but cannot understand her inner fatigue. Old Liu's inner feelings were ignored, why not Fu Seoul?
Therefore, after Lao Liu filed for divorce, although Fu Seoul was surprised, he did not refuse in his heart. In the first episode of the program, when the two people chose whether to divorce, they both chose "yes".
Lao Liu believes that marriage has bound him, and Fu Seoul has also lost his initial passion in his long married life. This includes zero love in her mouth, and the support of a long-term person for the family.
In the show, Lao Liu's state always seems to be a person complaining. Fu Seoul, who looks optimistic, tells the story in her heart in another way. Perhaps after saying it, the emotions were released, and Fu Seoul was crying almost every issue of the scene of "Goodbye Lover 3".
But interestingly, in the latest episode of the program, Lao Liu burst into tears under the analysis of the guests, and he realized his problems.
Host Li Jing and Dai Jun appeared in the show as surprise guests. Seeing Fu Seoul and Lao Liu, they were surprised like most netizens. But after listening to the description of their married life, Li Jing and Dai Jun accurately said the problems of this family.
People who can share suffering often cannot share happiness together, which is a cruel fairy tale in the love world of adults. Lao Liu once said that he loved Fu Seoul very much when he first met her. Li Jing asked him to describe the feeling at that time.
Lao Liu said that the biggest characteristic of his own love with a person is his willingness to change. Dai Jun then asked, is it because he doesn't want to change now? Lao Liu did not answer Dai Jun's question head-on.
Li Jing commented that the reason why Lao Liu was reluctant to change was that he loved himself more and put Fu Seoul second. Hearing Li Jing's words, Lao Liu nodded. He said that suddenly it felt like this, and he hadn't thought it was the problem before, but now it seems to be so.
Li Jing then asked Fu Seoul, can she tolerate Lao Liu putting her second? Fu Seoul replied affirmatively: "If he loves himself and can execute, I really think it is a good thing to be separated." ”
Unexpectedly, after hearing Fu Seoul's words, Lao Liu instantly burst into tears, covered his face and cried bitterly. Fu Seoul comforted him warmly by his side.
Li Jing's comments seem to open another world for Lao Liu. It allowed him to re-examine his place in this marriage.
In the third issue of filling out the choice card, Lao Liu filled out the first time that he did not want to divorce, and in his diary, he wrote: "I have always felt emotionally stable, but today I broke my defense because of Sister Jing's words." ”
Lao Liu has always believed that his next life is to divorce, start a new life, and pursue a new self. In his married life, he can see the changes in Fu Seoul and the gap between them, but he always deliberately avoids his own problems.
When Li Jing said "love himself the most", Lao Liu faced his own problems for the first time, and he loved himself more than he loved others. The previous excuses for separation were too high-sounding. When he had a new understanding of himself, Lao Liu collapsed. It was also from this moment that there was hope for his marriage with Fu Seoul.
There's nothing wrong with loving yourself, but it's wrong when trying to find contradictions in your marriage and blaming your partner for everything wrong.
Lao Liu subjectively portrayed himself as a victim of a dull married life, he never took the initiative to change, and in this marriage, his problems were obviously greater. As Papi-chan, a guest in the observation room, said, it is really difficult to figure out that the size of the floor is not good.
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