Ali and I met through a chat app called "Fate".
I was just working and there was a lack of fun and excitement in my life. After work, I will open this software and chat casually with strangers inside, talk about work and life, and get a little comfort.
One day, a girl with an ID named "Liliko" suddenly took the initiative to send me a message, asking what type of music I liked.
Ali and I had a very speculative chat, and no matter what we talked about, she always kept up with me and gave me unexpected replies
At first, we were like ordinary friends, talking about daily life and what we saw. But as the exchange deepened, I found that my interest in Ali was growing, and I couldn't help but look at the new messages she sent.
One night, we talked late into the night, and Ali said she had to sleep or she wouldn't be able to get up the next day. I suddenly felt a little anxious for no reason, and hurriedly asked her, "Do you feel very sleepy now?" ”。
Ah Li replied: "Well, I can't open my eyes, but it's a pleasure to chat with you." ”
I plucked up the courage and said, "Then let's talk more often in the future, I like your company." ”
Ali replied, "Well, so do I." ”
Since then, Ali and I have become friends with everything we talk about. We will share with each other the bits and pieces of life, talk about the troubles at work, and talk about each other's family backgrounds.
My parents have passed away, and I live alone and occasionally feel lonely. Ali, who also has her parents and a younger brother, says she is dependent on her family.
I always feel happy when I hear her talk about my family, and she cares about whether I am used to living alone.
In this way, Ali became a very important part of my life. We will have a few conversations whenever we have time, sharing what we see, think and feel with each other.
One night, we talked late, and Ali said she was really going to sleep. I plucked up the courage to say to her, "Good night, I like you."
After a few seconds, Ali sent a message: "Me too." ”
I looked at these three words excitedly and immediately replied: "Then let's be together!" ”
Ali said, "Well, I like you a lot too.
In this way, Ali became my girlfriend. We chatted shyly and excitedly in the middle of the night, agreeing to meet later.
I finally had someone I liked and life seemed to become more positive. I began to actively imagine meeting Ali, imagining us shopping hand in hand.
I can't wait to meet my beloved Ali and spend a sweet time with her.
In order to realize my dream of meeting Ali on a date, I took annual leave in advance, booked a plane ticket and flew to Ali's city.
I couldn't contain the excitement in my heart and began planning this meeting a month in advance. I had never been to Ali's city, so I consulted various travel notes and guides and designed an itinerary suitable for dating.
I also bought a whole set of new clothes on the shopping website, carefully researched the details of when to fly and when to fly back, which hotel to book, and so on.
I finally waited for this day, standing at the airport of Ali City, carrying my carefully prepared luggage and gifts, and my heart was beating like thunder.
When I exited the gate, I saw a figure wearing a pale yellow dress from a distance. As I got closer, I confirmed that it was Ali herself, who was more beautiful than in the photo.
"Ali!" I couldn't help but call out her name.
Ali waved at me a little shyly: "Hello, finally met." ”
I stepped forward with a smile and handed her the bouquet I had prepared: "This is a meeting gift, I am super happy to see you today."
"Thank you!" Ali said with a red face. She took the flowers and smiled sweetly, and my heart was almost melting.
I plucked up the courage to take her hand, and she didn't refuse. We held hands and were as sweet as an elementary school couple.
"Where are we going?" I asked Ali.
"I'll take you to a place!" Ali smiled mysteriously.
I followed Ali to a restaurant that seemed very upscale, and the decoration inside made me a little daunted.
"Come in, the food here is delicious." Ali took my hand and walked in.
The waiter led us to our seats in the private room and handed us the menu. I couldn't help but look at the price and found that a dish cost at least a few hundred dollars, and I was a little hesitant to order something.
"Give me the menu, I'll order it." Ali naturally took the menu and began to order.
She ordered 8 dishes alone, which added up to 1,300 yuan. I was a little puzzled, but I insisted on paying for the date.
After the food came up, Ali ate very deliciously, and I was somewhat restrained, after all, the price was a bit difficult for me.
"Why don't you eat it, if you don't eat it, it's gone!" Ali smiled and asked me to eat more.
I thought that eating such an expensive meal on my first date, my savings would be unbearable. But looking at Ah Li's happy appearance, I didn't say anything and ate honestly.
After eating, Ali said that she wanted to go to the supermarket to buy some fruit to eat. I thought that fruit should not be expensive, so I agreed to her proposal.
But as soon as she entered the supermarket, Ali went straight to the durian area, picked up a large durian and put it in the shopping cart.
"Let's buy this, I love durian!" Ali said happily.
"Okay." I'm a little embarrassed, durian is so expensive, it costs more than 100 to buy one
Unexpectedly, Ali then picked up the second and third durians. Until the fourth one was also put in the shopping cart.
I looked at the durian that was about to cost 500 yuan in the shopping cart, and I couldn't help but persuade Ali: "It's not appropriate to buy four in this way, isn't one enough?" ”
Ali did not hesitate: "It's not enough, I will eat one alone, and the rest will be given to my family." Hurry up and let's go to checkout! ”。
I stood in place, looking at Ah Li who was scooping in front of me, and suddenly I felt deceived.
I stood there and looked at the four durians in the shopping cart that were about to cost 500 yuan, and Ali took it for granted, and I suddenly got angry.
"Ali, are you deliberately consuming my money?" I couldn't help but ask.
Ali looked at me with wide eyes: "What do you mean?" Where do I have! ”
"First I went to eat in such an expensive restaurant, and now I buy so many durians, I can't afford to pay for you like this!" I raised the volume.
"What's not to pay, it's only a few hundred dollars, and I'm your girlfriend, shouldn't you spend some money for me?" Ali replied dissatisfied.
I was almost laughed angrily by her: "I'm so good to you, I spent so much money to invite you to dinner and buy gifts, not only are you not satisfied, but you also want me to buy four durians!?" ”
"It's just buying fruit, is it necessary to be so careful?" Ali asked me suspiciously.
I took a deep breath and tried to maintain my sanity: "Ali, we just met for the first time, and it cost me so much money, I really can't bear it."
"Huh, be considerate of you? Obviously, you don't care about my feelings! Ah Li suddenly became emotional, "You don't want to spend a little money for me, which means that you don't care about me at all!" ”
I was irritated by her selfish words: "Ali, how can you be so unloving!" I've done so much for you, but you're still so willful! ”
"Am I willful? Obviously you are stingy! Ali raised her voice and retorted.
The dispute between the two of us attracted many onlookers. An aunt came over to advise Ali: "Little sister, learn to think about others, you can't just spend money for yourself."
But Ali didn't seem to hear a word, she threw off the aunt, turned around and shouted at me: "If you don't buy me durian, we will break up!" ”
I was stunned by the way she looked. I remembered how she looked when she ordered food in the restaurant just now, and it dawned on me that she had probably calculated it on purpose.
"Okay, in that case, let's break up!" I immediately chose to break up with Ali.
My words startled Ali, and her eyes widened: "What? You say breakup?? ”
"Yes, I've had enough of unreasonable people like you. Parted! I reiterated it, then turned around and left.
"Li Ming! If you dare to leave me, you will be with me! Ali shouted hysterically.
Without looking back, I walked towards the supermarket door. I never want to look at such a selfish girlfriend again.
Ali shouted behind me, but I couldn't hear a word. I quickened my pace out of the supermarket and got out of here.
I wandered the streets blankly, trying to calm my mind. The first date ended this way and I was very disappointed and sad.
Maybe I shouldn't choose online dating, maybe I shouldn't like Ali. It all happened so suddenly, I just want to find a quiet place to be quiet.
After breaking up with Ali, I spent a day and a night alone in my hotel room.
I thought about my relationship with Ali repeatedly, and I couldn't help but start to reflect on whether I had done something wrong.
Maybe I shouldn't have argued with Ali so excitedly at the supermarket, I could have been considerate of her, after all, girls like to eat and buy.
But on second thought, what Ah Li did was too much. She was just happy for herself and didn't think about my feelings at all.
I prepared gifts for her and paid for her to dinner, which has proved my intentions. She still insists on asking me to spend money for her, is such a person really worthy of my liking?
I spent a day in my room stuffy, my brain in a mess. I started to think that maybe I shouldn't choose to break up and we could communicate and solve the problem.
However, the thought of Ali's face made me angry again. She is clearly deliberately consuming me, and I must stay away from this kind of person.
After a day of entanglement, I couldn't help but take out my phone in the evening, find Ali's contact information, and want to call her.
But I also thought that if Ali's attitude was still so strong, we would only argue again on the phone.
I suppressed the thought of calling and only sent a message to Ali: "Are you okay?" ”
But more than an hour passed, and Ali didn't reply to me.
I was a little anxious and sent her another sentence: "I'm sorry, I overdid it." Can we have a good chat? ”
However, until late at night, Ali still did not hear back. That's when I realized that she was probably really angry with me and had stopped ignoring me.
I'm sure Ah Li wouldn't want to just break the connection. Maybe after a while she will deflate and then we can slowly repair the relationship.
The next day I got up and opened the app to talk to Ali, but found that she had blocked me.
Now I know the tide is gone. Not only did Ali not reply to my message, but she also blocked me directly. It seems that she is iron-hearted and does not want to see me again.
I finally realized that the relationship between me and Ali really ended. The fact that we made a fuss at the first meeting shows that our two personalities really don't fit together.
Although it still feels regrettable, breaking the connection may be the best outcome. I shouldn't bother Ah Li anymore, I can only let time smooth it all out.
After the breakup with Ali, I became reticent and often absent-minded at work.
My colleagues noticed the change in me and asked me with concern if I was experiencing any difficulties. I just smiled and said it was okay.
In fact, I was also reflecting, and the Ali incident made me realize that there are still some flaws in my personality.
I am used to being reserved and not good at expressing my emotions. On this first date, I was too cramped and didn't let Ali feel my intentions.
I am also more frugal and do not actively spend money for others. This may make Ali think that I am not generous enough to like her enough.
And I also have problems with Ali's request. Accusing her of willfulness at the first meeting was indeed a little too harsh.
Maybe then I could lobby Ah Li and express my thoughts gently, instead of directly angrying and arguing.
Through this, I realized that I still need to grow when dealing with relationships. I decided to study more and strengthen my empathy and expressive skills.
At the same time, I also began to actively regain my self-confidence and regain positive energy.
I signed up for a writing course and wrote a weekly essay describing the bits and pieces of my life. This taught me to express myself in words.
I also started waking up early to run and exercise willpower. When I run, I think about life and organize my thoughts.
In my spare time, I signed up as a volunteer, going to the orphanage every week to help the elderly clean, chat, and read the newspaper.
Helping the elderly makes me feel the meaning of life. I also learned valuable life lessons from the life experience of the elderly.
During my days of writing, running and volunteering, I gradually found myself and regained my confidence and positive energy.
I am no longer depressed because of Ali's affairs, and my life has become colorful.
Once, while running, I saw an elderly couple walking slowly, their fingers clasped. Their faces were filled with happiness.
It made me realize that there are a lot of good things in life. I should focus on these positive aspects.
Maybe there will always be run-ins and disputes between people. But as long as you feel life with your heart, you can find happiness.
I want to put Ah Li behind and continue to live actively and start a new chapter in my life.
After this period of reflection and growth, I see the future more calmly and positively.
After experiencing this ill-fated relationship, I revisited my life.
I realized that relationships need to be cautious, and you can't choose to date and break up because of impulse.
I decided to devote more time to growing my abilities and becoming a person who takes responsibility and has an independent personality.
I started teaching myself programming, which is something I've been interested in since college. I use my spare time every day to learn code.
The programming logic is rigorous and requires patience and care. This has allowed me to develop concentration and strengthen my problem-solving skills.
A person who calms down and concentrates on learning will make one's heart more peaceful and mature.
In my spare time, I also go to museums to sketch and paint, which is a hobby when I was a child.
Standing in front of a sketch or painting, I forget the passage of time and enter the world of artistic creation.
Painting has enriched my life. I also give my paintings to family and friends.
On weekends I would go out hiking with friends. The fresh air in nature makes people find life at once.
As we climb to the top of the mountain, we look at the cascading mountains in the distance, and suddenly we will feel as light as a swallow.
These small lucky moments in life will make me feel the quality of life. It doesn't take much utilitarianism, but I become happier.
Of course, I didn't completely give up on the pursuit of love. It's just that I would be more cautious.
I don't start a relationship easily, but first build a friendship and get to know each other as a person.
If fate comes, God will naturally grant me true love. I'm not in a hurry, but I have hope in my heart.
Life is a long way, and I still have unlimited possibilities. The end of a wrong relationship also means the beginning of a new life.
Through all this, I am not the person I used to be. I have become more mature and steady, and more optimistic and confident.
I believe that if you live with the right attitude, you will eventually encounter your own happy time.