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My name is Li Xiaoli, I am 35 years old, I work as a clerk in an obscure state-owned enterprise in the city, and I live an unpretentious life. My husband, Zhang Li, who is three years older than me, started working in a private company and later ran his own training school. My relationship with my husband has always been good, although we don't have children, our life is full and warm.
Yesterday was Saturday, and my mom came from her hometown to visit us and plan to stay here for a week. I got up early in the morning to make a few dishes that my mother liked to eat, and I planned to take her around the city. My mom, Ma Li, is 56 years old and was the head nurse of a local hospital before retirement, with a straightforward and lively personality and gets along well with everyone.
"Mom, let's go out at ten o'clock, I'll take you around the newly opened mall!" I said with a smile to my mom who was packing.
"Okay!" Mom readily agreed.
At this moment, mother-in-law Zhao Suzhen hurriedly walked in and said with a serious face: "Don't go, I have something important to tell you." ”
I was surprised and turned to look at my mother, who was also puzzled. My mother-in-law usually hurts her mother the most, why is this attitude today?
"Xiaoli, come, let's go to your room and say." My mother-in-law dragged me to the room and slammed the door.
As soon as she entered the room, her mother-in-law said bluntly: "Xiaoli, you are not small, you should understand the reason." Your mother was a head nurse when she was young, used to pointing fingers, and now she is retired, coming to our house all day, meddling in this and that, I see you are annoying her too, right? ”
My eyes widened, unable to believe that my mother-in-law would say this about my mother. Didn't she and her mother get along well before, and when did the relationship deteriorate?
"Mom, you said and laughed, my mother has always treated our family very well." I said tentatively.
"Best? Don't you feel disgusted that she teaches you how to do housework, how to discipline your husband, and live like a housemother in our family? The mother-in-law sneered and continued, "I have long seen that she is not favorable, and if she interferes in housework like this, sooner or later there will be problems in your husband and wife's relationship." So, let your mother go, I won't let her live any longer today!" ”
I was dumbfounded and thought, mother-in-law, what's wrong? She and her mother have such a good relationship, she used to praise her mother for filial piety, and often bought vegetables and cooked together, why did she suddenly want to drive away her mother so seriously today?
"Mother-in-law, why do you say that about my mother? She cares so much about our family, isn't she all kind? "I tried to defend my mom.
"A piece of kindness? Is she for your good or for herself? Everywhere to call people, live like their own home, such people are the most abominable! The mother-in-law said excitedly.
I was sad and embarrassed. As soon as the mother-in-law opened her mouth, she wanted to let her mother leave, which broke her mother's heart. But I can't directly disobey my mother-in-law, after all, my husband and I live with my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law has the final say.
"Mother-in-law, you and my mother have such a good relationship, and it is difficult for me to do it now." I begged my mother-in-law.
"Difficult? I'll give you a way, get rid of your mother right now, or I'll go and tell your husband and let him divorce you!" The mother-in-law said domineeringly.
I was frightened and quickly asked: "Mother-in-law, calm down, divorce is a big thing, it's hard for me to do this with you!" ”
"Hard to do? Think clearly for yourself, follow your mother, or follow your husband and me to live! After the mother-in-law finished speaking, she threw the door away.
I stood in the room with my mind in a mess. Why did my mother-in-law suddenly dislike my mother so much? If I want to get rid of my mother immediately, this is very difficult, and my mother will be very sad. But I can't help but listen to my mother-in-law, such a big person still relies on my mother-in-law and husband to feed, what should I do?
Just when I was stretched thin, my husband came home...
As soon as my husband came home, I told him the original story. After hearing this, my husband immediately went to his mother-in-law with a black face.
"Mom, why did you suddenly say that you want to drive away Xiaoli's mother? People finally came to see us, isn't it too unreasonable for you to do this? My husband asked eagerly.
"It doesn't make sense? I'm for your own good, that old nizi has to meddle in housework, are you two husband and wife still having a bad life? The mother-in-law said impatiently.
"Mom, Xiaoli and I have always had a good relationship, don't worry about it. Xiaoli's mother has always been very good to us, and you used to like her very much. My husband explained.
"I was blind before, and now I can see her true face. Inquiring about our family affairs all day, my wife and children have taught us well, treating our family as if it were their own, I think she is here to get in the way! The mother-in-law said.
I listened to my mother-in-law arguing with my husband, and I felt very uncomfortable. I thought that my mother-in-law and mother had a good relationship, why are I so antagonistic today? I really don't know what is going on in my mother-in-law's mind.
"Mom, I think you misunderstood Xiaoli's mother. She just cares about us, and it's so unbelievable that you just drive people away. "My husband advised my mother-in-law.
"Misunderstanding? I saw her pointing fingers with my own eyes, and you still say that I misunderstood? She must leave right away today! "The mother-in-law is tough.
"Nope! Unless you give me a reasonable explanation, Xiaoli's mother I will definitely stay. My husband didn't budge.
The two of you argued with each other, and their faces were red. I couldn't help it, so I ran back to my room and made plans with my mother.
"Mom, mother-in-law, she suddenly wants to drive you away, and it will be difficult for us to do it." I said to my mother in distress.
"Hey, I don't know what's wrong with Granny Zhao, didn't she like me a lot before, why is it suddenly like this." My mother was also puzzled.
"Otherwise, mom, you go back first, it's embarrassing to stay at this time." I had to suggest.
"Well, that's fine, I'll come back and see you in a few days." I also know that Grandma Zhao's temperament is very strong, let's not see her in general. "Mom is very reasonable.
I sent my mother away, still feeling uneasy. I always feel that this matter is not so simple, my mother-in-law is so disgusted with her mother, there must be something hidden. I have to figure it out.
At night, I tentatively asked my mother-in-law, "Why are you so opposed to my mother during the day?" Did she treat you badly? ”
The mother-in-law was silent, and after a long time, she said sullenly: "Actually, I didn't really want to drive her away, just gambling for a while, don't take it to heart." ”
I immediately understood that it turned out that my mother-in-law was just a whim, and she didn't really want to drive away my mother! The big stone in my heart fell to the ground.
"Mother-in-law, don't be angry. My mother's nature also understands that she won't really blame you for what you say. I comforted my mother-in-law.
"Alas, I was too impulsive today, and I shouldn't say this about your mother, she is indeed not bad. It's just that I'm old and can't allow others to point fingers, and you must also forgive your mother-in-law. The mother-in-law said repentantly.
Through this incident, I saw clearly what my mother-in-law really thinks. My mother treats her very well, but my mother-in-law is a little conservative and does not like others to interfere in the housework. I will pay attention in the future, do not let my mother offend my mother-in-law, we are still a family.
After this misunderstanding, I have a new understanding of my mother-in-law. It seems that because I work outside the home all year round, my mother-in-law has been taking care of her husband and family, and she has become accustomed to being a housemother alone. Now the mother has come and pointed out the housework, making the mother-in-law feel that her status is offended.
In fact, mother-in-law still needs to be respected and needed in her heart. I decided to care more about my mother-in-law in the future and let her feel that her family valued her.
The next day, I deliberately got up early and made dishes such as shredded fish and meat and cold kelp that my mother-in-law liked to eat. When my mother-in-law got up, I smiled and said, "Mother-in-law, get up and eat, you love to eat." ”
The mother-in-law saw the dishes on the table and said happily: "Oh, Xiaoli, you are so filial to me, I said those words of yours yesterday, it is really blind." ”
"Mother-in-law, you are a kind heart, and we should be more considerate and considerate of you." I said quickly.
My mother-in-law was very happy while eating the dishes I cooked, and praised me for cooking deliciously. I saw that she was in a good mood, so I tentatively asked: "Mother-in-law, or will you come to my company as a doorman and aunt in the future?" How about being close to home and making some friends? ”
The mother-in-law thought for a while and said, "It's okay, I'm bored at home every day, and I also move my old legs when I go out for a walk." Does your company need a doorman? I can go and try it. ”
I was so happy that my mother-in-law agreed to come out and work. I immediately told the leader of my company that my mother-in-law was still physically tough, and wanted to come to the company to be a doorman or cleaning aunt, and asked him if he could give her a temporary job. The leader was very enthusiastic and said that as long as the mother-in-law was willing to come, let him come to the company at any time to try it.
So the next day I accompanied my mother-in-law to the company. The doorman uncle saw his mother-in-law and enthusiastically introduced the specific work of each position. The mother-in-law listened with great interest, and finally decided to be a janitor.
Since then, my mother-in-law has taken her to the company janitor's room every morning and picked her up in the evening. On the way home from work, my mother-in-law always told me interesting things about things that happened in the company, such as meeting a colleague who forgot her work card, and she enthusiastically helped check in. I listened to my mother-in-law's joy and felt that her life was completely new.
On the weekend, I proposed an outing for the family, and my mother-in-law readily agreed. Early in the morning, we set off for a drive to the mountain area, and my mother-in-law's face was full of long-lost excitement. We found a farmyard for lunch, and my mother-in-law laughed while eating, boasting that the chickens and ducks here were very authentic.
On this day, the mother-in-law had a lot of fun. In the evening, we watched the sunset from the mountains. The mother-in-law said affectionately: "I had really fun today, if you hadn't pulled me out, I would have been at home all day, and I wouldn't have experienced these pleasures." ”
My heart was very warm, and I held my mother-in-law's hand and said, "Mother-in-law, the most important thing is that you are happy." We'll take you out to play often. ”
Since then, I have regularly taken my mother-in-law out for a walk, she seems to be much younger and has a smile on her face more and more. I also often asked my mother to cook my mother-in-law's favorite dishes together, and the three of us enjoyed each other. The relationship between my mother-in-law and my mother is getting better and better, and I am especially pleased to see it.
In life, living in harmony is the most important thing. I will continue to work hard to fill the family with laughter and warmth.
Time flew by, and in the blink of an eye it was another weekend, and I planned to take my mother and mother-in-law out again.
"Mother-in-law, mother, I take a few days off next week, shall we go to Qingdao for a few days?" I asked with a smile.
"Qingdao, I haven't been there for a long time, just go!" The mother-in-law said with interest.
"Okay, just go out for a walk and change your mood." Mom also agreed with a smile.
So, on Monday, I took annual leave, and we booked a hotel and bus tickets in Qingdao. This weekend, I made a lot of snacks that my mother-in-law and mother loved to eat, and I also prepared a lot of rice cakes, fruits and other things to eat on the road.
On Friday night, the three of us set off. Along the way, my mother and I sang and chatted with my mother-in-law, and the carriage was filled with laughter.
When we arrived in Qingdao, we went directly to Binhai Park. Standing at the foot of Laoshan Mountain, facing the blue sea, the sea breeze blows, which is refreshing. My mother was happy like a child, ran to the beach to play in the water, and my mother-in-law and I laughed and hurriedly caught up.
"Haha, Mom, you're too hi!" I said jokingly.
"It's a pity not to play in the water in Qingdao, I'm still young!" Mom smiled happily.
My mother-in-law also joined in excitedly, she took off her shoes, lifted her trouser leg and stepped into the water, and splashed me with water.
"Oh, mother-in-law, you are taking advantage of me!" I said pretending to be angry.
"Here, splash you again!" My mother-in-law's eyes bent into two slits and splashed me with a large wave of water.
"Your grandmother's, I'm not afraid of you!" I also fought back.
The three of you chase me like this and have fun. At this moment, I felt like we were like friends, not mothers and daughters of different generations.
At noon we ordered takeaway and sat on the beach for a picnic. The sea and sky are colorful, the wind is beautiful, and the three people eat and drink, and they are happy.
After lunch, we went to the aquarium. My mother-in-law and I were fascinated by the colorful colors and stood in front of the sink and looked at it. Mom loves the dolphin show the most, watching it for more than an hour, with a happy smile on her face.
After that, we went to Laoshan and took the cable car to Tanah Lot Temple. Standing on a high place overlooking the sea, the mood is extremely pleasant. The scenery here is so beautiful, I pulled my mother and mother-in-law to take a commemorative photo, and all three of them had bright smiles on their faces.
In this way, we spent two happy days and one night in laughter. The big bed in the hotel was very comfortable to sleep in, my head was pillowed with my mother, my mother-in-law was pillowing me, and the three of them fell asleep holding hands, feeling very happy.
This trip brought us closer. My mother and mother-in-law became good friends, and I also found the meaning of being a daughter.
I swear that I will let them live happily until they are old. Because my family is the most precious asset in my life.
After coming back, I cherished every moment with my mother and mother-in-law even more.
One day, my mother suddenly said to me: "Ali, although your mother-in-law doesn't say anything, I can see that her legs are not very convenient recently." ”
When I thought about it, I felt that my mother had a point. These days, the mother-in-law is really not very sharp in walking, and she is not as energetic as before.
"Mom, then I'll take my mother-in-law to the hospital for examination after work today." I say.
Mom nodded: "Go, the old man's physical problems can't be delayed." ”
That day, I picked up my mother-in-law from work on time and drove her straight to the hospital. The results of the examination were that the mother-in-law's joints were mildly worn and required hospitalization.
The mother-in-law did not want to be hospitalized, but the doctor said that treatment was needed, otherwise it would be more difficult to move in the future. My mother and I patiently persuaded, and my mother-in-law agreed to be hospitalized.
After my mother-in-law was hospitalized, my mother and I went straight to the hospital every day after work, taking turns to take care of my mother-in-law, helping her massage, feeding, and chatting. Sometimes in the dead of night, I heard my mother say to herself: "Suzhen, you must get well early, we still have many places to play together..." ”
I saw it in my eyes and was moved. After a month of hospitalization, my mother-in-law's condition has improved significantly and her legs are much more flexible than before. We happily took my mother-in-law home.
"Sorry to worry about you." The mother-in-law said ruefully.
"What do you say, the body is the most important." I said, holding my mother-in-law's hand.
"Suzhen, in the future, we will pay more attention to your body, and you should also rest more." Mom also whispered.
Since then, my mother and I have taken turns accompanying my mother-in-law, taking her out for walks, buying her favorite food, and honoring her for happiness. We also hired a nurse to help my mother-in-law with massage rehabilitation.
Over time, my mother-in-law's body got better and better. One day, she said to me mysteriously: "Ali, it's your mother's birthday in a few days, let's surprise her together, right?" ”
I happily agreed. On Mom's birthday, we had a big meal and presents, then suddenly opened the door and shouted "Happy Birthday!" "Shocked mom to the point where she couldn't keep her mouth shut.
"Oh, you guys are..." Mom burst into tears with emotion.
"Happy birthday, Mom! These are carefully prepared by the mother-in-law. "I was also very impressed.
"Thank you!" Mom gave us two big hugs.
We laughed and had a lot of fun that day. I am grateful for the love of my mother and mother-in-law, and there is no warmer existence in this world than my family.