As the saying goes: raise children to prevent old age.
It seems that after spending effort to raise the child as an adult, the other party will definitely be filial to himself and give him the end.
But countless real-life cases tell us that whether children will retire is a probability event.
Some people diligently accompany their parents, but there are also people who wait for their parents' property to be in hand and leave it alone.
Every family has a difficult scripture, but predictably, raising children and preventing old age is no longer the best solution.
For the elderly, the real thing to look at for the elderly is the following things:
01: A reliable wife who can accompany him for a lifetime
The so-called old wife is a partner who can live together and take care of each other when they are old.
Even the English philosopher Francis Bacon frankly said, "A wife is a lover in youth, a partner in middle age, and a caregiver in old age." ”
Compared with children who don't know what their temperament is, the partner who has experienced the storm together is the one who can really be relied on.
In the TV series "The World", when Zhou Bingkun was young and frivolous, he said that he would bear Zheng Juan's miserable fate.
To this end, he did not hesitate to put on a "green hat" on his head and raise other people's children, Nan Nan.
But I never expected that just when the child was about to go to college, the rich biological father came to him.
Faced with the sugar-coated cannonballs of drunken gold fans, Zhou Nan fell, forgot the grace of nurturing, and threw himself into the arms of his biological father, which also chilled the Zhou family.
But no matter what the child is, Zheng Juan has always been by Zhou Bingkun's side for many years.
Even if he was imprisoned for his crime, he did his best to support the Zhou family and wait for him to return.
Because of this, no matter how much suffering life gives, the Zhou family can survive one by one and have a happy old age.
A reliable wife is a tacit understanding cultivated over the years, and it is a dessert given by fate that can make life tasteful.
02: Enough money to live with confidence
There is such a sentence in the world famous book "Love in the Time of Cholera":
"Without money, it's hard to walk there. With money, everything is at your fingertips. ”
Pension, in the final analysis, is to hope that when you are not able to make money, you have children to support your life.
However, no one knows whether the children they raise will be able to make a difference in the future, make a lot of money, and fulfill their expectations.
Instead of expecting an unknown outcome, focus more on yourself.
After all, relying on everyone to run, only self is true and reliable.
Grandfather was diagnosed with early stomach cancer a few years ago, and it stands to reason that several children should share the cost and take turns to take care of it.
But the uncles and aunts were busy with work and had no time, and they were in school for their children, and they were in a hurry.
If it weren't for my grandfather and grandmother who saved a pension money for themselves, I don't know when I would be able to see the disease well.
There is a time gap of more than 20 years between children and the elderly.
When the old man is hard, the child is hard, and when the old man is comfortable, the child is still hard and has no time to separate.
Putting all your expectations on your child can only be disappointing.
It is better to make plans early and hold a pension money in hand, which is the greatest confidence.
03: Positive attitude, hope for life
It has been said that a happy life in old age is shaped by pleasant thoughts.
I think so.
Tsuneko Sasamoto, who is still working in psychiatry at the age of eighty or ninety, is full of accomplishment because she can bring happiness to people;
Cai Lan, a Hong Kong talent who still travels around in his later years, sees through the prosperity of the world and is full of fun.
A person who actively loves life can naturally find the interesting side of life.
Life will not abandon you unless you abandon life first.
As the English romantic poet Byron said, "Optimistic people stay young." ”
In their eyes, every day is different, and every day is worth looking forward to.
Like a sunflower that grows wantonly, busy absorbing sunlight, it will forget the haze and pain and live happily.
With a good mentality, the body will be good, and life will be good.
04: Conclusion
The Swiss writer Amir once said, "Knowing how to enter old age is a masterpiece of wisdom." ”
Whether your later life is happy depends not on whether your children are filial or not, but whether you can look at life from a different angle:
See whether the partners around you can work together for a lifetime, see whether the money in your hands can support life, and see whether your inner mentality is positive and healthy.
When you can live with your own feelings and perceive the beauty of the world, you can also live a dashing life.