My husband and I are childhood sweethearts, we grew up together and have been married for 25 years. For the past 25 years, we have been working in the field, moving to several cities, all to earn more money.
When we first got married, the two of us worked in an old town. Wages are low and living is tight. In order to earn more money, the two of us have very little spare time, working overtime or part-time outside of work hours.
They have a hard time starting a small business, often going early in the morning to buy materials and returning home at eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening.
In this way, we hung out there for a few more years, finally saved some money, went back to our hometown to buy a marriage house, and gave birth to our first child.
My husband found someone to make connections and went to work in a city in the south. At the beginning, it was the same as before, and I worked odd jobs outside of working hours, and my life was very hard.
I have been wandering with my husband for many years, and I have always been worried about my parents in my hometown. I finally had some savings, so I wanted to buy a house and go back to my hometown.
When I signed, I was so excited that tears came out. The hard work of more than ten years has finally been in vain, and half of the dream has been realized, and I can go back to my hometown to live in the future.
After buying a house, our long-awaited return to our hometown is finally about to begin. I went back to clean up the old house, then quit my job and went back to live and prepare to decorate the new house.
I had just cleaned up my home and was about to invite the decoration team when my uncle's family of three suddenly came to me and said that I heard my mother-in-law say that we had bought a new house, and they also wanted to come to experience life, so they came to live here.
My uncle belongs to my mother-in-law's brother's family, two years younger than my husband, a typical village person, who spends all day in the village and does not go out to work.
The child is still young and only goes to kindergarten. I know that their family conditions are not good, and I usually help watch the dots.
I originally thought that Xiao Shu's family only came to live in the new house for a few days, who knew that they had lived since Layue, and they still lived after the New Year, and they would not leave after a few months.
I see that he seems to live quite comfortably, and it is not easy to say that he can only go by him.
Uncle and his family of three live in our youngest room, and my husband and children live in the master bedroom. The house was already small, and now it is even more crowded.
When eating, the dining table at home was small, so I brought the food to the coffee table in the living room to eat, and I felt cramped when I looked at it.
I can't rest alone on the couch watching TV like before.
Others are inconvenient to take a bath and wash clothes. You have to queue up to wash it specifically, and you don't dare to wash too many clothes, for fear of crowding out the washing machine.
Sometimes Xiao Shu and his wife will also buy some vegetables and daily necessities, but most of the consumption is still borne by us.
I mentioned it to my husband, and he was also embarrassed. This is his younger brother, it's not good to drive people away directly. He just told me to be more tolerant, saying that blood should be thicker than water, and don't care.
But my mother-in-law's reaction surprised me, she actually felt that it was good to live together, it could enhance the relationship, and there was no need to separate.
My uncle's family occupied my new house and did not leave, and I was very depressed. My husband and in-laws did not support me to drive them away, and I was a woman who could not drive them strongly, so I could only think of other countermeasures.
One day I suddenly thought, since Xiao Shu thinks it's good for everyone to live together, then why don't I let more people come and live here? The house was already crowded, and a few more people could not stand it! I mentioned this idea to my husband, who laughed and praised me for being smart, and approved of my idea.
So I immediately called my brother and said that our house was newly renovated, and let his family come to live with me for a while.
My eyes lit up with excitement and I finally saw that things had taken a turn.
A few days later, my brother's family of three came to my house. As soon as I entered, I warmly beckoned them to rest in the back room and bring out the fruit that had been prepared for a long time.
My brother's family is also very smart, and they seem very familiar and natural when greeting my uncle.
At this time, my house is full of 9 people. I let my brother's family live in my second bedroom and moved into my son's room myself.
There was a long queue in the bathroom every morning, and our usual three-chapter life was completely disrupted. My brother's two children are young and often noisy.
One day I woke up late, and my sister-in-law and nephew were already washing up in the bathroom. I was in a hurry to get to work and had to go to another room and wait.
I couldn't bear it anymore and pushed him directly out the door, and Xiao Shu looked embarrassed.
There are a lot of meals during meals, but everyone has little appetite. Xiao Shu often frowned and broke his fingers, and I guess he must be calculating the cost of eating.
Everyone's faces became more and more ugly.
My brother's family behaved meticulously and often took the initiative to buy vegetables and cook. From time to time, I also find something for the uncle's family to do, so that they can fully feel the taste of being called.
My husband also did a good ideological work, asking his father not to be nosy and asking Xiao Shu to figure it out by himself.
In the end, Xiao Shu couldn't stand it anymore and decided to rent another house with his family. My brother completed his task and also moved away a month later.
After my uncle's family finally moved out, my living space was finally spacious again. No more waking up early to line up to wash, you can sleep in.
Without the interruption of others, I can finally return to the comfortable life I used to have.
I thought about it and thought that my method of dealing with Xiao Shu was really wonderful. First of all, I didn't just throw them out, so that at least on the surface we maintained peace.
I believe that Xiao Shu must have learned his lesson now, and he will never occupy other people's houses for a long time in the future.
This experience made me understand that family conflicts still have to be resolved tactfully. Direct confrontation will only lead to greater conflict, and it is best to win with ingenuity and what cannot be done.
After my husband and in-laws heard me explain the reason for this, they both praised me for doing things smoothly, solving problems without hurting family relationships.
I also remind my husband not to over-tolerate because he is a relative in the future, and to learn to protect his own interests.
There are often misunderstandings and contradictions between people, and it is important to resolve the problem, not to hurt feelings for the sake of temporary anger.
No matter what kind of interpersonal problems I encounter in the future, I will try my best to resolve them, not make them worse. Because the affection of relatives is more precious than anything else, even if you are wronged, you must learn to understand others, so that life will be happier.