Aunt Chen, 60, a former primary school teacher, is now retired and enjoys a monthly pension of more than 6,000 yuan. Her son and daughter-in-law are civil servants with stable careers, property and car ownership, and a worry-free life. In addition, Aunt Chen's husband passed away 7 years ago, leaving her with two properties and enough pension savings. Of these, one house she lived in alone and the other was rented out as a school district house. Aunt Chen's retirement life was full and worry-free.
However, after her husband's death, Aunt Chen faced an important decision: at such a young age, should she rediscover love, or continue to spend the rest of her life alone? Friends advised her to remarry, believing that she should find a suitable partner while she was young. But Aunt Chen rejected the suggestions, fearing that people would rush to find her next partner just after her husband's death, and not wanting her daughter-in-law to misunderstand her intentions. Her plan is that in the future, when her son and daughter-in-law have children, she can go over to take care of her grandchildren and eventually retire with her son.
With the birth of her grandson, Aunt Chen did not hesitate to move to her son's home and devoted herself to taking care of her young grandson and household chores. Her days became full and busy, with no time to think about other things. However, when the grandson grew up and needed to go to kindergarten, the daughter-in-law hinted that she did not want her to continue living at home and wanted her to return to her own home. Aunt Chen cleverly sensed her daughter-in-law's intentions.
In order to be able to retire at her son's home, Aunt Chen resolutely insisted on her position. She pointed out that she had financed the big house, and that she had taken care of her grandchildren for free for three years and even provided a pension for three years to support them. She didn't think there was anything wrong with following her son, so she firmly stated that she would not leave. The daughter-in-law was silent and no longer asked about letting Aunt Chen leave.
However, the sudden news changed everything, and the son told Aunt Chen that his mother-in-law had been diagnosed with cancer and needed surgery and needed her son's care. In order to cope with this situation, the son suggested that Aunt Chen go back to his home temporarily and wait for the operation to be over. Under these circumstances, Aunt Chen could not insist on staying at her son's house, so she packed her bags and returned to her home.
For the next two years, the son's mother-in-law lived in her daughter's home to recuperate, while Aunt Chen lived alone. Although she began to spend her life to the fullest, traveling a lot, she gradually felt lonely over time. Her friends suggested that she remarry, mentioning the reality that she was older and had no one around her. Aunt Chen began to consider the suggestion, and she felt she needed a partner, someone who could help her in an emergency.
So, Aunt Chen began to participate in blind dates, and after some choice, she met Lao Wu, a retired school leader. Although Lao Wu is 65 years old, his appearance is passable, the key is that he can cook, drive, and share household chores. The two got along happily and got married half a year later, although they both had their own house, but Lao Wu invited Aunt Chen to move to his big house and proposed to live together.
However, Aunt Chen's newlywed life did not go as smoothly as she expected. Lao Wu has a son and a daughter, both of whom have started a family and bring their grandchildren to visit every weekend. The arrival of the eight of them made Aunt Chen the family's main caregiver, responsible for cooking and taking care of the children. This busy lifestyle is stressful for Aunt Chen, especially since she already has rheumatoid arthritis health problems.
What made Aunt Chen even more dissatisfied was that every time Lao Wu's children and grandchildren came, he would write down the menus and items they ordered, and then drive to buy them, which cost more than 2,000 yuan each time. Aunt Chen not only had to take up the money herself, but also provided these expenses from Lao Wu every month
4,000 yuan deducted from living expenses. Aunt Chen reimbursed Lao Wu for these additional expenses many times, but Lao Wu never fulfilled his promise, which made Aunt Chen feel very dissatisfied.
Aunt Chen originally hoped to spend the rest of her life with Lao Wu, but the reality was far from it. Her health deteriorated, her finger joints ached, and fatigue plagued her all the time. Seeing that everyone else has partners to support each other, while she is alone and alone, this loneliness and helplessness makes her feel very difficult.
In the end, the advice of a friend prompted Aunt Chen to decide to find love again. She understands that she shouldn't just be a babysitter for a family, she needs a partner who genuinely cares about her. She began to actively participate in blind dates, hoping to find someone who understood her and cared about her. She insisted that although it would be her third marriage, she would not receive another marriage license. She hopes to have a stable relationship with her future partner and may consider a contract-like way to live together.
As the country enters the aging society, the pension policy for the elderly is gradually improved, and the choices of the elderly have become more diversified. Aunt Chen's story tells us that remarriage is not the only option for the elderly, and that it is important to find a lifestyle that suits you. At different stages of life, everyone should pursue their own happiness and satisfaction, whether it is spending the rest of their life with their partner or choosing to live alone, it should be out of their true desires. Therefore, older people remarry for different reasons, some seek love, others seek financial security and security, and others seek emotional support and companionship.
In conclusion, Aunt Chen's experience reflects the diversity and complexity of the issue of remarriage among the elderly. No matter what way you choose, the important thing is to be able to live a happy life and find a partner who truly cares and respects you, which is what everyone should strive for.