Etiquette culture refers to the norms, laws and rituals that people should observe in their lives and interactions. China has experienced thousands of years of feudal era, feudal rites and religions have constrained people's behavior, so that feudal society has maintained an orderly order for the inferior, the elderly, the young, the rich and the poor. This paper analyzes the etiquette culture of feudal aristocratic families when Lin Daiyu entered Jia Mansion from the following four aspects, and lays a foundation for studying the characteristics of etiquette culture in the feudal period in mainland China.
From Lin Daiyu's behavior in entering Jia Mansion, we can see the caution of small and medium-sized characters in the feudal aristocracy under the constraints of the culture of etiquette and customs. From the scene of receiving Daiyu in Jia House, we can see the etiquette culture in the communication of aristocratic family life. The feudal aristocratic family was the main image representative of the feudal forces at that time, and the etiquette culture of the feudal aristocratic family promoted the development of mainland cultural customs to a certain extent.
1. Greetings of feudal family etiquette and culture
The greeting ceremony is one of the main ritual cultures of the feudal aristocratic families in the mainland, mainly referring to the gifts performed by the younger generation to the elders. When Lin Daiyu entered Jia's mansion, the first thing Lin Daiyu saw was Jia's mother. Jia Mu is the highest ranking main figure in Jia Fu, from watching plays and playing cards to organizing family banquets in Jia Fu's daily life, every link and scene is inseparable from Jia Mu, and Jia Mu's status and majesty in Jia Fu mainly rely on the etiquette of governing the family. Jia Mu is not only an important authority figure in Jia Fu, but also the executor and supervisor of family etiquette in Jiafu. Jia Mu and Lin Daiyu met, although Jia Mu held Daiyu in her arms and cried, in the process, Daiyu still had to perform various courtesies to Jia Mu, and did not dare to snub.
Then Daiyu visited the two uncles in turn, and also showed respect for the elders according to etiquette everywhere during the visit. The text describes that Daiyu first went to Jia Xun's office, and then went to Jia Zheng's office, first the eldest uncle and then the second uncle, completely in accordance with the elder and young in the family to perform the greeting ceremony, fully showing Daiyu's respect for the important characters of Jia Fu, and the greeting ceremony was just right, which fully reflected Daiyu's characteristics of deep understanding of etiquette and thoughtfulness.
2. The meeting ceremony of feudal family etiquette and culture
The meeting ceremony mainly refers to the etiquette between peers in feudal aristocratic families, and it can be seen in Lin Daiyu's entry into Jia Mansion that it is also a meeting ceremony with peers, but the way of saluting is different, in order to express her affection for the Sanchun sisters, Daiyu hurriedly stepped forward to perform the meeting ceremony. In the process of meeting each other, some characters are introduced by others, some characters introduce themselves, and after the meeting ceremony, they get to know each other through private talks.
Lin Daiyu's article into Jia Mansion focused on the meeting ceremony between Lin Daiyu and Wang Xifeng, and after everyone introduced Wang Xifeng who had just arrived, in Wang Xifeng's enthusiasm, Daiyu hurriedly smiled to express the meeting ceremony, highlighting the difference in characters and roles, which is a unique form of meeting ceremony. The meeting ceremony between Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu was partly a psychological description of Daiyu, and Daiyu was taken aback: "It's strange... How familiar it is", which fully reflects Lin Daiyu's profound moral cultivation. In Lin Daiyu's entry into Jia House, through the description of Lin Daiyu's various etiquette, the identity and status of each character in Jia House are fully reflected, and the exercise of various etiquette can effectively maintain the relationship between Daiyu and everyone in Jia House.
Third, the humility of feudal family etiquette culture
Lin Daiyu was educated and educated by feudal etiquette at a very young age, and the difference of her grandmother's family was mainly reflected in the difference between the norms of feudal aristocratic family etiquette customs and ordinary people, so all etiquette behaviors after Daiyu entered Jia Mansion were subject to these feudal etiquette. For example, in the article, it is described that Daiyu paid attention everywhere in Jia Fu, and when meeting Jia Xun, Mrs. Xing kept Daiyu to eat at home, and Daiyu used some words, which not only expressed her respect and gratitude to her aunt, but also reflected Daiyu's knowledge and knowledge.
When Jia's mother asked Daiyu's study, in order to show her humility, Daiyu asked Jia's mother about the Sanchun sisters' reading. After the grandmother told Miharu about her study, Daiyu replied with humble words, which fully showed the feudal aristocratic family's compliance with feudal etiquette.
4. The dining ceremony of feudal family etiquette culture
It can be seen from Lin Daiyu's article entering Jia Mansion that the feudal aristocratic family is quite particular about eating. In family banquets, people's seating arrangements are also an expression of their etiquette culture. Through the order of dining seats to indicate the status of family members, the south seat is the most honorable role, followed by the west seat, north seat, east seat, the seating should be arranged according to the identity and status of the character. The article wrote that Jia Mu sat alone on the front bed, according to the traditional etiquette at that time, the north facing south sat for the main guest, and then from the left, and so on, the guests should be seated according to the arrangement, and could not sit by themselves.
Therefore, Wang Xifeng pulled Daiyu to arrange Daiyu in the left position, Daiyu knew that the left position was the upper position, and immediately pushed it, and Jia Mu allowed it to sit in the left position, and arranged to sit and eat according to the position of the eldest and younger monument. Daughters-in-law and maids are waiting outside, and although there are many figures such as daughters-in-law and maids, they are silent, which fully reflects the majesty of customs and etiquette in feudal aristocratic families.
To sum up, Lin Daiyu's entry into Jia Mansion describes a large number of etiquette and culture related to feudal aristocratic families. In feudal society, etiquette in mainland aristocratic families is extremely restrictive and compulsory, and etiquette culture is the key to maintaining the survival and majesty of feudal aristocratic families, and is to make people abide by the requirements of feudal moral norms. At the same time, the complicated feudal family customs and culture is also an important embodiment of a kind of status, status and social gap, showing the characteristics of feudal rites and red tape in the feudal period of the mainland.