My new colleague Xiaomei, a post-90s generation with a plump physique, first arrived, and I enthusiastically invited her to ride in my car, thinking that I could provide her with a little convenience. However, this act of kindness brought unexpected trouble.
At first, Xiaomei behaved politely and brought me small snacks every day. Because she had just stepped into society and had limited income, I didn't worry about the problem of fuel costs, so we commuted together, chatted about work and gossip, and passed the time on the road.
One day, I bought some lamb chops, and she showed a long-lost desire for meat when she saw it, and because of her limited financial situation, I invited her to my house for dinner on the weekend. Although she was a little pushy, she finally agreed.
On Saturday, she came with a basket of fruit, and I politely invited her to sit down. She wandered around my house and especially praised my residence, which was significantly better than the house she rented. I encouraged her and told her that there would be improvements in the future, because I also had nothing and struggled. To prevent her from abusing my kindness, I urged her to sit down and dine, because I didn't like people breaking into my bedroom at will. However, she insisted on going her own way, even lying on my bed, which made me feel unhappy and longed for her to leave sooner.
Xiaomei seemed to lack measure, and had to go to other rooms to see, I led her to the table and urged her to eat quickly. However, I didn't expect her to eat so quickly, almost all the lamb chops on the plate, and asked if there was any leftover. This is a three-pound lamb chop, usually my family of three has to eat multiple meals, but she only picks up ribs to eat, not a single radish moves, I am really worried that she will spoil herself.
After that, she often came to my house for dinner, even uninvited. She said she felt like a sister. She always took some cheap fruits with her, treated my home as her own, not only ate but also moved around at will, even if I refused many times, she was not moved. Her cheekiness embarrassed me.
Similarly, she became unpunctual in my car and repeatedly delayed my daughter's delivery. In order not to wait for her anymore, I decided to leave early. However, she called me angrily and reproached me for not waiting for her, saying that I was not righteous. I feel aggrieved, after all, it is only because she is late. Colleagues in the company also expressed their dissatisfaction with me and thought I was stingy. As a result, I felt like a fool who was not a person inside and out, obviously sending her for so long, and as a result, I became the target of blame.
Still, after work, she insisted on giving me a ride, apparently to save money. She intensified her grip as if the morning conflict had never happened. She even mentioned that she wanted to borrow me 50,000 yuan, on the grounds that my family's car loan and credit card bills were almost overpaid, and my daughter spent a large amount of money some time ago to pay for the tutoring class, which made me strained. She hesitantly agreed, thinking to myself if she would actually lend it to me.
However, the next day, she was waiting for my car again, and I still insisted that she help me. But she avoided me in the company and no longer appeared. Although I was frustrated, I also understood what netizens said: borrowing money is the end of all relationships.
This experience made me understand that in the future, you can't be casually kind, you must decisively refuse, and you can't let yourself be soft-hearted. However, this lesson also made me cherish my friends who are truly trustworthy.