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Everyone should know that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with, and some mothers-in-law think about everything for their daughter-in-law, and in the end, not only can they not fall behind at all, but they will also be disliked by their daughter-in-law.
And some mothers-in-law always think that they have done a lot for their daughter-in-law, but the daughter-in-law does not think so, the daughter-in-law did not express anything at that time, but when the mother-in-law needed someone to take care of her, she found that the daughter-in-law was really ruthless.
The 60-year-old Aunt Wang is like this, she always feels that she has done a lot for her daughter-in-law, and her daughter-in-law did not show any dissatisfaction at that time. But when Aunt Wang was ill and hospitalized, she realized how wrong she was at that time.
The following is from the 60-year-old Aunt Wang's statement:
I am 60 years old, I have a son and a daughter, my husband died in an accident at an early age, in order not to let the children be harmed, I did not remarry, and I raised my two children alone.
When I was young, my husband and I had formal jobs, but an accident took my husband's life, and at that time, I felt that the sky was falling, and I wanted to leave this world and go with my husband.
However, whenever I came home to see my lovely son and daughter, I was reluctant to leave them behind, but my husband had a large amount of compensation, and I decided to raise them well.
My son is the eldest, smart and sensible since he was a child, and since the death of my husband, my son has taken on the responsibilities of this family with me like a little adult.
I have always taught him that he is an older brother and a younger sister, so the older brother has to take care of his younger sister and let his sister do everything. And from my personal psychology, my daughter is a small padded jacket, so I prefer my daughter.
The son was admitted to college and talked about a girlfriend at school, named Fang Ya. I like this girlfriend of my son very much, she is gentle and generous, she is very good to me, and she is also very beautiful.
After graduation, the two got married. Although I am a daughter-in-law, I have always treated Fang Ya like a daughter, and I have always felt that our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship will get along very well.
However, two things happened that made me completely change my mind.
That year, my daughter Xiaoduo and daughter-in-law were pregnant at the same time, and I was very happy. When I was second trimester, my daughter called me and said she wanted me to come and take care of her.
At that time, I thought that my daughter had been married, and logically I couldn't go over and take care of her, after all, people have mothers-in-law. But my daughter cried to me, saying that she couldn't eat or sleep well, and if she continued like this, she would be depressed.
I plan to discuss with my daughter-in-law, if my daughter-in-law lets me go, I will go, if I don't go, I won't go. When the daughter-in-law knew that I wanted to take care of my daughter, she asked: Is Xiaoduo's mother-in-law not at home?
I said that I was at home, but Xiaoduo said that her mother-in-law's cooking was not delicious, and she was about to become depressed. The daughter-in-law smiled slightly and said let me go at ease, she can take care of herself.
In this way, I took care of my daughter from the second trimester until the birth of the child.
My daughter has just given birth, and my daughter-in-law is also about to give birth, so I hurried home. When I was halfway there, my son called me to go straight to the hospital and said that my daughter-in-law had entered the delivery room.
When I arrived, my little granddaughter had already been born, and I asked my daughter-in-law how she was, and her daughter-in-law smiled at me and said that she was fine, but she was a little tired.
After taking my daughter-in-law home, I planned to take good care of her, and she was wronged during this time. So, I bought a lot of delicious food, intending to serve my daughter-in-law well during the confinement.
But what happened next left me in a dilemma. On the third day my daughter-in-law came home, my daughter called me and asked me to take care of her confinement.
Logically speaking, my daughter has a mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law should take care of the confinement, but my daughter called me over and over again to cry, saying that her mother-in-law would not take care of the confinement, and the cooking was not delicious, and they often quarreled because of these little things. Later, my daughter even begged me to just accompany her.
After listening to my daughter's helpless cry, my heart hurt like a needle prick, how can confinement always cry? Since I was a child, I have loved my daughter more, she has been wronged, how can I sit idly by?
When my son came home, I discussed it with my son first, and he was a little unhappy, but he knew that my sister had always been the tip of my heart, so there was no way to disagree.
He said that even if he didn't agree, I would still take care of my daughter. In fact, he said this sentence is not false at all.
I asked my son Fang Ya what to do, and he said that Fang Ya is not a careful person, and she will understand my difficulties.
After making a decision, I walked into my daughter-in-law's room, and when she heard that I was going to take care of my daughter again, she was not surprised this time, just smiled lightly, and then said let me go at ease, she can take care of herself.
With my daughter-in-law's permission, I felt that my life was so good, and I had such a sensible daughter-in-law, so I packed my luggage and went to my daughter's house.
When I arrived at my daughter's house, my daughter first cried at me, and I looked at my daughter's small appearance, and my heart was unbearable to death. Since then, I have taken good care of my daughter, making her favorite food, making all kinds of nutritious meals suitable for pregnant women, changing diapers and bathing my child.
After I came to take care of me, my daughter's mood also became better, and she said thank you to me every day, and in my spare time, I would call my daughter-in-law to ask about the situation and tell her not to be too tired.
The daughter-in-law said on the phone that she is very good, let me take care of my daughter with peace of mind, don't worry about her, she can be busy. I was also very pleased to hear this, and I thought that when my daughter was out of confinement, I would go back to take good care of my daughter-in-law.
I also thought about what gifts to buy for my daughter-in-law, what delicious food to make for my daughter-in-law, and then chat with my daughter-in-law every day to make up for the regrets in the confinement. I believe that my daughter-in-law is a sensible child, and she can understand my difficulties.
After living at my daughter's house for a month, it was time for me to go home, but when I stepped into my son's door, I was stunned.
The daughter-in-law was pale, the dark circles under her eyes were particularly serious, and the whole person completely lost a large circle. She held the child and opened the door for me, and quickly turned to the kitchen to stir-fry.
I saw her working so hard, I quickly put down my luggage and ran over to help, but my daughter-in-law wouldn't let her. She said she could get busy, and said that I had worked hard at my daughter's house, so I could take a break.
I looked at her before and after her busy appearance, and felt a little guilty, so I asked her how she had spent the month.
She said that every day is doing housework, cooking, taking care of the children, and bringing food to my son. I said why I didn't invite a confinement sister-in-law, she said that it was too expensive to invite a confinement sister-in-law, plus the child let outsiders take her and she was not at ease. I asked her how she was doing, and she said it was okay, she just felt tired.
After listening to what my daughter-in-law said, I felt uncomfortable for a while, and I felt that I had not thought it through. After all, my daughter-in-law is also a woman who has just given birth, why don't I know to be considerate of her, but ran to take care of my daughter?
The more I thought about it, the more I felt guilty in my heart, and I wanted to apologize to my daughter-in-law, but as soon as I opened my mouth, my daughter-in-law smiled slightly and said that it was okay, she could understand my feelings as a mother, after all, my daughter is the flesh that fell from my own body.
Although my daughter-in-law said this, I heard another meaning in the words, and finally I understood why every time I asked her, she said that she was okay and smiled slightly.
At this time, I realized that my daughter-in-law's laughter was not from the heart, but a kind of alienation, a dissatisfaction, a hopelessness, and a loss and helpless acceptance of me.
From then on, I knew what I had to do to repair this gap with my daughter-in-law. But I didn't know where to start, because my daughter-in-law kept refusing to help me, saying that she could be busy.
Coincidentally, a few days later, I fell down the stairs, and my daughter-in-law accompanied me to the hospital for examination, and the doctor said that it was a bone crack and needed to stay in bed for a month. I feel very guilty that not only did I not help, but I probably had my daughter-in-law take care of me.
What I didn't expect was that after we returned home from the hospital, my daughter-in-law said that she would go back to her mother's house for a few days. I was surprised, my daughter-in-law is very considerate, very filial to me, and loves my son, how can I choose to go back to my mother's house at this time?
I advised her to wait until my leg injury healed, and she could stay as long as I could, but she smiled slightly, said that it had been decided, and said that she had discussed with my son, and my son agreed, and said let me rest well, and the children in the province cried and disturbed me.
When my daughter-in-law packed her luggage, I felt sad in my heart, so I asked her if I was not good to her and let her be wronged, so she chose to go back to her mother's house at this time.
The daughter-in-law just smiled slightly and said don't let me think so much, she just wanted to change the environment, just wanted to go back to see her parents, I haven't seen them for more than a month, just let them see their granddaughter.
I vaguely felt that something was wrong, so I asked my daughter-in-law the real reason, she was still reluctant to say, and said that I don't have to worry, she is fine.
When my daughter-in-law went out and left, I cried and even had the illusion that my daughter-in-law would not come back this time.
Unexpectedly, this illusion of mine turned out to be a reality, and the next day I found a letter in the corner of the sofa, which read:
Dear mother-in-law,
Hello! I'm really sorry to communicate with you in this way today. You may be surprised why I wrote the letter, but that's okay, I'll tell you about it next.
I didn't want to tell you, I was afraid that you would be sad, but after thinking about it, you are my elder and the mother of Ma Qiang (my son's name), and this matter should be known to you.
Ma Qiang and I have divorced, yes, you read that right, I divorced Ma Qiang, and we have completed the formalities.
You may ask me why, very simply, because there is no love between me and Ma Qiang.
During my month of confinement, because of the lack of manpower, we quarreled many times over a little thing, and even started, and there was no communication between us, only boredom and endless quarrels about each other. We tried to redeem it, but we couldn't get it back.
You may ask me why I didn't tell you, it's because I'm afraid you'll be sad, I know you're good to me, even catching up with your daughter, so I don't want to disappoint you.
This time to leave, you may feel that I am irresponsible, feel that I left at this time, leaving you alone at home is unfilial, in fact, I was not such a person before.
I didn't want to hurt you and your son, but I also want to pursue my happiness and hope you will forgive me for saying goodbye.
Finally, I wish my dear mother-in-law good health and all the best!
After reading the letter, I cried...