Women in marriage always have high expectations of men's moral bottom line, feeling that they will definitely guard the small home of the two and live their lives in peace.
But in fact, marriage is the beginning of real life, this sentence is not wrong at all, after marriage the true face of some men will be exposed.
Three women tell you: married men have other women outside and can change a lot, such as in these areas.
Wang Ruru, 31 years old, employee of a pharmaceutical company: My husband has not been in good health recently, and he is very prone to illness, but later I learned that it was because he had something in mind.
My husband and I are college classmates, have a relationship foundation, and got married within two years after graduation.
I have always believed that I have a happy family, a husband who loves me, and a lovely son.
But all this is my wishful thinking, it turns out that the husband I trust is not as loyal as I imagined.
My husband used to be in good health, although he didn't like to exercise, but he rarely got sick. Even during the pandemic, he only lay in bed for half a day and quickly recovered.
But recently, his body has had a big problem, and his immunity has weakened, resulting in easy colds.
He didn't let me take care of him when he had a cold, saying that he was afraid of infecting me, anyway, he looked nervous every day.
I thought there was something wrong with his work, but after inquiring with his colleagues, I didn't find anything unusual.
Until last night, I received a private message on my social platform, which was sent to me by a woman.
The woman said something about her and my husband, let me divorce them, anyway, we won't have a good time in the future.
Calculating the cause and effect, I learned that my husband was entangled by women outside and was afraid that this matter would be known to me, so he was exhausted, resulting in his body being dragged down.
The reason why he didn't want me to take care of him was just out of guilt and self-blame, not really for my good.
Zhang Ziyu, 29 years old, private teacher: My husband did not want to sleep with me for a long time, and later I learned that it was because he had a physical problem, and I was afraid that I would know.
My husband and I have only been married for a few years, and our children are only two years old, which is not yet a seven-year itch.
My son and my mother-in-law are helping to bring it, so usually we have personal time, I want to make out with him, but he always says that he is too tired and resists intimate activities with me.
Although I was not very happy, I did not force him, and this situation lasted for more than three months.
I haven't had sex in so long, and I must have doubted that he had another woman outside.
But he assured me that he was really tired because he said that there were no other women out there.
Until three days ago, when I was cleaning up my room, I found a medical certificate in the drawer that he had suffered traumatic injuries.
I immediately understood that the reason he didn't want to sleep with me was because he was injured.
But looking at the broken diagnostic record, I understood that he was definitely playing too much with other women, resulting in physical injury.
He didn't tell me that he was injured, because he was afraid that I would know, after all, it was difficult to find a reason for that injury.
He also made excuses that he was too tired, so he did not fulfill his obligations as a husband, and I was fooled by him.
If your husband is not willing to make out with you, there must be a problem, most likely there are other women outside, which makes it inconvenient for him to make out with you.
Huang Fuqun, 36 years old, full-time wife: After my husband had a woman outside, he was reluctant to share a room with me, so he made excuses to stay outside.
My husband used to go to work during the day and go home to sleep at night.
However, just a few months ago, my husband told me that it was too busy to come back every day, and he rented a private room at his place of work.
I thought he had to drive back every day, it was really hard, rent a house.
Almost a month has passed, and he has not been home once, and I am afraid that he will not change his clothes, so I brought him some clothes over.
I went to his rental house and found that there was nothing out of the ordinary, although it was not very clean.
I thought about staying over there for the night, cleaning him up and then making out with him again.
After all, he hasn't been home for so long, I still miss him a lot, and I came to him for this reason.
That night, he had just finished work and I asked him to take a shower, but he said he was a little tired and went to bed with dirty clothes.
He didn't want to cooperate, and I couldn't force it, and I went home the next day. Although I somewhat suspected that there was something going on outside him, I didn't find a clue, and it was difficult to find the confrontation directly.
Until the day before yesterday, my husband's last job was over, and he went home to stay for a few days.
When I was cleaning at night, his phone lit up, and he was just away, so I picked it up and looked at it.
It turned out that the woman forbade him to be intimate with me, and he really kept his distance from me in order to please other women.
When a man has another woman outside, it will definitely change drastically, and even if he hides it well, he will show his feet in the family.
If you look closely, you will find that he is always preoccupied and has no interest in you, most likely there is a new person outside who is pestering him.