Hello everyone, I'm Daddy Milk Bean~
I want to ask everyone first: if grandma and grandma can't bring a baby, will you choose to let your father-in-law take on the burden of bringing a baby?
Perhaps for this problem, many parents are benevolent and wise.
After all, for many young parents, father-in-law, as a man, coupled with his age, is bound to be less delicate and comprehensive than grandma and grandma in the matter of raising a baby.
But an incident that happened around me made me see the ceiling of "father-in-law with baby".
Neighbor Sister Zhang has a son, the child from birth to 2 years old, is helped by Sister Zhang's mother-in-law, but then Sister Zhang's mother-in-law's daughter-in-law also gave birth to a baby, this time the old man has to go to the youngest son's house to help take care of a period of time, can not continue to help Sister Zhang with the baby.
Moreover, what is more troublesome is that Sister Zhang's mother's family is far away, plus Sister Zhang and her old fair work are relatively busy, and they really can't spare time to take care of the children, so who will "take over the baton and bring the baby" has become the key to the problem.
In desperation, Sister Zhang thought of her father-in-law, who was originally a teacher in an elementary school, and after retiring, he raised flowers and teased birds at home, and lived a relaxed life. So after Sister Zhang made a request, her father-in-law did not immediately agree, but said to consider it first.
Two days later, Sister Zhang's father-in-law called and said: If you want me to bring my baby, I must first establish two rules.
At first, Sister Zhang felt that her father-in-law's practice was a little too formal, just bringing a baby, which was so complicated, and her heart was somewhat unhappy.
But considering the current situation, there is only one way to let the father-in-law take the baby, so he quickly said: don't talk about two rules, even a hundred.
But what Sister Zhang never expected was that because she recognized the 2 rules of the public and public schools, her children showed good abilities in all aspects after going to kindergarten, and they also became the fragrant food loved by teachers and classmates in the kindergarten.
Later, every time Sister Zhang mentioned the 2 rules of public and public affairs, she said with great emotion: It is worthy of being a teacher for a lifetime, and in the matter of bringing a baby, people really have to be convinced.
So what exactly are these two rules? Let's find out together.
The first rule: do not come to the door with the baby, keep the child away from the comfort zone
The first rule set by Sister Zhang's father-in-law was: do not come to the door to take the baby, but send the child to their home.
It may be difficult for many young parents to let an old man watch the baby alone, after all, a two-year-old child is running and jumping, more naughty age, the old man is old, legs and feet are inconvenient, it is easy to keep up.
Sister Zhang also thought so at first, but considering that her in-laws' home was not far from her home, even if there was something, she could arrive in time, so she agreed to her father-in-law's conditions.
It was not until the child went to kindergarten for a while later that Sister Zhang understood that her father-in-law did not do this on a whim, but with good intentions.
Because when the child is sent to the grandfather's house, it is far from his familiar comfort zone, originally fearless in his own home, but when he enters a new environment, he is bound to converge, which lays a good foundation for the development of Sister Zhang's "education method".
In addition, Sister Zhang's son himself is more naughty, no matter what he does, it is three minutes of heat, so the old man did this on purpose, wanting to re-exercise and cultivate his grandson.
To put it simply, the child used to jump up and down at home, and there were many things to provide him with entertainment, but in grandpa's house it was different, not only did he have less things to play, but he had to follow his grandfather's arrangements to do anything.
It can be said that when the child's survival style and growth environment change, as long as it is correctly guided, then some of the previous bad habits will naturally be subtly corrected and changed.
This is also the reason why Sister Zhang's father-in-law insisted on not bringing the baby at home, but chose to bring the baby in his own home.
The second rule: to bring the baby in your own way, the son and daughter-in-law should not mix too much
Sister Zhang said that at first, she psychologically rejected this rule.
Although it is said that his father-in-law has been a teacher for a lifetime, after all, the times are changing with each passing day, and if many of his concepts of bringing children are too conservative, then it is bound to have a series of impacts on children.
But after some thought, Sister Zhang felt that the reason why the old man had such an arrangement may be that she was worried that the two generations had different parenting concepts, and in the process of bringing the baby, if the priority was not clearly distinguished, it was easy to produce conflicts and contradictions. So he agreed to this condition.
From this point of view, Sister Zhang's father-in-law is indeed prescient, and even many people around us say that Sister Zhang's father-in-law is really "sober in the world".
Since Sister Zhang's father-in-law began to take a baby, Sister Zhang would go over to take a look after work whenever she was not busy with work, but every time she went, she found that her father-in-law was wandering, either reading a book or fiddling with his flowers and plants.
On the other hand, his own son was lying on the ground playing sticker picture books very seriously.
At first, Sister Zhang felt that her father-in-law was lazy in bringing the baby, trying to save her own peace of mind and let the child play stickers there alone.
But unexpectedly, her father-in-law told her that this is to cultivate children's concentration, and can also exercise children's hand-eye-brain coordination.
Not only that, the old man also specifically emphasized that 2-6 years old is the golden period to cultivate children's concentration, but also the key period to develop children's left and right brains, so that children can improve concentration and promote brain development by playing stickers, which is a method advocated by many parenting teachers at home and abroad.
Because when playing stickers, children need to paste the correct sticker to the corresponding position, then this process requires children to concentrate, and achieve the coordination and unity of hand, eye and brain, so that invisibly, slowly improve children's concentration and promote the development of children's brain potential.
In addition, the stickers have a lot of common sense and knowledge of life, and children can learn more things in the process of playing, thus laying a good foundation for future learning.
At first, Sister Zhang thought that playing with a sticker, how is it so godly, but did not think, after the child went to kindergarten, both ends of the three days were praised by the teacher, saying that the child has strong concentration, can sit, flexible brain, and whether it is thinking ability or learning ability, it is much better than children of the same age.
It was only at this time that Sister Zhang realized that the way of taking the baby that seemed to be lazy was actually a lot of benefits for the child.
Later, once, I went to Sister Zhang's house to hang out, and I happened to meet Sister Zhang's father-in-law who was also at home, so I asked this retired teacher how to play stickers.
The old teacher told me that to let children play with stickers, we must grasp the golden period of 2-6 years old, and when choosing sticker picture books for children, they must meet three elements, namely: knowledge increment, cognitive laws, and strong interest.
Later, the old man introduced me to a set of stickers he played with for his children, and he said that this set of stickers was his grandson's favorite set, and he had already bought many sets.
In the process of flipping through, I found that this set of sticker picture books is very in line with the three elements that the old man said, not only contains a lot of interesting scenes, but also has sufficient knowledge, and can also cultivate children's concentration, memory, logical thinking and multiple abilities.
Later, when I got home, I bought a set of milk beans for our family, and I found that since the child played with this set of stickers, he no longer argues to play with his mobile phone and watch cartoons, and even when I bring my baby, I have a lot of worry.
This set of children's concentration training puzzle stickers contains a total of 16 themes, such as: marine animals, insect kingdom, dinosaur kingdom, farm animals, etc., which are very interesting and very in line with the cognition of children aged 2-6.
Moreover, each set of stickers in this set of picture books is beautifully designed, bright and lively, and the cartoon image is also more in line with children's aesthetic standards, which can attract children to the greatest extent to use their hands and brains, one set can be played for a long time, in the process of playing, you can slowly exercise and improve children's concentration.
This set of "Children's Concentration Training Educational Stickers", a complete set of 20 books, contains more than 3,200 exquisite stickers, a total of only 55 yuan, each only more than 2 yuan, can be said to be very cost-effective.
If you also want to improve your child's concentration, develop your child's multiple potential, and lay a solid foundation for school, why not try to let your child play with this set of stickers, I put this set of picture books below, interested parents can understand.
All 20 children's educational cartoon stickers ¥55 to purchase
In fact, now many families, are the elderly with the baby, and let the child play stickers, not only beneficial to the child's growth, but also can liberate the elderly, at home can do early education for the baby, cultivate the child's potential to learn the top, as parents, why not?