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I often hear parents complain that their children are impatient, always do things, and give up halfway, in fact, the child is still young, if you pay attention to some problems, the child's patience can be adjusted and improved.
In psychology, patience belongs to an aspect of the quality of will, cultivating children's patience will not only help children in learning, but also have a great impact on his future life, so how to cultivate children's patience?
Lead by example, be a good example, all of which are put in the first place because many children are impatient, is the result of parents' words and deeds, parents themselves do things is a tiger, to let children have patience, first of all, parents must be patient to complete everything, such as accompanying children to do homework at night, when children can't sit still, parents can stabilize their minds, where to read, children will see that their hearts will be touched, and they will gradually change. Of course, parents also need to pay attention to the fact that they discuss with their children in advance, and then clarify the time to complete the homework, so that the child recognizes and has a boundary in his heart, and at the same time, parents do not nag when their children write homework, and the state of parents being quiet can better affect their children.
From easy to difficult, step by step. From a psychological point of view, the satisfaction of children's desires is divided into five types: delayed gratification, appropriate dissatisfaction, advanced gratification, immediate gratification, and excessive gratification. If you want to cultivate children's patience, advocate parents to choose "delayed gratification" and "appropriate dissatisfaction", and train children's patience by delaying the satisfaction of their children's wishes, of course, considering their age and ability to bear, and prolonging their patience time a little. To first make the child believe that the parents can meet their desires, but need to wait, even if the child is in a hurry, parents should not be in a hurry, should have the attitude of believing in the child, let the child adapt to patience.
For example: the egg has just been boiled and the child is in a hurry to eat it. At this time, you can tell him that the egg is too hot, ice it with cold water, and even let the child touch it himself, so that he believes that the freshly boiled egg cannot be peeled and eaten immediately. Let the child really feel that there is a lot to wait.
Observe carefully and encourage in time. In daily life, parents pay more attention to their children's every move, and must give timely encouragement when they find that their children have made progress in patience, which is very important for the cultivation of children's patience. Praise and encouragement are like "sunshine and rain", because it is difficult for children to control emotions, when children have worked hard to surpass previous records, parents must pay attention to affirm their children, and give spiritual or material rewards in time, which is an important energy for children to persist and improve patience.
Self-reliance, experience time. Advocate their own things to do by themselves, do not overstep the way to help children, such as dressing and eating, etc., not only can improve hands-on ability, sensory coordination, but also let children notice that everything is not achieved overnight, there will be problems, in the solution of the problem not only improve the child's thinking systematic, comprehensive, problem-solving ability, but also make him feel the existence of time, the importance of patience. What is more advocated is to let children raise plants or small animals, so that he understands in the process that no matter how anxious you are, whether it is plants or animals, it takes time, and through the process, the child's patience will grow with this.
Competitions, activities, games, helpful attention. "Interest is the best teacher". Therefore, we should find children's interests in the small things of daily life, so that they can get a pleasant experience in the process of their favorite games, activities, etc., and their children are interested in these and will take the initiative to pay attention, which is the best opportunity to cultivate children's patience. Design competitive activities to engage your child and develop patience and concentration through your child's competitive spirit.
Split goals and solve puzzles. Many times the reason why children seem irritable is not really impatient, but the anxiety caused by feeling that the task cannot be achieved. "One bite can not become a big fat person", growth and progress is the process of quantitative change caused by qualitative change, to teach children to know how to split goals, turn the whole into zero, let children work hard can succeed, not how hard can not achieve, the next is to do every little thing, complete every small goal.
If you encounter a problem that your child cannot solve, parents should pay attention to it and help their child solve it. You can't blame the child because the child can't cross, this will dampen the child's enthusiasm, but also affect the child's patience cultivation, parents to help the child, even with the help of the teacher, and tell the child who will encounter some difficult problems, seeking the help of others is a very normal thing, to know how to care for the child's enthusiasm and patience.