On April 3, 1965, Lu Xiaoman, a talented daughter of a generation of famous ladies, died in Shanghai at the age of 63. She was wearing a torn cotton jacket before she died, and because she had no children, her ashes remained unclaimed and were later disappeared. It wasn't until 1988, after a gap of 23 years, that her cousins and nieces built a tomb for her, with photographs of her student days on the tombstones.
On November 7, 1903, Lu Xiaoman was born in Kongjia Lane, Shanghai. Her father, Lu Dingju, was a late Qing dynasty scholar who studied abroad in his youth, graduated from Waseda University in Japan, and participated in the League while studying in Japan. Lu Ding was recommended by his fellow villagers to serve in the Ministry of Finance, and has served as director, counselor, tax director and other official positions for more than 20 years, and is also the founder of China Savings Bank. Her mother, Wu Manhua, is the eldest daughter of Wu Yunhe, the first of the three disciples of the White Horse in Changzhou, she is versatile, good at brush painting, and has a deep knowledge of ancient texts.
Lu Xiaoman comes from a famous family, has been exposed to it since childhood, and has a good artistic talent.
In 1919, Lu Xiaoman came to Beijing to study and live, studying at the Beijing Sacred Heart Academy, learning English, French, painting, dance, piano and other subjects.
Soon after, Lu Xiaoman was hired as a diplomatic translator by Gu Weijun, the foreign minister of the Beiyang government, and became famous among Beijing's upper class.
Lu Xiaoman's first husband was Wang Geng, who was born into a family of eunuchs and eunuchs, studied at Tsinghua University, and later studied at the University of Michigan, Columbia University and Princeton University.
Lu Xiaoman's parents believe that Wang Geng has a bright future and is a suitable marriage partner for their daughter. From the engagement to the marriage in less than a month, the entire process was handled by the Lu family, which shows that the Lu family's parents were very satisfied with this son-in-law, and Lu Xiaoman was only 19 years old at that time.
Lu Xiaoman, who has been accustomed to a luxurious life since he was a child, still spends money like water after getting married. In order to give his wife good material conditions, Wang Geng worked harder. Although he had studied abroad, he still had some traditions in his bones and did not want his wife to show her face outside, so Lu Xiaoman resigned from his job as a diplomatic translator.
After Lu Xiaoman resigned at home, he had more time to relax, hoping that his husband would accompany him, and Wang Geng thought that working hard and making more money was good and responsible to his wife, and Wang Geng's personality lacked interest, and he was busy working and earning money every day, so naturally he had no time to pay attention to his wife's feelings.
Unwilling to be lonely, Lu Xiaoman often went out to play cards with a group of ladies and wives, danced, went home in the middle of the night, and got up at one o'clock the next afternoon, her husband was dissatisfied with her lifestyle, and the contradictions gradually increased, affecting the relationship between husband and wife. It is not difficult to see that there is a big difference between the calm rationality of the husband of an officer and the romantic enjoyment of his wife, laying the groundwork for the breakdown of their marriage.
In the twelfth year of the Republic of China, Wang Geng was transferred by the Beiyang government to the northeast as a police chief. Lu Xiaoman was not well supposed to live in Harbin, and soon she returned to Beiping alone.
Wang Geng and Xu Zhimo are friends, and Wang Geng found that his wife was unhappy because he didn't have time to accompany him, so he asked Xu Zhimo to have fun with Lu Xiaoman when he was free.
A merry talent, a romantic celebrity, a long-term love, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman fell in love. Wang Geng personally laid a mine for his marriage.
How to get Wang Geng to let go? Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman asked Liu Haisu for help, and Liu Haisu held a banquet and invited relevant personnel to the banquet. At the dinner, Liu Haisu specially talked about topics such as "love freedom", and Wang Geng immediately understood.
Wang Geng once said to Lu Xiaoman; "If you think you'll be happy with Shima, I'm willing to let it go." When Lu Xiaoman married Xu Zhimo, Wang Geng said to Xu Zhimo; "If you treat her badly in the future, let me know, I will definitely fight with fierce means." From this point of view, Wang Geng still loves Lu Xiaoman very much in his heart, but he is willing to let go for love and is willing to fulfill love.
On August 15, 1926, Lu Xiaoman married Xu Zhimo.
After they got married, Lu Xiaoman continued his luxurious lifestyle, but Xu Zhimo's financial resources were not as good as Wang Geng's, and the Xu family's parents were dissatisfied with Lu Xiaoman and stopped their financial support for Xu Zhimo.
In order to meet Lu Xiaoman's life of a drunken gold fan, Xu Zhimo teaches classes at Guanghua University, Soochow University, and Daxia University, writing in his spare time to earn money, and also pulling the face of the following people to work as a real estate agency, even this is not enough to catch up with Lu Xiaoman's monthly expenses of at least 500 oceans.
Lu Xiaoman has asthma and lung disease, physical fitness is not very good, in order to divorce her ex-husband Wang Geng in 1925 went to a private clinic for abortion, surgical injuries caused her to lose fertility, and left a lot of roots, Xu Zhimo asked his friend Weng Duanwu to treat Lu Xiaoman. Weng Duanwu knows Tuina, also understands Chinese studies, likes painting and collecting, and slowly becomes Lu Xiaoman's health care doctor.
Weng Duanwu proposed that Lu Xiaoman smoke opium to relieve physical pain, which caused Lu Xiaoman to become addicted to opium.
Xu Zhimo traveled between several cities to earn money, and could not often accompany his wife, Weng Duanwu gradually became Lu Xiaoman's family doctor and emotional companion. At this time, rumors about Lu and Weng came out, and Xu Zhimo said that he and Lu Xiaoman were true love.
In November 1931, Lu Xiaoman sent a telegram urging Xu Zhimo to go home, and on November 11, Xu Zhimo flew to Nanjing on Zhang Xueliang's special plane and returned home on the 13th. Xu Zhimo saw Lu Xiaoman immersed in the cloud and fog of opium smoking, and advised his wife to quit opium, stating that opium was harmful to his body. Lu Xiaoman was very angry, she picked up the bonggun without thinking and threw it at Xu Zhimo, smashing Xu Zhimo's gold wire glasses.
On November 19, 1931, Xu Zhimo returned to Beijing by plane, and when the plane reached Jinan, the fog was thick, the plane crashed into a mountain and fell, and Xu Zhimo died at the age of 35.
When the Xu family held a memorial service, Lu Xiaoman sent a sad elegy: how many years ago became a nightmare, five years of mourning and joy, hurried eternal tips, heaven's way to rejuvenate, wanting to die because of his mother and old age; Don't hate anyone to speak, all sick, faint and detached from the soul, the world should not be long, the compilation of the testament will answer the king's heart.
After Xu Zhimo died, some people persuaded Lu Xiaoman to remarry, and Wang Geng proposed to Lu Xiaoman to remarry, but Lu Xiaoman refused.
Later, for nearly thirty years, Lu Xiaoman lived with Weng Duanwu, because Weng Duanwu's family had a wife and children, Lu Xiaoman said that he would not marry Weng Duanwu, nor would he let Weng Duanwu divorce.
In his later years, Lu Xiaoman said: "Between me and Weng Ruiwu, there is only affection, not love between men and women. ”
Maybe Lu Xiaoman needs Weng Ruiwu's financial support, physical patients also need his adjustment, and she also needs the company of a man who likes herself.
The man who appeared in Lu Xiaoman's life successively, his ex-husband Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman divorced and were single and unmarried, and in 1942, Song Ziwen, who was the foreign minister, asked Wang Geng to go to the United States together, and Wang Geng died of illness on the way.
Weng Ruiwu died in 1961, and before he died, he asked his friends Zhao Jiabi and Zhao Qingge and said to them: "I am leaving, please ask the two of you to take care of Xiao Man in the future, I will also be grateful under the Nine Springs." "
Does Weng Ruiwu love Lu Xiaoman? There should be love, he has provided for Lu Xiaoman for more than 30 years, and has been taking care of Lu Xiaoman under the premise of hurting the feelings of his original wife when he has a family.
Lu Xiaoman quit opium in her later years, but because of the erosion of opium smoking, she lost all her teeth. Looking at her shriveled cheeks in her later years, it is difficult to imagine her flamboyant and bright appearance when she was young.
A generation of talented women has completed more than sixty years of life, and since she was young, her life has been dependent on the support of men, and it is only a few years before her death that she has left the family, joined the work, and achieved economic self-supply.
Looking at her photos, flipping through her life, I can't help but sigh for her talent and experience, God gave her a good hand, the congenital condition is to reincarnate better than others, and have talent, just used to living a luxurious life, and because of physical reasons were affected by Weng Ruiwu to smoke opium, from the body to the heart was fate, she was cultivated into an arrogant and selfish character, her life is like a drama, ups and downs are scenery, Yiren has passed away, but her story is forever.
