Lin Xinru said in an interview: "I think there must be a reason for breaking up, and I can't accept separation without reason." Many people should have encountered this situation, the other half broke up when it was not clear, either directly lost contact, or perfunctory you to deal with you, or said something "temporarily separated for a period of time".
Anyway, it is not to say the breakup positively, or to say that the breakup does not say the reason. Cover up. This kind of thing makes the person who is broken up very uncomfortable, at least not very able. So most of them will ask for a reason, will ask the other party to come out and talk.
But the more so, the more the person who dumped you avoids, and it is very angry to think about. Breaking up is also torturous, and the person who proposed the breakup may feel that he doesn't want to hurt you because he doesn't say the reason.
As Lin Xinru said: "Even if you tell me that you have another girlfriend and who you have, I don't love you anymore." It's my business if I can't get out, but you at least let me know why!" ”
In fact, the person who wants to break up, even if he is in love with someone else, he refuses to say it, for fear of angering the person who was broken up. At this time, he may not have the courage to face it, not for fear of saying it and hurting you, after all, breaking up is already a kind of harm. Most of them are afraid of their own "disadvantage", afraid that the person who is broken up will lose control and bring him trouble or personal threats.
This is a less responsible psychology and behavior, dare to fall in love with others, dare to break up, at least have the courage to confess, at least to sort out the previous relationship, and then to start another relationship, this is also a sense of responsibility, but unfortunately when you really want to fall in love with others, you dare not take it out as a reason for breaking up.
Unless he meets a confident and strong person, or meets someone who knows what love and open-mindedness, he will calmly accept that he is in love with someone else to break up, not noisy or even give a blessing.
Lin Xinru should also be talking about her experience of being broken up, she said: "For a while, I was entangled in, why is there no why? Where are we now? Is it separate or not? But he didn't say, is this performance considered scum? I think it's not responsible, that's slag. ”
Indeed, not taking responsibility is also a kind of scum, or at least an act that people look down on. If you dare to change your mind, then you must be mentally prepared to deal with your ex. Breaking up is also a technical job, a matter that needs to be responsible, and breaking up inexplicably if you don't handle it well is indeed excessive.
Lin Xinru felt: "If you don't love is not love, what's not good you can't say?" I don't feel for you anymore, maybe I'm afraid of hurting you, forget it, you have already hurt me like this, this knife, at least let me understand. ”
Most of those who can have this kind of mentality are more confident than confident, and there is no shortage of love. You just make it clear, don't entangle or make noise, and the person who broke up has no pressure, and dares to admit empathy and don't fall in love.
It's a pity that most of the people who are broken up can't be as free as Lin Xinru said, and even hope that the other party will find a reason they can accept when they break up, even if they know that it may be a lie, but they also feel that this does not hurt their self-esteem and is better accepted.
For example, casually use some practical factors as reasons for breaking up: parents do not agree, the door is not right, I am not worthy of you, I can't give you the life you want now...
Anyway, avoid the important and light, anyway, in order to share the profit, reduce yourself a little. There are really very few people who really say that they are in love with someone else before they break up. So it seems that Lin Xinru also met such a person who "dumped" herself, and her reaction was the same as many people: want a result, don't be unclear...