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Mother and child should have boundaries when getting along
Xiao Haohao gradually grew up, and his relationship with his mother also underwent some changes. From the cute and playful groping when they were children to the fourteen-year-old teenagers now, the intimate connection between them still exists,
But mother and child also need to have clearer boundaries when getting along. Over time, Xiao Haohao began to gradually become independent. He learned to manage daily homework, complete household chores and plan his time on his own.
In the process, his mother gave him the support and encouragement he needed to grow. However, one weekend night, Xiao Haohao once again felt that feeling of inseparable dependence on his mother.
After dinner that day, when my mother sat down to watch TV and rested, she complained of severe tightness in her head and said that her back muscles were sore. A thought flashed in front of Xiao Haohao's eyes - maybe I can help her massage.
So Xiao Haohao suggested: "Mom, do you want me to help you massage your head and back?" May alleviate some. "The mother felt very warm and relieved to hear that the child offered such a suggestion.
She knows that Xiao Haohao has always been a kind-hearted and considerate child. The mother agreed to Xiao Haohao's proposal, and the two walked into the bedroom.
Mom was lying on the bed, and Xiao Haohao stood beside her and began to massage her head. He gently kneaded his mother's tight scalp with his fingertips, relaxing under the right pressure.
Subsequently, Xiao Haohao transferred to the back and operated in a disciplined manner after learning the pressing technique in advance. He insists on using appropriate force and taking care to avoid sensitive areas.
However, there was an embarrassing moment in the process - when Xiao Haohao accidentally touched his mother's chest, he immediately withdrew his hand and prepared to move to another position.
The mother's work and physical condition
Acting on to please your loved ones and seeing results always makes people cry with joy when their wishes come true. However, while the massage is in progress,
Due to his young age and lack of skill, it became difficult to sit upright, and he also accidentally touched his mother's chest. The mother smiled, turned around and said, "Son, massage my waist hard." ”
Haohao immediately understood the mistake he had made and felt a little embarrassed. He knew he used to have free access to his mother anywhere, but now he was older.
"I'm sorry, Mom." Haohao immediately apologized to her, "I didn't expect to run into there. I promise to be more careful in the future. At the same time, in order to comfort and express inner emotions, sincerity and love are revealed in the voice.
"You've worked hard all week, so please pay more attention to my instructions next time." The mother looked at Hao Hao tenderly, and understanding and love flashed in her eyes. "Thank you for your mature and honest response."
She caressed his hair, "As a young boy, we need to learn to keep an appropriate distance, respect each other and maintain each other's boundaries when we get along. ”
Although I feel a little lost in my heart when I hear these words, I can still gain spoiling and pleasure from the words." All right! I promise you," he replied, knowing the importance of this.
From that day on, Haohao gradually understood the responsibilities and boundaries required to grow. He learned independence and self-discipline, and understood that his mother also needed her personal space.
Although it was still difficult to resist the emotional feeling of dependence on his mother occasionally, he worked harder to move in the right direction. When educating children, it is important to ensure proper distancing.
Mothers work hard and physically out of love and care, so it is essential to establish meaningful and continuous effective communication between families.
Hao Hao helped his mother massage
The mother lay quietly on the bed, enjoying the massage from her son with her eyes closed. She felt Haohao's little hand grip her shoulder tightly and knead hard.
Gradually, a sense of comfort and relaxation spread. "Mom, is that right?" Haohao asked cautiously. The mother smiled and nodded, "Very well, baby." Your strength is very suitable. ”
Hearing his mother praise his skills was heartening. He is more focused on providing the best massage experience for his mother. Gently pluck with your fingers, applying a little pressure as your back slides over,
Pay close attention to any soreness or discomfort. "Oops!" The mother suddenly let out an exclamation. "What's wrong, Mom? Am I doing something wrong? Haohao asked anxiously.
The mother smiled awkwardly, "It's okay, it's okay!" It's just that you accidentally touched my sensitive parts. Hearing his mother's explanation, Haohao suddenly felt embarrassed. He didn't expect to come across that place.
He immediately stopped the massage and apologized to his mother. "Mom, I'm sorry! I really didn't pay attention to it. I thought your whole body needed a massage. Haohao said with some chagrin.
The mother stroked his hair, "Baby, that's a lesson. We should remember to learn to maintain appropriate boundaries in getting along and interacting. "What do you mean by proper boundaries?"
Haohao asked suspiciously. "It's about understanding that everyone has their own private space and private parts, and we have to respect each other." The mother explained patiently.
"For example, positions like the back, shoulders, etc. can help relax the body; However, the lower body is a private part and should only be handled by a professional or doctor. After listening to my mother's explanation,
Hoho began to understand the meaning and realized that growing up meant establishing new boundaries with his family. From that day on, Haohao became more cautious when dealing with his mother.
Although he still caresses his mother's arm and hugs her, he has learned to avoid touching sensitive areas. He began to realize that he had grown up and needed to respect the boundaries between his mother and himself.
At the same time, my mother also understood to build a healthy and solid growth space in Haohao's heart. She knows that as children grow up, they must not only pay attention to physical needs and love,
They also need to develop their ability to think independently, respect boundaries, and get along with others. To this end, Haohao began to actively participate in other household activities.
Tasks such as helping with the son's house, washing dishes, and caring for small pets gradually became an essential part of daily life. These responsibilities give him the opportunity to exercise himself and show a responsible attitude towards his family.
Since the positive reward for her son's excellent behavior was rewarded, the mother also decided to give Haohao more trust and encourage him to take the initiative to pursue his own goals. This not only promotes the personal development of the son but also strengthens the good communication between mother and child.
From that day on, through the guidance of this incident, Haohao understood the importance of growing up, and he began to learn to be independent and gradually keep a certain distance from his mother.
Although sometimes he still can't help but want to be close to his mother, he understands that this closeness needs to be moderate and not exceed the boundary.
Define the boundaries between mother and child
Although Haohao apologized for accidentally touching his mother's sensitive parts during the massage, he still couldn't let go. This incident made him think about what kind of distance and intimacy should be maintained between mother and child.
Over the next few days, Haohao began to actively look for opportunities to have in-depth conversations with his mother. Whenever after dinner, they would sit on the couch and chat and share their thoughts and feelings with each other.
Mom appreciates this change, and she understands that she has a responsibility to guide her children to put family relationships in perspective. "Son, you've grown up." Mom said gently,
"As a sensible, well-behaved and caring boy, you need to learn to be independent and discern which behaviors are appropriate." Hearing these words, Haohao couldn't help but smile and nod.
"I see, Mommy. I probably did rely too much on you before. He took a deep breath and continued, "But at the same time I hope we can keep that special concern." "Of course."
Mom's voice was full of understanding, "The intimacy between mother and child is irreplaceable, but we need to learn to give each other space at the right time." Haohao reflected on these words,
He began to understand that a new relationship should be established between himself and his mother. A relationship that maintains warmth and care without losing independence and respect for boundaries.
To better understand the concept, he volunteered to go to the library to find relevant books and read them. His writings on family education and child psychology helped him to gain a deeper understanding of the precautions needed for children's development.
Time flew by, and after a few weeks, Haohao finally found a book that particularly caught his attention, "Mother and Son Together: Building Healthy Boundaries." "That's exactly what I wanted to know!"
He was thrilled and couldn't wait to take the book home. Over the next few weeks, Hao Hao was fascinated by the book's principles for parents and children and how to deal with intimacy.
Through practical cases and professional opinions, this guide nature of the reading material has made young Haohao understand how to maintain appropriate boundaries in the mother-child relationship.
He learned that respecting each other's personal space is the first step to establishing healthy boundaries. At the same time, there are many ways to maintain intimacy, such as expressing emotions by sharing feelings, mutual support, and understanding.
After this period of in-depth thinking and learning, my mother saw Haohao's positive growth and continuous efforts to become independent, and praised him. "I'm proud of you." She said,
"You have become a smart and sensible young man." After continuing to read books and practice, Haohao began to take action to change the mother-child relationship that was originally harmonious but lacked healthy boundaries.
Every night, before sleeping in their respective rooms, he would spend some time talking to his mom and sharing what had happened to each other that day. This new mode of communication strengthens a more solid, balanced and comfortable connection between them.
Over time, both mother and son realized that their relationships of love, trust, and respect were healthier and more stable than before when they established reasonable boundaries.
Hao Hao also understands the importance of the way mother and son get along, which is not only beneficial for his own growth, but also helps him better understand how to interact with others.
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