There is a husband whose heart is higher than the sky and who has been "soft and hard" for 28 years.
I don't want to act and have to do business, and if I owe tens of millions, I rely on my wife to pay it back.
This wife is still "stupid".
As long as my husband said: "I feel sorry for you, I am still a monk but red dust!" ”
She will be frightened to the point that the six gods have no master, and then hand over everything, exhausting herself to earn money for her husband.
Let the old mother be at ease on her deathbed, and her sister was so angry that she broke off her friendship for a while, causing her son to be implicated and began to close himself and go away alone.
A marriage put the dignity of the former TVB boss Hua Dan and "ATV sister" Chen Xiuwen on the ground and stepped on it.
If this husband does not leave her for the rest of her life, she can still hold on to it meaningfully.
But when it came to pouring down, the husband who was not a child dared to take the initiative to abandon him.
Some people say that Chen Xiuwen was held by Lin Guoxiong for the first half of her life.
But if you really look at their stories, you will find that there is more to it than that...
01
When I saw joy, I was fascinated by the longing
It may be that intellectual parents give their children too carefree to live.
This has led to Chen Xiuwen being naïve and living in the world of "I thought"!
In "No. 1 Royal Court", he played the prosecutor "Ding Rou" with sharp words and decisive personality.
In "Goodbye Sunny Day", he incarnated the virtuous wife "Xie Xiuqiao" who is beautiful and weak on the outside, and strong and confident inside.
Don't look at Chen Xiuwen playing mostly independent, intelligent and bold women.
In life, she is very financially independent, but she has big problems with her thinking.
At the age of 16, he went to the Hong Kong "Leigh TV" artist training class.
At the age of 17, he debuted singing the theme song of the same name of the TV series "Rogue Merry".
It became a hit and starred with Leslie Cheung in the long-form TV series "Six Tribulations of Floating Life".
Under the popularity of the audience, Chen Xiuwen has become a new star of Li's TV station.
Give resource packaging to help them become famous.
Who expected that this year when she entered "New Chameleon", the young girl would take a look at Lin Guoxiong and determine that it was ten thousand years.
Take the initiative to approach and find the big sisters on the set to make introductions.
Love at first sight, goodbye love, how to see how to like it, Chen Xiuwen secretly rejoiced.
In 1980, looking for Mak Donald to help him say good things, Chen Xiuwen entered the crew of "Sunshine in the Rain".
Played with her sweetheart, and she also talked to Lin Guoxiong in the play.
Nie Yuan, the "old driver of the love scene", said: "Love because of the play!" ”
After the filming of this romance film, Lin Guoxiong fell in love with Chen Xiuwen.
The two later collaborated in several plays such as "Pair of Pastes" and "Ranger Zhang Sanfeng".
Lang has a concubine intention, and the feelings flow like a natural flow.
From the age of 18 to 21, Chen Xiuwen fell deeply in love, and only Lin Guoxiong could not.
In 1983, without alarming a single media, 25-year-old Lin Guoxiong brought 21-year-old Chen Xiuwen into marriage.
According to Chen Xiuwen's sister Chen Jialing, "Sister is very happy, she said that no one in this world will be as good as Lin Guoxiong!" ”
But the longing for love before marriage may slowly deviate from reality after marriage.
Perhaps it is Lin Guoxiong's star path that has clearly gone downhill since he was 26 years old.
Perhaps it was Chen Xiuwen's fame that reached its peak after the age of 22.
The career of strong women and weak men has affected Lin Guoxiong's mentality.
From the beginning of gentle care, he slowly turned into impatience and not at home.
Even after that, he said the words "I can't support my family, it's better to be a monk".
This scared Chen Xiuwen a lot, and after persuading her in every possible way, she said, "I don't work anymore, I only take care of you."
When her career was popular, she stopped acting, and Chen Xiuwen gradually faded out of the entertainment industry and began to develop her singing career.
In 1987, Chen Xiuwen gave birth to her son Lin Shangzhi.
Because he had to take care of his children and completely retired, the problem of raising a family was all on Lin Guoxiong.
However, Lin Guoxiong's drama contract is unstable and the pay is small, and sometimes he goes out with friends to gather more to drink, and he can't make ends meet.
At the end of January, if he finds that he has not saved any money, he will lose his temper, and Chen Xiuwen will coax.
"My sister is not clear in her mind and is always apologizing. She actually felt that Lin Guoxiong's words 'if you are not smart, you have to do more' is right. I would scold if I couldn't stand it, and she also scolded me, saying that I didn't respect my brother-in-law, which was very angry..."
Chen Xiuwen likes Lin Guoxiong, likes to respect him in life, persuade herself, and believe everything about the other party.
02
Spending money on men, unlucky for three lifetimes
In 1992, 34-year-old Lin Guoxiong decided to break into the business sea.
Knowing that he had not saved money for 9 years after marriage, he pulled his wife to talk about his plans in real estate investment.
As long as you have the funds to start operating, you will definitely be able to soar.
Chen Xiuwen did not hesitate, she said "I will solve it"!
Sent his 5-year-old son to a full nursery class.
She signed a contract with TVB, while partnering with Stephen Chow and Liu Qingyun in "Twin Hearts and Livers".
While cooperating with director Li Guoli in the costume drama "Self-Combing Girl", it has been affirmed by countless audiences.
Then he filmed dramas such as "The Sea of People", "Blue Storm", "No. 1 Royal Court" and so on.
Integrate the signing fee and filming remuneration, and continuously give money to Lin Guoxiong, hoping that the other party's success is imminent.
Unfortunately, it backfired.
In 1997, the company co-founded by Lin Guoxiong, Pan Fangfang and Fang Guoshan, collapsed directly after 5 years of turmoil.
Although the venture failed, Lin Guoxiong did not let go of his hand to "point" real estate investment.
It wasn't until he threw too much money into it and didn't hear back, that he had a retreat in his heart.
After withdrawing and not giving up, Lin Guoxiong decided to engage in TV series production.
In August 1998, with the support of Chen Xiuwen, Lin Guoxiong's film and television company was established.
He looked around for managers, bought scripts, asked actors, and solicited sponsorship.
But the team was formed, and a lot of money was spent to buy the script he wanted, but no one was willing to invest.
Seeing that the capital chain was about to break, Lin Guoqiong was anxious.
Finally, he boldly borrowed money in the name of his wife Chen Xiuwen, and finally the company was forced to close due to multiple money disputes.
The money owed was not enough, and Lin Guoxiong once again proposed that "I might as well become a monk."
Once again scared Chen Xiuwen, who was bent on maintaining a "happy marriage".
She said: "My husband is very good, he is willing to be with me who is not excellent, I will not leave him." The money owed is temporary, he doesn't want to escape, it's just a temporary blow, I will definitely accompany him through the difficulties..."
Full of "my husband needs my help", Chen Xiuwen was so busy that she flew,
Transferred to ATV to take the signing money, and filmed "Goodbye Sunny Day" through half the sky.
As soon as he finished settling his arrears, he turned around and had a "new goal".
Also in 1998, Lin Guoxiong listened to a "senior monk" and wanted to build a Buddhist university.
Chen Xiuwen was worried because the starting capital of more than 10 million Hong Kong dollars was "unaffordable" for her.
But seeing her husband's disappointed eyes, she immediately crawled to borrow money.
Find a family member to borrow some money, open your mouth to friends and colleagues, and add all your savings.
Chen Xiuwen said: "You go, I believe you!" ”
It can only be said that Chen Xiuwen fell not painful enough to be able to pounce so blindly on a person with such a high eye and low hands.
The Buddhist university did not open because the "high monk" ran away with money.
No one could be found and no money could be chased, and debt became a difficult problem for Chen Xiuwen and Lin Guoxiong.
And the ridiculous thing then happened - "Something to find my wife, I have decided to become a monk!" ”
Lin Guoxiong disappeared!
Run away on your own at a critical moment, what is the use of such a man if he does not give up?
What everyone can see clearly, but Chen Xiuwen has always been stunned.
The Chen family's sister and mother once persuaded bitterly.
But Chen Xiuwen is "never leaving her marriage".
The creditors quickly came to the door.
On the way to work, filming the drama group, in front of the mother's house, on the campus where the son is...
As long as Chen Xiuwen will appear, there are people squatting and blocking.
03
Dead and alive do not want to free themselves, self-inflicted
In 2000, before Lin Guoxiong appeared, the more than 3 million yuan guarantee bill recovered by the financial company reached Chen Xiuwen's hands.
Chen Xiuwen's mother was stimulated again, was hospitalized and was found to have cancer, and her life did not last long.
The night before leaving, Chen's mother grabbed her youngest daughter Chen Jialing's hand and asked her to persuade her sister more, and the divorce was over.
After that, he called the bank manager and left all his property to Chen Jialing.
Please also ask her to help her sister when she is really difficult.
The mother closed her eyes with worry and anxiety, and Chen Xiuwen and Chen Jialing cried bitterly.
After crying, Chen Xiuwen moved with her son to avoid the threat of creditors.
Chen Jialing hated her brother-in-law's "evaporation in the world", so she cursed through the media.
She called Lin Guoxiong a "shrunken-headed turtle who has eaten soft rice for more than 20 years."
He also scolded Lin Guoxiong for "being a man's shame, ignoring his son and using his wife as an ATM."
It's just that my sister scolded here, and my sister persuaded on the other side.
"How to say that he is also your brother-in-law, your nephew's father, if you can't get used to him, don't look at him." I'm not tired, I can solve these things, and when I solve him, he will come back, and we will be fine then..."
I was choked by my sister's obsession and smoked above my head.
Chen Jialing indicated that as long as her sister divorced, she was willing to pay off debts together and raise her nephew together.
But Chen Xiuwen angrily shut up her sister and said, "Do you have to tear up my home?" ”
It seems that when I fell into the abyss, I don't know it, but I don't think it's heaven.
Chen Jialing was disappointed in such a sister.
Leave "If you don't disconnect from Lin Guoxiong, we will break off the sisterhood."
Chen Jialing did not get her sister's redemption and choice, and finally left ruthlessly.
The mother left, the sister was disappointed, the friends were afraid of her borrowing money, and the relatives went farther away.
Since then, Chen Xiuwen has "betrayed and left".
No one is willing to lend even a little help, and no one can relieve Chen Xiuwen's worries.
In the situation of isolation and helplessness, the creditor has no way to take her.
So Lin Guoxiong's figure was searched everywhere, and finally the person who had disappeared for several years was found.
In 2003, Lin Guoxiong reappeared.
Ironically, he cried and "repented", saying that he had dragged his wife down for a long time.
Now the way he can think of atonement is: "I am willing to divorce, leave the house, I will live by myself in the future, I will return Xiuwen to herself... I know that Xiuwen loves me too much, and if I hadn't mentioned it, she wouldn't have left me. For her well-being, I should go..."
The words were filled with tears, but the media reports were full of disgust and ridicule.
It turned out that Lin Guoxiong's "clean body" was really "clean", he was clean, but he left the debt to his wife and children.
At this time, Chen Xiuwen was actually heartbroken, feeling that her love and marriage were ruined by money.
She also wants to save this man who made half her life difficult, she said: "I will earn money, I wait for you, I know you care about me..."
But this idealized wait can't resist the grind of reality after all.
The money that has not been paid back rolls over the profits, and Chen Xiuwen is exhausted.
What really made Chen Xiuwen suddenly sober up after despair was her son crying and saying "I want to leave you".
04
Leave the world to know the world of good people freedom
In 2005, 18-year-old Lin Shangzhi was about to enter university.
But he was disturbed by debt collectors all day long, talked about by classmates, and ridiculed by bad young people in society for "lessons".
He suffered from autism and was mentally irritable.
At the moment of the exam, Lin Shangzhi yelled at his mother: "Why don't you divorce, let's leave him and live by ourselves?" I'll pay you back with me when I work, but I don't want to be his son anymore, I've had enough..."
This kid like a trapped beast locked himself in his room and harmed himself.
After being taken to the hospital for treatment, he enrolled in a distant university and stayed away from his mother.
The son's unstable mental state and departure caught Chen Xiuwen off guard, and her heart was like a knife.
She finally began to reflect on herself, on the tip of her horns in love.
I also began to recall, why must I have to be Lin Guoxiong?
Reflecting, recalling, she found that she couldn't find the reason either.
It seems that over the years, I have lived longer alone.
It seems that after marriage, for a long time, it is just one's own obsession, the shackles of self-confinement.
Only when people truly become lonely can they experience the hustle and bustle of the world, the lonely silence of me.
And this quietness is the most suitable for people to see themselves clearly.
Selling the house, Chen Xiuwen lived in a small and crowded village house.
For the next 6 years, she worked hard to earn money, did not refuse any performances, and devoted herself to paying off debts.
In 2009, his 22-year-old son graduated from college and returned to his mother to work together.
Chen Xiuwen's sister Chen Jialing also silently approached at this time to help.
In 2011, I breathed a sigh of relief after paying off all the arrears.
Chen Xiuwen signed the divorce declaration left by her husband and then took it to the law firm for notarization.
This concludes 28 years of marriage.
A generation of goddesses Chen Xiuwen pulled herself out of the mud, with sons by her side and sisters who have rebuilt well.
"I was humble in my marriage, but I didn't realize it. Because I never thought about changing my life, I felt that I could live my life the way I wanted, as long as I worked hard and I gave it, I could be happy. But I was fascinated, I didn't realize that what I liked had always been imaginary love and imaginary perfect husband. In reality, these two things have always been full of holes..."
Does a woman in love need to stay awake?
There is not only love in marriage, but also the joint management of both husband and wife.
Blindly paying, blindly accommodating, blindly compromised, and finally cannot run into positive love.
Sometimes stopping the loss in time in the relationship can save people's lives!
It took 28 years to start and end a wrong marriage.
The age of 49 is to find the key called "self" that he threw away when he was 21 years old.
With the encouragement of her son and sister, Chen Xiuwen slowly regained her confidence.
Walking into the camera, her "Love in a Loving Day" and "Young Yang Family General" have become new business cards.
Works such as "The End of the World and Weaver Girl" and "Teaching Bundle" allow people to see the truly generous Chen Xiuwen.
While acting, he sang and acted in stage plays, and when he had spare time, he also did public welfare with his son.
Now 61-year-old Chen Xiuwen is not remembered by too many people.
But she also found peace of mind and comfort in her own small world.
That's really not a bad thing!