EF Education Youth 2023-07-07 21:30 Posted in Shanghai
You must have had this feeling: you decided to rest early, but lying in bed, opening your phone, sliding the screen and never stopping.
Nowadays, the major platforms... Everywhere there are useless short videos of dog blood, but your hands can't stop, and before you know it, you will brush for hours.
I always wait until I can't hold on anymore before dropping my phone and falling asleep.
Adults are difficult to control, let alone children with weak self-control and strong curiosity?
"Low-level happiness" of short videos
is dragging down children
Some time ago, there was a hot search #Low-level happiness is dragging you down #Heated discussions for a while.
Some people say, "Read more, study, and pursue advanced happiness." ”
There are also objections who say, "Is there a difference between high and low happiness?" Does happiness also have a chain of contempt? ”
Yes, happiness does have a high and low level.
low-level pleasures, which can be obtained through indulgence;
Higher happiness can only be obtained through self-discipline;
And the top happiness can only be obtained after suffering.
In 1995, diplomat Brzezinski proposed a "titty music theory".
It is the current gap between the rich and the poor, resulting in 20% of the population accounting for 80% of social resources. In order to appease the 80% of the population, 20% of the capitalists stuffed them with "pacifiers" and immersed them in "low-level pleasures", so that they lost the ability to think and judge on their own, and also lost the desire to fight ...
How do you manipulate 80% of people? It is to create "low-level happiness" for these 80% of people.
(1) Develop satisfying entertainment: soap operas, idol dramas, star gossip and other entertainment industries, let people indulge in pleasure and comfort, lose self-motivation and deep thinking ability.
(2) Develop ventive entertainment: such as exciting games, pornography industry, hype network war of words, etc.;
Short videos are the main force of this.
The short video is straightforward and funny without brains, straight to the topic, without deep thinking, making people dazzled and unable to stop;
The blessing of the dynamic "brainwashing divine comedy" of short videos brings the audience an immersive experience, making people swipe one video after another without realizing it;
The short video is pompous and unreal, either playing Gao Fu Handsome or pretending to be ugly and poor, but the audience is deeply trapped in it.
Short videos really create a convenient and entertaining world for people, and they can also bring people relaxation. But after brushing these videos, what do we remember, except for the endless emptiness, I'm afraid it was just a waste of time...
Adults are still like this, children are in the process of growth and development, self-control, self-discipline, judgment are not mature, it is easier to indulge in it.
Indulge in "low-grade pleasures"
Loss of interest in learning
In recent years, there has been a lot of news that children have suffered disasters because of playing mobile phones. Scammed money, tipping streamers, recharging games.....
When children do not have mature self-restraint and non-cognition, it is the original sin of being a nurturer to let them participate in the dyeing vat of the Internet too early.
Even if the online content is good or bad, don't use the growth and development of children to gamble on the possibility of them picking up "gold" in the "garbage".
Now that the summer vacation is over, children have a lot of time to brush short videos.
Although reading short videos may allow children to stay quiet, they will have some subtle effects on children, affecting children's brains and learning.
Addiction causes the brain to go through three stages – desensitization, sensitization, and degeneration of prefrontal function.
Desensitization reaction: When we are newly stimulated, dopamine increases dramatically, and in order to satisfy dopamine, satisfaction can only be achieved by some way. This process goes on and on and on and on and on and on
For example, in the past, brushing a 2-minute video made the brain happy, and now brushing for 1 hour may not be happy, but you crave this excitement, so you can only brush more and more.
Sensitization reaction: Once you get used to reading short videos, it may be difficult for you to raise interest in other things in the world, such as reading, studying, and thinking, and you will become anxious. You are anxious because you know too well how others live, and thus lose yourself.
During constant desensitization and sensitization, our brain's prefrontal lobe function deteriorates (which is a different part of human and animal evolution) and eventually becomes unable to control our behavior.
Even due to a series of chain reactions, we will have symptoms such as mental disorders, nervousness, neurasthenia, depression, and inability to control ourselves.
In general, indulging in "low-level pleasures" such as brushing short videos can cause great harm to children's brains.
If children are in "low-level happiness" for a long time, it is difficult for them to raise interest in "boring" learning and reading, they are addicted to short-term happiness, and then lose the ability to think deeply;
Children will also lose interest in those behaviors in life that are less happy and require effort to be happy, such as reading, sports, learning, etc.
Unresponsiveness and decreased concentration
At the family dinner the other day, my 5-year-old nephew sat next to me. Before eating a few bites, I have to come to the mobile phone, flexible little hands to operate, skillfully click on the short video APP to brush up.
Half of each video is swiped off, less than two minutes, and then click on the special effects inside hahaha selfie, and then turn off the special effects and click on the live broadcast...
At the right time, his mother said with a look of relief: "If you don't have a mobile phone, you can flip the roof over for you, give him a mobile phone and solve everything." ”
Is it really solved? I think it's a big problem.
In just five minutes, I saw the fragile concentration of a five-year-old boy who seemed interested in everything but could not absorb anything.
When they spend more than a certain amount of time facing the electronic screen, they will have poor control ability, difficulty concentrating, reduced sensitivity to environmental stimuli, and gradually decreasing self-control level and willpower.
A more immediate change is the child's increasingly unstable mood... And the negative performance of all this is the hidden danger buried by allowing children to indulge in short videos.
In 2019, a study published in JAMA Pediatrics, an international authoritative pediatric journal, showed that preschoolers who spent more time on screens had poor white matter integrity in their brains.
Children need rich real-world experiences to enhance the networking between nerves in the brain. However, short videos are mostly fictional, fast-paced, exaggerated and funny, which cannot provide children with effective experience to promote brain development.
Short videos do not brush away time, but children's precious concentration and their ability to learn new skills and absorb new things in the future.
Stop using short videos
Make up for the lack of family education
In fact, many times, children are addicted to "low-grade happiness", which is rooted in the family and because of the parents.
Every child who is addicted to short videos initially discusses with their parents like this: "Mom, I'll watch it for a while, okay?" ”
After receiving tacit consent again and again, the child began to straighten up: "I'll see what's going on!" ”
The gap in children's education is formed in countless "one moment", "one day" and "one time". Your attitude of not caring much is a sign for your child – "I can do this next time." ”
"It's okay to play with your phone for a while."
"It's okay if I didn't go to kindergarten for a day."
"It's okay not to hand in your homework once."
“……”
If you try to save trouble when your child is 0-6 years old, the child will repay you with double nerve-wracking in the future.
Stay away from "low-grade pleasures"
Parents should do these 3 things
If you want to keep your children away from garbage and be happy, parents must do these three things:
(1) Take the child to do things that delay gratification
The reason why we are immersed in the "low-level happiness" of brushing short videos is because it can bring you "instant gratification", and the happiness it brings is timely and effortless.
What our children need more is "delayed gratification", such as reading, learning, sports, etc., which will only feel happy after spending a certain amount of time and energy to achieve certain results.
This is why children can play games for a day, but it is difficult to read quietly for half an hour. Because reading to be happy requires time, understanding and memory, and feedback is not timely.
(2) Parents set an example and stay away from "low-grade happiness"
Children lack self-consciousness when they are young, and do not expect children to consciously stay away from "low-level happiness".
It is necessary to formulate certain norms, especially during the summer vacation, and strictly regulate children.
"Before the age of 6, if you want to touch mobile phones and tablets, you must delete entertainment apps such as games and short videos; 6-12 years old, should not be overly suppressed, can negotiate with the child to stipulate the length and frequency of mobile phone play. Penalties must be imposed for violations. 12-18 years old, adolescent children generally have a strong sense of self, parents should be properly managed, appropriate guidance.
Parents should lead by example, do not indulge in "low-level happiness" such as short videos and soap operas, and do not play short videos loudly around their children. Try to provide a comfortable and warm environment for your child.
(3) Enrich children's lives
Professor Li Meijin once shared a case: a father found that his son was hooked on games in his second year of high school, and he did not stop it, but took his son to sign up for a table tennis class during the summer vacation.
Every weekend, Dad asks to compete with his son. As a result, in order to win over his father, his son had to practice harder and gradually got rid of online games.
Parents may wish to enrich their children's lives, cultivate some hobbies and interests, take their children to learn to paint, go to sports, and even do farm work, learn cooking and so on.
Don't try to save trouble, throw a mobile phone to your child and don't care about anything, what you save now may bring trouble later.
Parents should understand that scientific and technological progress is also a "double-edged sword", and they must take their children to experience the good aspects and abandon the bad aspects.
It is necessary to guide children correctly and be a good "guide" on the road of children's growth.
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