For a long time, TV series with the theme of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship are common, no matter what era, from ancient times to the present, almost most types of TV series will contain some content in this regard, this theme is so popular naturally because I like to watch.
It is said that art comes from life and is higher than life, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is closely related to the life of each of us, it can almost be said that it is the closest TV series content to the lives of our ordinary people, those trivial little things, parents seem to be happening around us.
After watching so many TV series, it is not difficult to find that if there is a problem between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the problem is mostly with the mother-in-law, and their hands are too long.
Dissatisfied with his daughter-in-law, he encouraged his son to beat his daughter-in-law
In the past, some programs to mediate disputes were often broadcast on TV, and the most common problems were basically between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
There is an episode of the program where Ms. Zhang found the program group to tell her story, saying that after she married her husband, her mother-in-law couldn't get used to her, she treated her with courtesy every day, but she was still not accepted by her mother-in-law, and even sometimes she and her husband had a little mouth, and her mother-in-law did it to her because she felt sorry for her son and her husband, and she came to the show to understand her mother-in-law's true thoughts.
After watching this story, I only felt speechless, but there is a similar plot in the TV series, in the previous hit drama "Wang Gui and Anna", although Wang Gui and Anna have different living habits, there are often some small frictions, but the relationship is indeed very good.
It's a pity that the mother-in-law from the countryside doesn't like Anna, and even repeatedly fights with Anna, and once the two quarreled again because of a trivial matter, this mother-in-law actually directly let her son beat Anna, and said: "Can your own woman be obedient if she doesn't beat her?" ”
Wang Gui naturally refused, this mother-in-law pretended to commit suicide, forced her son to beat her daughter-in-law, and finally the daughter-in-law was angry but went back to her mother's house, such a mother-in-law really makes people not understand, their children are finally starting a family, she does not support, but thinks about the destruction of the law, just like what good is divorce for her!
Of course, there are also some mothers-in-law who maliciously break up their children's marriages for the sake of interests, and a few years ago there was a very popular TV series "When a Mother-in-Law Meets a Mother", in this drama, Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang starred in a couple, the two young people have a good relationship and are very happy together.
It's a pity that the male protagonist's mother is very snobbish, she can't look at Li Xiaolu, so she still helps her son arrange a blind date with the child of the leader of his unit when his son is already married, and even pretends to faint to let the whole family point out the role of Li Xiaolu, and finally Li Xiaolu went home sadly to find her mother.
If you have experienced "harm", why do you want to be a "perpetrator"?
There are many similar things, in fact, through so many film and television dramas and real cases, it is not difficult to find that most of the root of the contradiction is from the mother-in-law, who regards his son as his own private belongings and is reluctant to let go.
There is no sense that they are actually outsiders in their son's family, and they can only watch or give advice on their lives, rather than complete control.
Those who beat and scold their daughters-in-law at every turn were influenced by the remnants of feudal thought, or because they suffered too much malice from their mother-in-law when they were young, "If you have been exposed to the rain, you will break someone else's umbrella." ”
They are eager to regain the dignity they have lost in the younger generation and enjoy the pleasure of "many years of daughter-in-law becoming a mother-in-law", but if you keep trying to control your children's lives instead of giving them full understanding and support, then the result will inevitably be counterproductive, the daughter-in-law will not accept you, and the son will gradually leave you.
"Model of my generation" Cao Xinrou
On a short video platform, there is a daughter-in-law who is particularly popular, this person is Cao Xinrou, because she is not polite to her mother-in-law and father-in-law, and does not let herself suffer a little grievance in life, and is called "my generation model" by netizens, wanting to learn from her and really become the master of her own family.
Cao Xinrou herself is actually very smart and capable, and soon after marrying into this family, she found out that her husband's previous ex-wife drove her away because the old couple was dissatisfied, and even beat them from time to time.
At first, Cao Xinrou still maintained a little expectation, feeling that if she treated them well, they would treat themselves well, but after a long time, she found that this was not the case at all.
Especially sometimes this old couple will scold her children, this old couple is a typical "bullying soft afraid of hard", the more kind and friendly you are to her, the more she bullies you.
In order for herself and her son not to be bullied, Cao Xinrou began to change the way she got along with them, not used to them at all, but whenever they said something they didn't want to hear, they directly refuted it.
When the mother-in-law took her sister-in-law to beat herself, she ran to the toilet in a hurry to get a toilet and directly put it in her mother-in-law's mouth, and then it was even "revenge must be rewarded", as soon as the father-in-law and mother-in-law looked for something, she quarreled with them.
And when it comes to children, whenever she hears her mother-in-law scold her children, she will pass with a slap, and now the family is transformed by her.
Although it is wrong to say that it is wrong to beat people, if there is an unreasonable in-law like Cao Xinrou, you still have to bravely show your attitude.
A son cannot be invisible in a mother-in-law relationship
Many sons feel that they don't want to make "sandwich cookies" between their mother and their lover, so they are often running away, but this is precisely a manifestation of his incompetence.
As the link between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, his role is very important, how the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along depends on him to regulate, respect and filial piety to the mother, understand and considerate to the lover, and try his best to help the two of them get along more harmoniously.
As the saying goes: "Home and all things prosper", only a family with one heart can make life better and make home the most reliable harbor!
Epilogue:
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a problem, but in fact, it is also very easy to solve, as long as everyone strengthens communication, understands each other's true thoughts, has more respect, as long as you understand that the family is good, you can live well, work hard for the common family, and work hard together, so that the family can be more harmonious!
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