"We must be gentle and sensible, we must also be strong and insightful, we must be beautiful and can maintain, we must also be smart and have ideas, we may be independent but we must also know how to be soft and hard... Us, is it easy? ”
—Melody's letter to her daughters
The word rich girl is usually associated with adjectives such as "arrogant", "contrived", "silly and sweet", "ignorant of the world" and "brainless", and after the rich woman grows into a noblewoman, the degree of annoyance increases geometrically.
Netizens have been suffering for a long time.
Huang Shengyi, the president of Juli Film and Television Media, appeared with dozens of suitcases in Sister Lang, and wore a puffy skirt that was more exaggerated than the wedding dress on the first stage, occupying the position of three people alone, and handed the cup to Meng Jia after drinking water, and when she was pulled by her rich husband to live broadcast, the whole network was watching jokes.
The bent noblewoman Wang Sijia, showing off her wealth to fly, the title of each video is
"I grew up jealous"
"I don't quarrel with people uglier than me",
When it was discovered that the show was all fake bags, both sides of the strait were clapping their hands.
Bending this place is really mysterious.
Yan Yalun has done so many bad things, and there are still many people who sympathize with him;
Huang Ziling broke the news after sexual harassment, and now he has become a heroic existence;
There are so many independent and sober female characters created in the bend TV series, and the bent actress in reality snatches her head in order to marry a small wealthy family, and she suffers to give birth to a son when she marries in.
The only bent lady on the whole network who is not annoying is probably her.
Her standard ABC tone, full of brand-name speech, body language exaggerated style, should have accurately hit the "noblewoman" minefield, but she just has the ability, money, talent and likeability.
She officially announced her divorce last Friday, and everyone is happy for her.
She is Melody, Chinese name Liu Gongxian, the Liu hard cannon lady in Xiao S's mouth.
Melody has always felt independent, confident, outspoken, perfectly combines traditional Chinese and Western education, respects herself and treats her family well.
She and her husband, Mr. Wu, married in 2006, and his husband is 16 years older than her.
The conditions of both families are very good, and she struggled to raise two daughters after suffering from infertility after marriage, which was originally a template for a happy family.
We all thought that she had enough wisdom to deal with all this, and who knows, she did, and she disposed of the root of the contradiction - her husband Mr. Wu himself.
We were careless.
It's a shame that we never hear from Melody again;
I am also happy for her, and she does not want the marriage that is begging for perfection after all.
One
Melody has expectations for marriage.
She once told the love story of her grandfather and grandmother in the background of a special era.
Melody's grandmother is a rich lady in Shanghai, when she was 18 years old, she fell in love with a national army air force pilot at first sight, the Kuomintang defeated and retreated to Taiwan, and the 18-year-old girl bravely made a choice, she will desperately go to the end of the world for love.
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Taiwan and the mainland are separated by more than a shallow strait, the closest distance between the two sides is only 5 kilometers above sea level, but for other reasons, it is difficult to see each other again.
The truth girl understands, she still left behind the favorable conditions, resolutely went to Taiwan, lived in a tin house in the military village, leaked rain in winter, sultry in summer.
They had children, and their little life passed in just three short years.
On a mission, my grandfather's plane crashed, and people have been separated forever.
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Grandma Melody and Grandpa really spent only these three years together in this life, however, Grandma gave this life for Grandpa.
Grandma later experienced various upheavails and moved overseas.
It was the epic of a woman's struggle against the backdrop of a big time, and she was ninety years old when she returned to Taiwan.
The real photo of Grandma Melody is reminiscent of Maggie Cheung in "In the Mood for Love", Tang Wei in "Color Ring", and white tassel in "Love in the City"
The first thing my grandmother did when she returned to Taiwan was to worship her grandfather.
It happened to be raining that day, grandma did not want to accompany, she squatted in front of her grandfather's grave for a long time, carefully sorted out the fallen leaves on the ground, chattered a lot of words, and finally, grandma actually took out a newspaper and spread it on the ground, knelt down and kowtowed three heads.
You make up that picture in your head, in the heart of the silver-haired old lady, her husband who has died for many years still has a supreme status.
That was a shock to Melody.
Grandma always burst into tears whenever she talked about her grandfather.
But when it comes to marriage, Grandma has reservations in her tone, she said:
Marriage is complicated and troublesome.
Happy times are like being in heaven, bad times are like falling into hell.
Can't tell, really, believe me, it's complicated...
Melody's parents are also a model for a successful marriage.
Every year on the anniversary, Dad Liu would send flowers to his mother, and he would choose flowers with vases for practicality.
My mother always scolded "Dead old man Liu, why did you send me flowers", and then smiled and blossomed.
Having witnessed these sweet Melodies, of course, she knows how good it is between husband and wife.
It wasn't until she got married herself that she discovered that some things were easier said than done.
Two
Melody's husband is Wu Yuqi, engaged in the import and export business of computer screens, and the official net worth quotes hundreds of millions of Taiwan dollars.
How much moisture this is, the friends judge for themselves.
Wu Yuqi's family is not a traditional rich person, and his sister Wu Yumei led the Wu family to become rich after marrying a wealthy Jewish businessman who was good at investment in her early years.
Melody met Wu Yuqi through Wu Yumei's introduction.
The Wu family has four daughters, and Wu Yuqi is the youngest son.
In fact, seeing this background should usually sound the alarm, this kind of family is mostly difficult to escape the fate of son preference, even if it is not patriarchal, Wu Yuqi, who grew up in the pile of women, is by no means a good fate.
This is Wu Yuqi's mother and sister.
It is very in line with the shape and appearance of Taiwan's rural tycoon dramas, and it is difficult for mothers-in-law and aunts in this style to get along in the play.
Melody did well with them.
Wu Yumei is a representative figure in Taipei's celebrity circle, her hairstyle, Hermes bags, her mixed-race children, and her foreign husband are her capital.
However, Wu Yumei died young due to illness.
Her Jewish husband Xue Zhiwei remarried and married 51-year-old actress Ji Na, and the news newspaper Xue Zhiwei was worth tens of billions of New Taiwan dollars.
Wu Yucai was really sincere to Melody back then, and Melody didn't plan to consider him, after all, the age gap was too big. Wu Yucai chased her all over the world, Melody flew to Thailand, he also went, flew back to the United States, and he followed him to the United States.
Wu Yumei said that the old father, who had passed away, had dreamed that "the bride will be surnamed Liu."
Melody's own mother took the eight characters to join and concluded that "several lifetimes of marriage".
It seems that everyone is contributing to the situation, and Wu Yucai is also a rare honest person in a rich family.
This marriage seems to meet everyone's expectations, the families of both sides are in favor, the aunt especially likes Melody, the man's family is honest and does not worry about food and clothing, and he is also a young talent, a rich businessman with a net worth of more than 100 million.
Melody agreed to the flash marriage, she personally held the wedding on the island, and all the news wrote "Melody married into a wealthy family", "husband is tall and handsome", "realize a dream wedding".
What a worldly and complete scene, Melody herself is in good condition, remember?
She was the little princess who asked her to brush the toilet when she was working, and she immediately threw her hands away and left in a huff;
She is the independent woman who has to pack up and go back to Los Angeles to talk about taxes when she is unhappy after marriage;
She is the wayward mommy who was angry when her husband called MM Bean when she was pregnant...
However, she also faces the same dilemma that many women share—maternal punishment and traditional expectations.
Three
Melody's first hurdle is the "inheritance" and "branching" that the wealthy family cares about the most.
She has written a book describing her bloody four-year career in courting children.
Melody has done artificial insemination, IVF, fertility flywheel, and fainted at home due to severe bleeding caused by egg retrieval.
Breaking through again and again, failing again and again, and seriously consuming the couple's feelings.
Fortunately, Melody later followed Miss Xiaoyan's advice to "face it, deal with it, accept it, and let go of it", and two years after calmly facing her infertility, Melody, who was diagnosed by doctors as "no egg certificate", became pregnant naturally and gave birth to two children in a row.
Life itself is a miracle.
Melody is the kind of woman who demands very much of herself, as her letter to her daughter says,
"Be gentle and sensible"
"Be strong and knowledgeable, too"
"Be beautiful and know how to maintain"
"Be smart and have ideas, too".
There is an unwritten rule in Hong Kong and Taiwan for the rich and broad, you have to act as your husband's right arm, navigate the social arena, run the family, and ask your mother and husband for every detail in the family?
As long as the husband does not cheat, he is good.
Lin Aichen is married to a slightly rich family, and the rules are not good.
Gao Yuanyuan married Zhao Youting, and was wrongly placed by his father-in-law Zhao Shuhai to pick the handle of the cup, "Gao Yuanyuan was scolded for swinging wrongly."
Xiao S's father-in-law is an investor, and his mother-in-law is a lawyer, which is at most the configuration of an intellectual family, but he has been hyped into a wealthy family, and Xiao S can't give birth to a son who is disliked as a dog (sorry dog).
Melody was asked to go up to the hall, down to the kitchen, and to have a successful career and a family.
She can cook and learn to "grab her husband's stomach".
Her most famous peach terrier, bought back a box of peaches, her husband loves to eat hard, her daughter loves to eat soft, she picks them out one by one, and chooses those that are a little crushed to wash and eat.
While eating, ask yourself in your heart,
"Does anyone ever care what kind of peaches I like?"
"Why should I nibble on a rotten peach in the middle of the night"!
Melody shared the differences between before and after marriage.
Before getting married, her husband flew all over the world in order to chase her, and no one answered her phone after marriage.
Before marriage, my husband liked to hold hands and chat with her before going to bed, but after marriage, he thought she talked too much and was very noisy.
Melody once said that her husband only said goodbye to the children before leaving home for business, as if she were invisible.
When Melody was 8 months pregnant, the eldest had a high fever and a toddler rash, because she had no experience, she drove to the hospital against a typhoon, and the wind and rain outside the car were very terrifying.
Her husband is on a business trip, and her mother's family is in the United States, so the two ends are unreliable.
Melody was holding her sick boss, her umbrella was blown away, and she was careful not to slip.
It's these moments that make people's hearts a little bit cold.
Mr. Wu always goes on business trips when he is very busy at home, and he leaves for half a month.
At first, every time the two of them would quarrel, but then they understood each other, and he just wanted to get out of the way.
He just wanted to escape the life of having a wife and children.
Mr. Wu will also act in front of friends, and ask Melody pitifully during meals,
"Can I eat this dish?"
At the New Year, call your wife loudly,
"Go to the kitchen and serve the food"
Traditional men have a lot of problems.
Since he can't count on him for everything at home, and he doesn't help and adds chaos, so for Melody who has a smooth career and good family conditions, why struggle to maintain a perfect family character?
This is an era when female celebrities divorce will increase their fans, and there is a world of difference between being willing to be an old mother and being forced to be an old mother.
Melody's husband would accompany her mother-in-law to massages when the family was out together, leaving Melody alone to deal with the two children.
The mother-in-law will also say:
"Why is my brother (Mr. Wu) gray hair, did you not take good care of him?"
Since this is the case, the deep relationship between mother and son is not as good as the two of you sharing the world, and there is no need for the daughter-in-law to accompany.
Melody wrote to her daughter, concluding by saying:
We must love ourselves and understand that women also have choices.
Yes, women can eat rotten peaches, but if someone thinks that rotten peaches must go to you, then the relationship should end.
Times have changed, and when women can make money and have children, and raise their families and raise children, they begin to ask themselves: What is the use of my marriage?
Is it just to have someone who picks hard peaches away?
The editor does not like that women who have to be stripped of the details of their past life together with a magnifying glass as soon as they divorce:
"Look, her husband's words at that time mean that he didn't love her"
"The conversation between her mother-in-law and her shows that she is very humble in marriage", "She must not be able to give birth to a son, so the junior took the throne"...
It seems that a woman divorced to accept that the past marriage was blind and completely failed, and the happiness of the past was self-deception.
I prefer to believe that Melody's divorce is that she said the two people went in different directions.
It's just that in the past, women had to obey and submit to their fate as wives and mothers, but now it's different, women are becoming more confident and independent, as she wrote to her daughter: women have choices.
As a woman, you can choose to be gentle, sensible, beautiful, intelligent and independent, or you can choose to leave when others can't see you and don't understand you.
And she did.
I prefer to believe that she was happy, but now she is unhappy, so she goes to find another way to find self-happiness.
She deserves it, in fact, everyone deserves it, men and women.