In our filial piety culture, when we talk about our parents, we will give them a tall image, we always say that father's love is like a mountain, mother's love is like a river, and almost everyone feels that parents' love for their children is an instinct.
The greatness of fatherly love and mother's love is non-committal, but you also have to admit that there are many people in this world who are not worthy of being parents. People with bad character don't become great instantly just because they become parents.
Domestic violence has become commonplace, women endure for the sake of their children, but husbands choose to cheat
At a wedding scene in Bengbu, Anhui Province, the picture of a little girl chasing the groom for alimony is very distressing.
Marriage is a great joy in life, in order to symbolize the sweet happiness and harmony of life after marriage, the wedding day according to traditional customs will have a lot of auspicious blessings and festive dress, on the wedding day, the bride wearing a big red wedding dress and wedding shoes, is about to get off the wedding car, but suddenly a little girl shouted at the groom: "Dad, give me child support!" ”
Hearing such a voice on auspicious times inevitably makes people feel embarrassed, who is the child who deliberately picks such a moment to block the groom?
According to the girl's mother, Ms. Sun, the groom Mr. Zhang, who got married today, is her ex-husband, and they have a daughter between them, who is 7 years old this year, knowing that the man got married today, she specially brought her daughter over.
Talking about the reason for her divorce from the man, Ms. Sun said that her ex-husband got along with a woman during his part-time job in Wuxi, and the two dated him behind his back for 3 years, and she was stupid at home with a child for 3 years, and finally the man filed for divorce with himself in order to be with the mistress.
A woman marrying someone is an adventure, marrying the right person will have a smooth and rainy life for the rest of her life, and marrying the wrong person will have a lot of ups and downs for the rest of her life. For Ms. Sun, her ex-husband is the man who brought endless storms to her life, and she thought that marriage was a continuation of love, but their marriage was a real grave for her. Soon after getting married, Ms. Sun discovered that her ex-husband had violent tendencies, and she punched and kicked herself when she didn't agree, and domestic violence became commonplace, even during her pregnancy.
Ms. Sun thought about escaping from this demon, but thinking of the fetus in her womb she chose to endure, thinking that he would change when the child was born, but what made Ms. Sun despair was that when the child was two months old, the familiar fist smashed into her again, but unfortunately she didn't know how to ask for help, and she didn't know how to protect herself, and she forgave the man for the sake of the child.
Patience did not calm down for a while, but in exchange for the man's inch, he began to change from domestic violence to cheating, breaking Ms. Sun's heart again and again.
The man refused to pay 600 yuan a month in alimony, and his ex-wife had no choice but to block the wedding scene
For a man who can do things to his wife during pregnancy, naturally he will not want children when he divorces, in order not to let the children suffer, Ms. Sun chose to carry everything, she got the custody of her daughter, according to the divorce agreement, Mr. Zhang has to pay his daughter 600 yuan a month for living expenses.
Those who have raised children know that a child's monthly 600 yuan from food and clothing to study expenses is simply a drop in the bucket, but what is infuriating is that Mr. Zhang deliberately dragged out the 600 yuan and did not care about the child's life or death.
Although the monthly maintenance fee of 600 yuan cannot solve any big problems, for Ms. Sun, who is raising her children alone, this 600 yuan is what she must get, because this is not only what the child deserves, but also the obligation and responsibility of the ex-husband as a father, and she must seek justice for the child. So she sent messages to her ex-husband again and again, asking him to transfer the money on time, but in the face of Ms. Sun's accusation, her ex-husband not only turned a blind eye, but also directly chose to block her.
A full year and a half has passed, and the ex-husband seems to have disappeared from the earth, and he has not given a penny of child support.
By chance, Ms. Sun learned the news that her ex-husband was going to get married, she was simply angry, a man who is obviously rich but deliberately does not give children has the face to get married? In order to make him realize the reality, Ms. Sun righteously told him that if he continued to default on child support, she would tell his new wife all about his bad behavior of playing women outside and his irresponsible behavior towards the family.
In the face of Ms. Sun's warning, the ex-husband did not respond at all, still refused to meet, refused to give money, did not answer the phone, did not return the message, as if the child did not have a half-dime relationship with him. Considering that people who usually can't see him at all, in desperation, Ms. Sun had to take her daughter to appear at his wedding scene.
Ms. Sun said that seeing her daughter, whom she had not met for a long time, her ex-husband's side was like seeing a stranger, acting cold and distant. In the face of a room full of guests, the ex-husband did not even arrange a seat for his daughter, neither caring whether his daughter was thirsty or hungry, nor did he even say a word to his daughter, as if there was no blood relationship between them, which disappointed her deeply.
Sentiment analysis:
For this farce at the wedding, some people feel that the ex-wife's approach is a little inappropriate, after all, it is the moment of the wedding celebration, and you should not take the child to ask for money, which will make the man faceless.
There is also speculation that women do this because they have not let go of a previous relationship, so they will be entangled.
I thought that a woman's approach would make people feel very happy, after all, such an irresponsible man is not worthy of getting married again, because a man who can ignore his own flesh and blood is hard to believe that he will support a happy marriage. However, what I saw in the comment area was accusations and doubts about women.
Indeed, a woman's failure to escape from domestic violence during pregnancy shows that she is somewhat cowardly and ignorant in terms of feelings, but this does not mean that she will always be weak, perhaps what she wants is not the 600 yuan monthly maintenance fee, but to see a man's responsibility and an attitude towards the child.
For a scoundrel who is clearly alive but plays with the world and turns a blind eye when he sees the enforced resolution, where else can he find him except to block people at the wedding scene? Perhaps a woman's approach is indeed inappropriate for the bride on the wedding day, and it is somewhat inappropriate to experience such a farce with a child, but for a woman who has suffered losses and injuries in marriage, I hope everyone can show her mercy and give her more kindness and understanding.
Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka said, "It's scary to think that being a parent doesn't have to go through an exam. ”
In life, when we buy goods, we will get instructions for use, and when answering questions, teachers will tell us standard answers, only to become parents, all by self-learning.
For people with a sense of responsibility, they will slowly explore how to raise their children as adults, while people without a sense of responsibility, it seems that it has become a habit to give birth without cultivation.
We cannot deny the complexity of the world and the limitations of human beings, nor do we deny that some parents do not hurt their children intentionally, and we can understand that parents are not perfect, but if you choose to be a parent, please try not to hurt your children.
Today's topic discussion: What do you think of this ex-wife's approach?
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