(Continued above)
The second is to teach children to assess risk. Indeed, we now live in an environment full of uncertainty, and the cheapness of online communication has led to more dangerous cases for young parents, which has made them more anxious. In order to prevent their children from being harmed, they constantly remind their children, such as: do not talk to strangers, do not engage in risky activities, do not eat food given by others, etc., they seem to put their children in a vacuum. Such parenting style must lead to the formation of a lonely, timid, socially fearful personality.
What parents should do should not be to let their children avoid risks, but to teach them the ability to assess risks and deal with them. That is, when we have obtained the risk information, we ask the child as a problem, let them make a judgment, and give an answer to the solution, rather than blindly commanding.
After such exercise, children will gradually acquire the habit of deliberate and critical thinking, and be able to study the problems encountered, draw reasonable conclusions, and find suitable alternatives.
Finally, it is necessary to cultivate an optimistic attitude in children. "Childhood pessimism is a precursor to adult pessimism and can also lead to depression, so it is important to deal with this problem as early as possible." When children are pessimistic, parents must first understand what is causing the problem. After that, you should know why this problem is causing the child to be depressed and put forward your own opinion on the problem. Next, discuss with your child how to solve this problem and whether there is an alternative. The purpose of this is for the child to learn to refute his negative ideas, recover from disappointment, and move on with full emotions.
In addition, helping others and showing gratitude to others can also increase optimism. Of course, optimism does not mean the absence of pessimism, "it is a way of thinking and reaching out to the world with a lot of contempt." ”
(To be continued)