The cheating man breaks up with the mistress, can the affair be considered resolved?
No, because extramarital affairs are very easy to produce sequelae,
The cheating man and the mistress will break the silk connection, and then it will not take long for the old relationship to rekindle.
If the original partner wants to avoid this from happening, he must know the reason why the extramarital affair is not clean.
Then in the process of solving the extramarital affair, solve it in a targeted manner to reduce the possibility of a man's second cheating.
Extramarital affairs have never been clean, which are nothing more than these three reasons!
The first reason: both the cheating man and the mistress mistake extramarital affairs for love.
There is a concept in the field of psychology called the "Romeo and Juliet effect".
Romeo and Juliet, the two have a feud in their family, but the two fall in love.
It was strongly opposed by the two companies, not only did not separate, but also fought for their lives.
Many people may call it true love, but psychology thinks.
The reason why two people can lose their lives for love, and there is a feud in the middle, the two strongly oppose the direct relationship.
Because these cause two people to feel more that they are true love, true love that cannot be lost.
The so-called "Romeo and Juliet effect" is that when there are external forces that interfere with the love relationship between the two parties, the emotions of the two parties will be strengthened, and the relationship will be stronger.
In fact, in the extramarital affair, the cheating man and the mistress are likely to be affected by this effect.
The cheating man and the mistress may not love each other so much, but it is because they are accused and separated by the original match.
The emotions of two people will be strengthened, and in the end, even if they choose to break up.
They will also miss each other and feel that they have lost a true love.
Even constantly looking for opportunities to re-establish contact, so it will not be clean.
Most extramarital affairs have no real feelings, they just take what they need.
But the cheating man and the mistress like to beautify into love, and the original match is to cooperate.
Separating them as two people who love each other will make them mistakenly think that there is really love.
It's nothing to lose your lover, it's okay to lose love, so it won't be clean.
The second reason: the original way of dealing with the match makes the cheating man resentful.
If the affair is not handled properly, it can be regarded as ending the relationship between the cheating man and the mistress.
The original match and the cheating man can't live well.
Because cheating men will have resentment against the original match and feel that the original match is all kinds of bad.
What kind of way is it easy to make cheating men resentful?
One is the threat, forcing the cheating man to abandon the mistress and return to the family.
Even if it is the cheating man himself, he will not admit it to returning to the family for the sake of profit.
Cheating men have promised Xiao An, saying that they love Xiao Mian and want to divorce and marry Xiao San and so on.
If a cheating man admits that cheating is for profit, he is admitting to lying,
He cannot admit directly or indirectly that he sees profit and forgetfulness, so he will resent the original match.
The other is that the original match is known to everyone, and the cheating man has to return due to the pressure of public opinion,
Cheating men are talked about because they are originally worth making trouble, and cheating men have a good face.
Then you will definitely resent the original match, even if the cheating man makes a mistake first.
And he doesn't know how to repent, the original match will use this way, but the cheating man will not think so.
He will only feel that it is all the problems of the original match, and it will be blamed on the original match.
Cheating on men is the essence of selfishness and irresponsibility.
Otherwise, he will not ignore his wife's pain, cheat, and shirk responsibility.
Wives must be able to recognize the true face of the cheating man, so that they can know the real reason why the cheating man and the little three broke the silk connection.
Because he resented his wife, he felt that the mistress was better, and even transferred his feelings to the mistress.
After being forced to break up, I kept thinking about my mistress and kept looking for an opportunity to rekindle my old relationship.
The third reason: Mistress can bring benefits to cheating men.
Now many juniors are not the kind that everyone imagines.
A woman who has no advantages, is very poor and cannot earn money, and can only live by cheating men.
Or the junior has bad conditions and has a beautiful face. to be able to attract cheating men.
In fact, such mistresses are not popular now, but more juniors with certain value.
The juniors may have some aspects and are also equipped with advantages.
So it can directly or indirectly bring benefits to cheating men.
This kind of Jiaxin calls it a high-value junior, and the cheating man maintains an extramarital relationship.
Not only feelings, physical needs, etc., but also the value that mistress brings.
Breaking up with this kind of mistress, for cheating men, is not just about losing a lover.
Or lost help, is to go to people who can bring benefits to themselves.
Therefore, the cheating man will break off with the mistress, because he always wants to continue to find the mistress to take benefits.
Finally, Jiaxin wanted to say that if the extramarital affair has not been clean.
It must be the reason for the cheating man's side, and it is useless to go to the mistress.
Only the cheating man really completely gave up the idea of continuing to be with the mistress and cheating.
It is useless for the mistress to entangle, and the extramarital affair can be regarded as completely broken.
Many times, the original match catches the wrong point, and the problem is not in the mistress, but in the cheating man.
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I am Jiaxin, a marriage maintainer who focuses on third-party separation.