Willing wisdom said: The apparent strength of parents is actually a deep fear of the passage of time.
In the blink of an eye, 2023 is halfway through.
High school entrance examination, graduation, Father's Day, mid-year summary... In this tense and unknown June, a small variable will ripple in the long years to come. But fate is also loving, release and passion, farewell and confession, the longest movie is staged in turn.
For the migrant workers, this June seems to be no different, except for the heat wave on the way to and from work, and the three-day holiday after the busy Dragon Boat Festival, which finally relieves the sigh of relief.
Some people choose to go to the music festival site to release a heat wave drumbeat, some people experience the crowds at popular attractions, and many people choose to take their parents on a trip to show filial piety.
While the time is not old, take the hand of their toddlers with their children and accompany them to see the ten thousand landscapes of the world. The starting point is beautiful, but the differences in life and thinking between the two generations will also be revealed during the journey...
01 Accompany the "leader" on the trip
Good price, close to accommodation, not too heavy on taste, must be packed after eating... It's not as good as eating and drinking with friends, roadside skewers – unhygienic, all gutter oil, authentic restaurants – too expensive, not as good as using a rice cooker, and parents' pickiness about where to eat, often makes their children who have already planned miserable.
"At the beginning, the blood was hot, and the fantasy full of thoughts was shattered by reality! the degree to which you will cry angrily".
When you meet a parent who lets their children do everything and constantly complains, it feels like accompanying the leader. Parents only say where to play, and the rest does not care, tour guide, driver, docent, photographer, life assistant, children wear many hats.
If the plan is not satisfactory or there is a slight mistake, parents will bitterly ask, "You are a college student, you are not as good as me, an elementary school graduate." ”
If you ask them to plan, they'll shirk, "Where will I, aren't you a college student?" ”
Only...... There is no way to refute it.
Help your parents sign up for a group, worry that they will be deceived; Bring it yourself, thanklessly, as if harsher than the leader.
"Leader instructs, take out the notes; Leadership criticism, welcome correction; The leader was full of poetry and applauded; Lead the temporary change plan and actively implement it; The leader said that you young people still can't do it, I want to be back then... A smile should be. The difference is that accompanying the leader on a business trip, the unit pays; I paid for traveling with my parents. ”
02 "Fruit, water, chili sauce... All taken to the mountains"
It's hard to come out once, think that your parents may not have been to many places in their lives, and they really have no travel experience, just endure it.
So when you are still dreaming of spring and autumn, your parents have already got up and chattered in the next room, and then knock on your door: if you don't leave, it will be dark, go home and sleep, hurry up and play a few more attractions.
And their play is that the father walks in the unattainable front with great vigor, studying the historical geography of the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas of the motherland, like a race walker and scholar.
"Leave the old man alone, come and help me take a picture here", the mother took out a silk scarf and put on sunglasses, clicked a posture without heavy samples, and immediately passed on the little sisters after the shooting, "Let your cubs take you to play another day", full of spring breeze.
And as you jump up and down through the crowd, trying to figure out a perspective that won't be blocked, there's a pain in your shoulder, a big bag of washed fruit, a few bottles of mineral water, and even a bottle of chili sauce — "The things on the mountain are precious, and it's all good." ”
When you think that you have not planned your trip on the last day and can finally sleep in to catch the evening flight, the familiar "knock knock" sounds again, "cub, get up and pack your luggage, if you don't take the plane, you will fly away!" ”
Jiu Min, I can't hear!
03 Next time, I will still travel with my parents
If you want to have a good time, peers of the same frequency are the best travel companions, but after giving birth to the sulk of "never travel with parents again", next time, when you have enough wallets, you still want to take them on a trip.
Perhaps for parents who have not enjoyed life for most of their lives, the satisfaction of taking them to travel through the mountains and rivers of their homeland and helping them experience projects that they have only seen on the screen is incomparable.
As we grow up, from relying on our parents to being able to live independently, our world is getting bigger and bigger, but the world of parents is getting smaller and smaller, and sometimes their stubbornness and preaching, in addition to containing the bitter heart of not wanting their children to take detours, may also be helpless to exchange identities.
I want to confirm that my sword is not old, that my authority is still there, that my children are still obedient, and that my decisions are still correct.
When they really play together, they are sometimes angry, and they only see the superficial strength of their parents, and they do not think that they also have a deep fear of the passage of time, so they seek a sense of security in an aggressive way.
So while there is still a chance to play together, there is no lack of patience, treat parents as old children, communicate patiently, and tell them to express themselves gently and reasonably. Cherishing the time spent with their parents, even if it is as short as two or three days, is a spiritual massage for them, worth cherishing for a lifetime.