The woman has been raped by her husband 16 times in 2 years of marriage, and needs to hang a dung bag for life, and she has to run away the first time she encounters domestic violence

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Really, there are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence, if you are unfortunate enough to encounter it, you must run away.

Because of domestic violence, only by fleeing can you save your life.

On June 24, the tragic experience of Ms. Xie in Chengdu, Sichuan Province, woke up the alarm for all girls.

29-year-old Ms. Xie, married for 2 years, was abused by her husband 16 times, and the last time, she almost died.

The doctor said: If you arrive at the hospital 20 minutes late, you can't save it, and there is no pulse at that time.

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According to the information given by Ms. Xie, when she and her husband first met, they felt that others were very good and took care of people, but they usually liked to scold people.

After becoming pregnant 2 months after marriage, he began domestic violence, and when he was in domestic violence, his husband also threatened: if the wedding license is received and she is also pregnant, people will not be able to run away.

During the two years of marriage, Ms. Xie suffered domestic violence 16 times, during which she mentioned divorce, but her husband never agreed.

She also fled many times, but each time she was caught by her husband after a while, and repeatedly threatened that the next domestic violence would definitely not give me the opportunity to call the police.

The most recent domestic violence was when her husband found her documents for filing divorce and applying for a writ of habeas corpus in court, dragged to a hotel, and was seriously injured.

Really, seeing the injured photos posted by Ms. Xie is really shocking.

At present, Ms. Xie has been hospitalized for 2 months, with rib fractures, duodenum contamination, small bowel obstruction hanging with fecal bags, and multiple internal organs of her body have been damaged to varying degrees.

This turned out to be the violence inflicted by the lover who shared the bed, and he was beaten to death without a trace of emotion, and the perpetrator has been detained, and I hope that this time it will be severely punished.

After reading this news, the pregnant mother was really angry.

Many netizens watched Ms. Xie's experience, and they all said:

"This is intentional injury, intentional homicide, not domestic violence."

"God, this wound is bigger than a caesarean section, is this domestic violence, it is clearly murder, not a certificate can reduce the cost of crime."

"The marriage certificate is not a gold medal for exemption from death, this is intentional injury, and I hope for a sentence."

"It is obviously intentional injury and disability, and it cannot become "domestic violence" just because you have a marriage certificate. ”

Yes, passers-by will be detained once and their wives will be detained only if they hit their wives 16 times, and the marriage certificate has become a shield for thugs.

As one netizen said: domestic violence should be more severe than intentional injury in the general sense, because domestic violence is a long-term, systematic double harm to the body and psychology, and they cannot be "opened to the net" because they are husband and wife.

Yes, domestic violence is by no means a family affair, it is a bad intentional injury!

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Domestic violence is by no means a family ugly, it is a crime

If you encounter it, run away

Remember Ms. Huang, a 38-year-old mother of her second child who was killed by domestic violence in Anhui Province?

During the 9 years of marriage, Ms. Huang and her husband Huang Jun gave birth to two children, but they were finally beaten alive by her husband until their heartbeat stopped, and they were rescued in the ICU, and died 5 days later.

Ms. Huang originally had two chances to survive.

The first time was after marriage, if she recognized the man in front of her, the tragedy of divorce in time would not have happened.

After marriage, Huang Jun has been doing nothing, and he still owes money everywhere, and in recent years, he has not asked his family for money, and not long before the incident, Huang Jun also borrowed 30,000 yuan from Ms. Huang because of debts.

Living with such a person, the marriage is doomed to misfortune.

The second time, after the domestic violence began, was the most promising escape.

When she met her inactive husband, Ms. Huang did not lose hope in life, and she opened a clothing store to support herself and her two children.

But even though she worked so hard to live, she didn't get her husband's pity, and in exchange for only beatings and scolding.

Her husband even installed monitors and surveillance in her shop.

Ms. Huang wanted to divorce many times, but was persuaded by her family on the grounds that "the child is still young".

Coupled with Huang Jun's rhetoric, she was pulled back again and again.

The forgiveness of domestic violence again and again laid the groundwork for the tragedy that followed.

On the day of the tragedy, Ms. Huang and Huang Jun quarreled again over some trivial matters.

Huang Jun was furious, punching and kicking Ms. Huang in front of the child, without sparing a hand.

A punch was smashed on Ms. Huang until her heart stopped.

In the end, Ms. Huang was not rescued.

How cruel this was, for the sake of the child, she endured and endured, retreated and retreated, but finally lost her life.

Pregnant mothers want to say to all girls: in the face of violence in the relationship, you must stop the loss in time, whether it is in love, marriage, or after having a child.

A man who is abusive will definitely not be a good partner or a good father.

Don't endure it again and again, blindly tolerating will only put yourself and your children in danger.

Statistics from the All-China Women's Federation show that:

Thirty percent of China's 270 million households have experienced some degree of domestic violence.

Every year, 157,000 women commit suicide, 60 per cent of whom are due to domestic violence.

In more than 40 per cent of homicide cases, domestic violence accounts for more than 40 per cent of deaths.

Domestic violence, no matter when you encounter it, you must run away.

Don't believe that domestic violence men will change, too many examples tell us: domestic violence is only 0 times and countless times, and repeated tolerance and forgiveness of domestic violence will really kill me!

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All perpetrators will be repeat offenders

Don't expect the prodigal son to turn back

The well-known football commentator Mo Han once issued a reminder after encountering many domestic violence: My choice to forgive during the first domestic violence is a wrong demonstration, and so far, silence and tolerance have not brought any good effects and results, but have hurt my family.

Yes, silence and tolerance in the face of domestic violence will not bring any good effects and results, but will only make the harm greater and greater every time.

Ms. Liu from Shangqiu, Henan, in order to escape her husband's domestic violence, she chose to jump from the second floor, she said: I am not suicide, I am escaping!

Because this is not the first time she has been subjected to domestic violence, her husband beat her up because of gambling losses, punched and kicked each other, and she filed for divorce at that time.

But her husband admitted his mistake and promised that he would never do it again, and she forgave the other party with a soft heart, which led to the bitter fruit behind.

Beautiful, hardworking, kind anchor Ram, who was with her childhood sweetheart ex-husband at the age of seventeen or eighteen, has two sons, and can be married for more than ten years, which is a nightmare for her, and she has endured many domestic violence in silence.

Divorced to save his life, and accepted remarriage for the safety of his children, he was soon beaten again until he lost his life.

She is so sunny and kind, trying to live, but being killed by her ex-husband in the most cruel way in the world, it is too sad.

All girls must remember that the moment the violence begins, the man's affection for the man is no longer there, and all you have to do is turn around bravely to avoid secondary injury.

Don't endure it again and again, blindly tolerating will only put yourself in danger.

All perpetrators will be repeat offenders, and must stop losses in time, which is saving lives.

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In case of domestic violence, please flee in time

Whenever you find signs of domestic violence, you must withdraw in time, whether before or after marriage.

As the writer Yan Xiaoyi said:

What about talking about marriage? It's better than getting married.

What about being married? It's better than having a baby.

What about having a baby? It's better than taking the rest of your life, all the good years.

Stay away from the abuser in order to protect yourself.

Every girl should remember that the abuser actually has traces to follow in the long-term relationship, @人民日报 lists 13 characteristics of potential domestic abusers, if you can identify the characteristics of domestic abusers in advance, it may help women identify danger and avoid tragedy.

And domestic violence is not just punches and kicks, the following four forms are domestic violence:

(Image from @People's Daily)

On March 1, 2016, the Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China was officially implemented, and the law clearly stipulates that physical violence, psychological violence, sexual violence, and economic control are all domestic violence! It is illegal, when suffering domestic violence, you can apply to the local court for a personal safety protection order, and when it is dangerous, you must pick up the law to protect yourself.

In the face of domestic violence, in addition to resolutely leaving, you must also do the following to protect yourself:

(1) Protect yourself and get out of danger in time. In the event of a conflict, do not provoke the other party, protect key parts such as the head, chest, and abdomen, and maneuver appropriately when necessary until you are out of danger.

(2) Examination of injuries and collection of evidence. Seek medical attention in a timely manner, go to the domestic violence firm center for medical treatment, audio recordings, videos, violence photos, medical records and other evidence should be preserved, and every scar, every threat, and every insult will become evidence in court.

(3) Call the police in time. Keep police records, require the police to dispatch, and apply to the local people's court for a personal safety protection order, without litigation fees or guarantees.

(4) Inform the neighborhood committee of the domestic violence. Don't be misled by the idea that "family ugliness must not be exposed", remember! Domestic violence is illegal.

(5) Call the 12338 Women's Rights Defense Hotline. Zero tolerance for domestic violence is not just a slogan, if you are experiencing or witnessing domestic violence, you can call 110 to the police, or you can call the All-China Women's Federation Women's Rights Defense Hotline 12338.

(6) Protect personal privacy information after getting out. After a successful divorce, if necessary, personal contact information, current address, family privacy, etc. should be protected, and the whereabouts should not be exposed.

Finally, I want to say to all girls: No matter how passionate the feelings were, no matter how young the children were, no matter how much you wanted to maintain a complete family, for domestic violence, you can only say extremely firmly: No!

Everything about the two is a family affair, but exclusive violence is not, and domestic violence is not a family affair.

When you find yourself in a "fire pit", you must know how to stop the loss in time.

At all times, please cherish and protect yourself!

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