I love you! Love is getting harder, but there are still people who need love
A while ago I read "Cold Intimacy" by French sociologist Eva Yiloth, and many of the points in the book answered my doubts about the fact that there are fewer and fewer good romance movies now. In fact, not only are there fewer romance movies in movies, but people don't bother to talk about love now. Dying is more like a joke, if you talk about love, you won't get praise or mockery.
The movie "I Love You! The name is clearly to bring love to the bright side. It was originally taken from an old song by Xu Guanjie - yes, the old song was so brave back then, bright and spicy expression, three simple and direct words. But in today's social environment, even the protagonist played by Ni Dahong has to complain about it first, "meat hemp". Otherwise, the surprise and embarrassment of meeting love again cannot be resolved - although people do not admit that they need love, who will refuse the sweetness of real and wonderful encounters and heart-pounding hearts in the middle of the night?
"I Love You!" which focuses on the love of the elderly! , forge a new path, talk about love and dance again. The four leading actors, Ni Dahong, Hui Yinghong, Leung Jiahui, and Ye Tong, are all pale and gray-haired. The promotional video says "251", which means that all four people are over 60 years old. Plus the old age makeup painting, wrinkles, spots, skinny, various diseases... All this is the case, let's still talk about love seriously.
I love you! There are three love stories. Three pairs of old people, three kinds of sunset love.
The encounter between Ni Dahong and Hui Yinghong is the sweetest and youngest, and it is the "beginning and turn" in our common romance films. From "not fighting and not acquaintance" to gradually understanding, emotional, breaking up, and getting back together, the entire main line drives the development of the story, and also gives birth to observation and thinking about the lives and emotions of the people around them from their encounter and acquaintance. One main line leads to two sub-lines: the unswerving love of Leung Ka Fai and Ye Tong, and the love of Cantonese opera celebrities and childhood sweethearts who regret their lives.
If we are very familiar with the love story of the two protagonists Ni Dahong and Hui Yinghong, but they put on old age makeup, the audience is still easy to perceive the beauty of encountering love and the sadness of being misunderstood and about to part, then the two side lines in the movie, the story of the other two sunset couples, are paranoid and heavy in comparison, and it is difficult to understand in today's social environment.
In Eva Iroth's book Cold Intimacies, she has this insight into the current socio-emotional relationships: "The Internet has packaged itself into a commodity... The internet has turned people's encounters into a set of choices that are more or less influenced by fixed preferences. It makes the process of seeking a mate a matter of efficiency. ”
It is not difficult to understand that today we usually choose love for reasons of speed and utility. Sharing your daily life in WeChat moments and various social networking sites, and also seeing the daily life of others, words and pictures constitute our basic observation of people. In fact, the real communication and interaction between people is less, and the choice of love is more based on pictures, words and other symbol codes, which reflect people's taste, class and preferences, and people quickly know strangers from the Internet, and there is no essential difference from finding goods on shopping websites, choosing colors and sizes.
Yiloth makes such a sharp point, in contrast, "I love you! The unswerving love between Leung Ka Fai and Ye Tong is rare, and the story of Cantonese opera stars and childhood sweethearts is unique in the world. Not only do they not pay attention to utility, on the contrary, in the modern conception of people, their love is a waste of life. But what love is and why people need love, no one will pursue it.
In the movie I love you! At the beginning, the protagonist played by Ni Dahong is often a warning, bored pressing the switch late at night. He spends his days secretly drinking alone, and a monitor is installed in the house, which his daughter uses to control his lifestyle habits so that his pre-existing illness does not become worse.
It seems to be an old man with both children, stable retirement, reasonable economic conditions, picking up and dropping off grandchildren every day, and can also maintain close communication with his granddaughter. But there is a lack of a corner of the old man's state, he has no partner, no one to talk to. In front of the human-shaped advertising sign erected at the head of the bed, the daughter quickly hid it as soon as she came - people at this age are ashamed to admit that they need friendship and love. After spending a day in the park, school, and his original unit, he ended up lying at the end of his lonely bed, with no one understanding.
Li Huiru, played by Hui Yinghong, also fills her emotional needs with busyness. Caring for an equally lone landlord spends the day picking up waste. She came to the city without relatives, and the motivation left behind was to return the kindness to the famous Dan (landlord) of Cantonese opera. Emotion, in fact, is the only line that ties her here.
In contrast, Leung Ka Fai and Ye Tong, a couple, seem to be loving enough, but when the two of them are put into a larger secular environment, it turns out that they have children, and their children are so successful but so indifferent. A large family of people finally got together, each playing with their mobile phones, receiving and receiving calls, and absentmindedly eating and looking at each other. Although the old couple has many families, the family brings them a heavier sense of loneliness, as if raising a monster without emotions.
The modern socio-emotional relationship that Iloth observed in "Cold Intimacies", in the film "I Love You! is an expression of reality. Not only did love become less important, but kinship also became alienated and indifferent with the development of machine tools. Ni Dahong's daughter pretends to be involved in his life with surveillance, which is no different from a big factory owner who uses high-tech clock-ins to control employee KPIs. As for the lawyer who got his father and friends to sign a drinking exemption, it highlights the ruthlessness of modern society, where people focus only on efficiency and profit, and the cost of emotion can be saved because it does not seem to bring wealth or any other use.
Tool efficiency pushes real people to the extreme of indifference, and on the other hand, it brings the elderly who were accustomed to family, colleagues, and neighborhood to the brink of loneliness. They don't know if they can't keep up with the changes in social perceptions, and are ashamed to acknowledge the need for multidimensional emotional connections in the old days. Ni Dahong endures the loneliness before going to bed while busy learning Internet buzzwords, he actually wants to participate in the lives of the people around him, and use these new things to connect and communicate with them.
Apparently the old man is in vain. Just like the toys made by Leung Ka Fai with his heart, after a meal, the family scattered like birds and beasts, leaving those objects that were placed with their hearts and placing them in the mess of cups and plates seemed even more lonely.
In such a social ecology, even the closest children around them cannot understand the physical pain and psychological hollowness of the elderly, let alone expect to find close companions in the big city, whether it is an old friend who deserves a drink or two, or a partner who understands you, it has become precious.
Help your grandson play games to the top, it's better to quarrel with the strange Hui Yinghong on the street. Ni Dahong, the old man, collided with a little spark of intense emotion, and the gun went off, which was much better than everyone walking indifferently like a machine.
So this spark rubbed the impetus of his life. Bright, every day is new, there are expectations, there are losses, but it is better than a person to prevent monitoring and drinking alcohol. Even if you lose gas money to help people pick up waste, you can feel alive every day.
People's needs in love are not only understanding and companionship, but also a motivation to feel that they have abundant energy in the world, which can help those around them to block the wind and rain, and can also laugh with each other. When a person cannot extricate himself from the pain, the empathy of the people around him is the greatest analgesic. This is not the love that can be exchanged for the rationality of the tools of the Internet, nor the healing and security that video surveillance can understand.
Leung Ka Fai and Ye Tong, two old drama bones, a match made in heaven performed the unswerving loyalty of a couple in distress. Their love is more about grace and righteousness, it is the promise of hand in hand in the rivers and lakes, you hurt me, you laugh and I laugh, this life is the same bitterness. The prerequisite for such love is a network of extremely cold human feelings. Children are not worth relying on, and society is less likely to give extra sympathy. Only by relying on one's own faith and love, believing in the responsibility of living in the world, it is also the release of the energy of life, making people feel blazingly alive.
In the two side lines of love view, Ni Dahong and Hui Yinghong's relatively relaxed love has found a foothold. Compared to the scarred life, they need this moment, immediate love. Although it may seem contrary to reality, the reality is precisely the loneliness and emptiness that they are willing to put up with. Instead of walking through life lonely and ununderstood, you can grasp the resonance and companionship in this moment. Joy and joy say the three words "I love you" shame than spend the rest of your life in regret.
The movie eventually came to a happy and peaceful ending. But this joyful ending is based on a long bitterness in the middle. If the love of the elderly is different from that of the young, the biggest difference is that they must talk about death when they talk about love. When people face death, they often have no choice. Just this short road, it is more courageous, firm and persistent.
When I walked out of the movie theater with red eyes, the wind blowing into the summer night, I still felt a little relieved. Fictional characters experience pain on the screen, how many old people endure loneliness in reality? Don't dare to think, don't dare to ask. I just want to greet the people closest to me and talk about their pride and sweetness, which is within my ability.