Author: Calm Fox
Figure: Network
May you find in my words the plain years, the deep affection! Thanks for your attention!
Opening remarks:
Life is a mixture of bitter pleasures.
People are alive, everyone is going through ups and downs, they are working hard to break through ups and downs, and they are accumulating love and kindness.
Life, like the circulation of the four seasons of the year, will be brilliant and will also wither; There will be liveliness, there will be loneliness, years and years, let you experience the "wonder" of time and tranquility.
After a thousand sails are read, they will eventually be dull;
Human warmth is calm after all.
Silence is the most elegant practice in human nature.
The higher the level of women, the more they will use "silence" to fight against sorrow and joy, bitter and sweet.
This energy, like the "deep affection" in love, is timeless and powerful, better than a thousand words.
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In the face of "people who have truly loved", silence will be used to witness character
It is said that breaking up sees character.
How a person talks about an ex is probably the truest "Buddha-figure" in her heart.
Remember, I saw a story.
On campus, there was a man and a woman who were originally in love, but after graduation, rumors spread that a man split his legs and fell in love with someone else.
A few years later, both men had their own families.
Someone asked the woman: Why did you two divide?
The woman replied with only one sentence: he is a good man, but we are not suitable.
Love, it seems to be a matter of two people, in fact, it is intricate, it is easy to casually gossip a sentence, and it has become a drama of "one party is let down, the other party is split".
Two people who fell in love with each other finally went to the end of breaking up, and the reasons for this are only known to them.
However, from a sentence, you can see that the woman's affirmation of the past and the promise of living up to Shaohua. True love, do not need passers-by to eat salty turnips to worry about it, nosy.
There are also people who lack the affirmation of past love.
For example, in life, we will always see some men and women after breaking up, accusing each other, and even eager to make all kinds of privacy public, so that each other is deeply caught in the storm of public opinion.
Such an "operation", in addition to exposing poor character, is to become a laughing stock of others, and to forget how children will view their parents' entanglements when they grow up and understand.
Life is a sea and a sea, love each other for a short time, if you can be together, cherish each other; If there is no chance, each of them is well and blesses each other.
The higher the level of a woman, the more she can be stable and silent, will not be entangled in the past, look forward, be responsible for others, and be relieved of herself.
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In the face of gossip, "silence" will be used to deal with anger
There will always be some tragedies in the hot search: gossip, deliberate slander, abuse rumors, bullying threats and so on.
Some people, because of this, have gone to the extremes of life.
In this life, you don't expect everyone to understand you, you don't have to explain to others, don't be the person who "put aside your stomach and verify that you have eaten a few bowls of cool powder".
It's like the classic saying: those who understand you don't need your explanation; People who don't understand you, why should you reason?
In the big world, we will meet all kinds of people, there will always be some people who suddenly appear and point fingers at you, and there will always be people who cut words at you, take words out of context, look at pictures and talk, and make up many short stories for you...
But, believe me, you are just their passerby, and they will do this just because they are too idle, too bored, too anxious to live, and too eager to vent their inner anger.
The world, a lot of the time, can be a little ridiculous.
Those who are uneducated will spread their gossip to the entrance of the village; A little cultured, will write small essays, one after another, all kinds of cheeky.
Therefore, do not demand their understanding, do not meet them in general, be yourself, have a clear conscience, and do not conversely, also be the one who spreads gossip.
Everyone is in a busy city, and the more those who know how to seek inner peace, the more they will maintain their inner calm.
They will cherish a pure land, be good to themselves, live well, live with their hearts, maintain sincerity to the future, and live a height that is difficult for others to reach.
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In the face of "pushing others and others", they will protect themselves with silence
Wang Xiaobo once said:
"All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence."
Mr. Yang Di also once said:
"Your problem is that you read too few books and think too much."
Chinese, there is a habit called pushing oneself and others.
That is to say, when many people do things, they will not know how to think differently and have no empathy, but will always impose their ideas on others.
It's like, having a baby.
There are always people who have been married for many years, and if they do not have children, there will be well-wishers who come to remind them: why don't you want children, and if you don't want to be older, it will be difficult to give birth.
For example, a woman has a boyfriend.
There will always be "girlfriends" to remind: men have to be on guard, you have to work out one, two, three for him, you don't believe what he says, you need ... How about I help you test him?"
For example, post a circle of friends.
There will always be people behind their backs: this must be a fake bag, this must be climbing who is who, you know to show off wealth, show affection, what is there to show...
For example, work is a year-round business trip.
There will always be someone to point out: so hard, busy from morning to night every day, and not making money, what is the picture?
In short, if he has a bad life, others must also be "bad"; What his life will be like, he will imagine you as "what it will be"; He will use all his knowledge and experience to "push himself and others" to you.
Therefore, keeping silent appropriately is a kind of response, and it is also a good "sense of boundary" with others.
We allow everyone to have their own point of view, their own way of living, and the world they know. Your silence is the answer, a high cognition, and a protection for yourself.
After all, many times, these "so-called differences" are just that someone can't control his curiosity and can't control association.
The higher the level of women, the more they will do their own thing, stay away from noise, and exude deep feelings in their souls.
Witness with action: tranquility is the only way to go far.
Life is short, and those who can live "mountains and deep seas" will always walk on the road of improving themselves and doing their best.
Let the soul have dependence, let the spirit have precipitation, and let life have a future.
Silence is "golden".
Unfortunately, many people are difficult to do at the moment.
We can't ask others, but we can be silent wise people, so that this short life will be more valuable and meaningful.
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