01
Come home at night and play with toys with your daughter.
After playing for a while, my daughter said: It's not fun, it's too boring.
I was stunned for a moment, how could it be, it hasn't been long since I bought this toy.
Think about when I was a child, there were no toys, and there was a toy that could really be played until it rotted.
Today's children, there are too many toys, but they lose their freshness, and they can't play for a long time, they feel bad and bored.
Maybe the children know in their hearts: Mom and Dad will soon buy new toys anyway.
If you think about it, maybe we turn our debts to our children into toys, but what children need is actually the company of their parents.
So, even with a lot of toys, children will still get bored.
02
Children will be bored, and so will adults.
What do we do on boring days?
In the elevator, between waiting for the train, during the break, many people will hold up their mobile phones and use videos and TV series to pass the boring days.
But has our days become a little "not boring"?
It doesn't seem to be. After swiping the video, I felt that my heart was still empty, and I could only continue to rush into the arms of my mobile phone.
We are all afraid of boredom, so we dare not let ourselves stop, so we try to fill the "boring" time.
However, the boring "medicine" is not actually outside, but in our hearts.
Recently, I read Mr. Xiao Fuxing's "My Funny in Boring Days", and this feeling was deepened.
Mr. Xiao Fuxing is a famous Chinese writer, graduated from the Central Academy of Drama, and served as the deputy editor-in-chief of "Selected Novels" and the deputy editor-in-chief of "People's Literature" magazine, and his works are mostly novels and essays.
We often say that "reading ten thousand books and traveling thousands of miles", reading other people's works, is equivalent to seeing the world with one more pair of eyes.
And when this person is a famous writer, we can better understand the delicacy and beauty of it.
Xiao Fuxing's "My Funny in Boring Days" is a collection of essays, not about earth-shattering events, on the contrary, many of the things recorded in the book are ordinary and trivial. But in these little things, I realized a lot of the main principles of life.
03
If you think deeply, you will really find many good things about life.
(1) Learn to be grateful
In many books in the field of body, mind and soul, "gratitude" and its various benefits are mentioned.
And seeing the word "gratitude" in Mr. Xiao Fuxing's book can't help but make people's eyes shine.
Many people's unhappiness now is actually due to the lack of "gratitude".
Take the good of others for granted, feel that your life is extremely bleak, the whole world owes it to yourself, and you have made yourself a "victim" alive.
But in fact, there are many places to be grateful for in our lives, and when we look at our lives with a grateful heart, we can understand the beauty of life in a chicken feather.
For example, because of the death of his mother and the fact that his father continued to do so, the writer Teacher Sun Li comforted him that his father seemed to be for himself, but in fact, he was also taking care of several children.
At that moment, the image of "father" became taller, and it also made us understand the gratitude of "comparing our hearts to our hearts".
(2) Look down on the substance
The book mentions the story of changing his big house for a small house under the Temple of Heaven wall, which is very moving.
In the modern society where people are pursuing houses, cars, and tickets, "big for small" will undoubtedly be considered "stupid" and "loss" by many people.
But as Maugham says in The Moon and Sixpence: Everyone looked down for sixpence, and only he looked up and saw the moon. What about the joy of knowing fish?
Put material life first, and when material requirements cannot be met, it is inevitable that you will be lost and sad.
And when we put our spiritual life first, we will never be disappointed.
Because matter is external, and the spiritual world belongs to oneself.
(3) Art is the spice of life
In the book, Mr. Xiao talked about his experience of reading books and listening to music, which also invisibly made us influenced by art.
According to the current words, these are book reviews, music reviews, especially for music reviews, for excellent music masters, such as Beethoven, Bach, etc., if there is no certain artistic accomplishment, I am afraid it is difficult to comment.
For ordinary people, maybe we won't like these works of art, but Mr. Xiao's words finally let us appreciate that art can be so magnificent and colorful, even if there is no face-to-face, artists can still express their feelings through words and notes.
This is what makes art special and what makes art admirable.
It turns out that I don't understand why some people like to go to concerts and some people like to watch art exhibitions.
Later I realized that maybe these art forms can't directly solve the problems we encounter, but at least when we are frustrated, they make us realize that there are so many beautiful things in this world.
04
He is the stone of the mountain, and he can attack the jade.
Reading other people's works may solve our problems by the way. Everything is done unintentionally, but it goes with the flow.
If you also feel "bored" about your current life, you may wish to read Mr. Xiao Fuxing's book "My Fun in Boring Days".
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